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Re bolded, it's not about being smart or not, I don't think it has anything to do with rationality. It just doesn't leave people with many options for responses, know what I mean? I understand the intention and why it happens, but the effect of this sort of thing on other people is that it makes them feel awkward and…

Even then, they're just not strong enough at certain latitudes, in winter.

I hadn't heard of Vit D deficiency before I experienced it, as constant (& severe) fatigue. Like I'd get home and just drop as soon as I got through the door. My regular doc didn't think to check it; a walk-in doc (seen for something else!) thought to do it and said I was at sub 20 (not sure which measurement - he was…

Yeah, I know, for some people it's a way of coping with anxiety about judgement, it can be reflexively defensive in a thoughtless, "light" kind of way, like a tic, doesn't have to be pointed. And sure, that's understandable. In that case, it's just awkward, though, almost always, because - please note now that I'm not…

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+1 I'd also like some food, but am too tired to make or get some. Could do a PBJ, but ew, not when you're hungry for a meal. Toast maybe

Stovetop rice casserole: Cook rice in chicken bouillon over sauteed onions, red sweet peppers, and garlic. (If you have a lot of calories for the day, you can add a bit of sausage if you have some.) 5 minutes before it's done, toss in the torn bits of chicken to warm up as the rice cooks. Or: with zucchini and garlic, over…

Of course people say dumb things, and that's actually exactly how I'd respond IRL. This post just struck me as highlighting a particular kind of crappy dynamic that goes beyond some people saying dumb things on occasion. LIke your (2) is more self-deprecation and self-abasement. That's the expected response & the one…

No, you were right.

It's either that or skinny shaming, take your pick, and skinny shaming has also got to come from something in that ballpark. There's no other way to make sense of that comment. I trust OP more or less correctly read the tone and nonverbals, since she was there. Have you never heard this kind of thing from anyone? Here it's…

Oh, ok, not interested, up to you. Yeah, she said something dumb. You can - I guess? - choose to *not* interact with your coworker, which would be strange, or you can ignore it and let them continue (which is what I usually do), or you can call their attention to their unthinking self-hatred and let them know it's not…

No I'm just sick of hearing women put themselves down. It's a crappy way to talk to anyone and it's a crappy way to be. http://gawker.com/amy-schumer-can-take-a-compliment-508230146 The video is no longer available anywhere, it's old. Or it's not available in my country, boo.

You know what, next time she says something like that, just ask her - "Why would you say that?" Make her say it out loud. Then, she has to either go on about herself - in which case you should say "You know, it sucks that you talk about yourself that way. I don't know if you're aware, but it's uncomfortable to hear." She…

Oh! Ok, I don't know, you look a bit like a volleyball player or maybe a swimmer. Healthy!

Argggh she was using you to put herself down and maybe stick a little knife in while she did that. Too many women think self-deprecation counts as conversation and/or needs to be heard by anyone. Everyone should just stop it.

Doesn't matter, there is maybe a handful (maybe) of cultures where moms and aunties and grandmas aren't going to take food refusal personally and make at least a little stink about it.

You've got comparatively narrow hips vs shoulders, probably apple or rectangle or something would be my guess

I gathered, was just in slight shock. So extreme!

Yeah, that's not health-related, just saying fasting's not necessarily the worst thing in the world.

I think a 60 day juice fast (is that what someone did???) is kind of out there and probably not great, but I know I've read stuff here and there about occasional fasting somehow promoting longevity (heads up, haven't looked much into this! but e.g. https://news.usc.edu/82959/diet-that-mimics-fasting-appears-to-slow-aging/…

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Both. Accept your basic shape, because trying to completely change it is a fool's game, for a pear. You basically can't. Trying to do it by weight loss alone is impossible, you wind up going too skinny up top. You can strength train to create a little more volume in your shoulders and arms, to get a more "X" kind of shape.…

If you eat too much chocolate and you like raisins, I think that's a great idea. I can see the flavour connection. Dates, prunes, and figs are sort of in a similar taste family to me, too (although watch out for too many prunes! Dangerous stuff!) And coffee. But have some chocolate now and then though, it's great for iron,…

I had a bad ankle injury once, and I tried to do mat workouts, even tried to get creative by leaning my calves or thighs on a swiss ball for some movements - it was very tricky finding positions and ways to leverage my weight to not put pressure on that ankle. I know you're frustrated, but just let it heal and do those…

Definitely! I used to have them for breakfast in high school and occasionally still do - ~300-350 cals for one, and keeps you going for ages, with a coffee.

I think @lalainap19 was right when she talked about listening to your body. Those signals can easily get overwhelmed or confused or just not heard when we're following a strict program, feeling pressured by a class format or instructional or coaching style, or getting too hung up on # of reps, time, even music, when we let…

Ah, I see. Don't beat yourself up, a lot of us have pushed ourselves farther than our bodies could take. Cost of being fired up! And, I guess, of the marketing of programs that might be ok for fit 20 y/os, but maybe not for a LOT OF OTHER PEOPLE. I've had to learn different version of this lesson multiple times :/ We don't…

Be firm, keep being firm, and they'll get used to it over time. I mean, accept what they serve, but insist on a tiny piece (e.g. a "sliver" of cake. Or refuse desserts if you want, but not the main or appetizers.)Eventually, as a group, they'll decide you're a bit strange and relent a bit, as your reputation for being a…

My worst was a pic for me, too. But that wasn't what motivated the weight loss; the first time it was a change of scene (moving). I guess it was a kind of change of scene the second time, too (breakup). Both were positive moments.

I don't know if it's even possible to get the RDA of 1000 mg calcium (for women and men under 50, women over that need 1200) through food sources, on e.g. a 1600 calorie limit, if you're also aiming to get your other macros and micros. Because you can get 100-300 mg from a serving each of most of the good food sources (1/2…