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Yeah agree with that. The one possible negative I see is when someone posts about having trouble with compliance, and - they happen to have some of those negative associations described above - which people might attach to that phrase for lots of reasons, e.g. having had negative experiences with teachers or parents who…

Very well said, better than I could do - glad you answered :)

Woot @kommodevaran! I love "skillpower"!

like @kshama2001 & @jgnatca said - breaking down the "baby steps" that make "self-control" more achievable, vs. looking at it like some kind of inborn character trait.

"Planning " is a word & framework I prefer. For me the idea of "self-control" is loaded with a whack of moral baggage & judgement I personally find unhelpful. Some people do find it helpful & empowering, they should use that idea. But they shouldn't impose it on others if it's not helpful for them

instead of looking at "willpower" as a static thing, a mark of character & virtue, seeing it as a collection of learnable behaviours that anyone can access. see @jgnatca 's post

"Self-control" is easier for some people than others for a HOST of very individual biological and psychological and environmental reasons. Have a problem with blood sugar, PCOS, thyroid, whatever? It's going to be different for you, and it's only by learning different practical strategies that "self-control" is going to be…

Agree completely

I don't think so, I think the 3rd option is recognizing reasons for overeating in the past and planning to prevent that happening in future. I don't think of it in terms of "self-control" at all. Or maybe, in the sense that with knowledge and experience, you can minimize vulnerability.

Same here, I find that idea super annoying and offensive. Calorie counting isn't a natural state, tons of reasons people gain that have nothing to do with them being "weak". Eating without thinking and without knowledge (of nutrition & practical coping techniques) is enough 99% of the time in our society. Yes to bolded, it…

I'll def do that next time, thanks! :)

AND if i'm going to freeze some of it, maybe leave off the sauce?

+1

Ha, I did that the other day and had a moment of awareness that I hadn't done it freely (according JUST to taste and feel) in a while, and it felt really good :) My experience was that once I was well into maintenance, I was able to not have to count. It did mean limiting McDonald's etc. Not completely, though. (I'm not…

If you "fell off the wagon" because you needed more brainpower and time to study for exams, and to not have to think about being hungry so you could do well, that was a *smart* decision. One week (and another at the end of the term, it's coming, just get ready for it) is not going to derail your progress. I know it feels…

We should start a petition

I've only done rough calculations but yeah I think it is actually cheaper to throw stuff out than it is to get the small sizes of most of the things available, yeah.

I don't often batch cook, no, because I have issues with my hands that make handling heavy pots a pain in the , well hands. Sometimes I do, but not often. Also there are seniors out there in the same boat, are they supposed to get into intensive cooking and cleaning? And yeah, storage, not everyone has an extra freezer in…

That's an amazing change in three months! Great work!

Nah, I like wearing comfy old t-shirts with leggings or yoga pants. I'm also cheap. I hate spending on pyjamas, too.

a little tmi re your date but LOL and sorry and lol again, haha the big scary pandemic is one thing, but there are a lot of more ordinary, still dangerous complicating infections that older people and bebes don't have to get when they go to hospitals, that they do often get, that could be prevented by routine handwashing…

Florence Nightingale would be mad at those doctors, too

That sounds shady to me. I think I'd run the allergy stuff by a doctor and otherwise just eat the food you know, from your body telling you, that you're ok with. If you feel tingling or weirdness, stop eating that food and see someone. Cut out the dairy if it bugs you. Their samples might not have been perfect. Or even…

I don't know what labcorp is - is that a place that just does tests? Have all those foods presented an actual problem for you? Did you talk to a doctor to review the results? I don't know much about allergies, other than, they can come real quick and leave just as fast. My brother was fine with bananas one week (and most…

I think you've settled at where you're going to be, given your lifestyle and fitness preferences. If you like bodyweight workouts, and don't want to lift, and don't want to lose more weight, you won't make more muscle or reduce body fat. That's fine. You're healthy. You don't have to look like a fitspo meme. Although maybe…

* they're used to seeing you look a certain way, and the change is weird for them. * most people suck at trying to lose weight, because of all the crap out there. when they see someone succeed, they think it's magic/an illness/something's wrong. * some are insecure about their own weight.

Standard blood tests Don't cover ED or related disorders, you need a referral to a geneticist. Most GPs are out of their depth with MSK stuff, but you often need them for the referrals. Is the problem.

Particularly when invalidation is such a huge part of this whole experience

@rileyes , yes he does sound like he's suffering from secondary anxiety. Psych meds might help him with that. It will go altogether better, I suspect, if he 1) finds a physiotherapist or other kind of practitioner who can treat his existing injuries, if that's the right approach, and/ or set his expectations for healing…

I appreciate a pragmatic approach but what's being missed here is that possible medical causes for the widespread nature of OPs (documented) injuries haven't been excluded. And the uncertainty around that.