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Re: WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2025
Machka,
I will read the manuals etc and maybe drive in an empty parking lot so at least I know what do to. My knee jerk reaction if anything happened to husband is to just sell the car, but that's not reality. I need to be more brave about it all.
Rebecca Whidbey Wa
Re: WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2025
Heather - great article. Keep finding joy. Focus on gratitude. I try to find something to be curious about, even if it's the strange car that was in my neighbor's driveway, lol. Sorry about the pain and loo visits, hope it clears up quickly.
Pip - Luna looks perfect. Crossing fingers for you and Kirby. When will you know? Maybe they have to come to your house for an evaluation? Some places are getting strict and that's a good idea. I can't believe Yogi has been gone a month already. I know what you mean about garbage disposal. They are so good at training us.😁
Allie - sounds like you're having a good time catching up with everyone. Nice that you're able to stay a bit longer.
Annie- could you add or change the beneficiary for your 401K? Even list a charity. Can probably be done online. After DH died, I had to change all my beneficiaries. At my bank, for a local charity, I had to get their EIN number if I remember right. Great job on the rower. Nice to have your sis there for a while and take some of the caregiver pressure off you. It will be interesting to see if she notices any big change in dad since she was there last. Sometimes when we're around folks all the time we don't realize these things.
Tracey - I can just see you waving your arms and yelling at those magpies, that's something I'd do too. Great photo of you and Rodger - do you look at it and think - who are those kids? 😁
I think those regulations for seniors driving is a good idea. I just checked Washington DOL website which says if a person is over 70 they need to renew in person and pass a vision test. I wonder if these are new rules - I renewed online several years ago when I was over 70. Maybe it's because I renewed in person before when I got the enhanced license? Mine doesn't expire until 2030 and I could have significant vision or physical and mental changes by then. Good grief.
Barbie - years ago I'd love to stop at yard sales and buy things whether I needed them or not. 😁 I'm thinking now I might stop and drop off a few items when no one is looking, lol. I have stickers so can pre-price them CHEAP so they move.
Lisa - I would also love to hear from Vicki and Meg and Kay - wondering how her mom is doing with the pup.
Got my 1/2 mile street walk done and blueberries picked (at another neighbor's) by 6 am. For as much as I often feel overwhelmed by this place, I can't imagine living anywhere else right now. So much wildlife activity - fawns were back yesterday. I put bird seed on the deck rail and a fluffy fledgling sparrow showed up. Its mommy landed beside it and continued to pick up seed and feed it while it hunkered down, just as she did when it was a wee baby. And the absolute best neighbors in the world. I can see why John, 92, who lives next door, doesn't want to leave until he's hauled out feet first in the "meat wagon" as he calls it.😁
Reminder - tomorrow is Weekly Check-in for those participating.
Make it a fabulous day!
Lanette 😎
SW WA State
Re: WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2025
Good morning my friends!
Margaret Yay for down three pounds! Excellent! That's tough to do within your strict diet.
Debbie families used to rely on paper to figure out the assets of a person who passed. But many accounts don't have paper anymore. My 401k has no paper trail and nobody else knows how to contact them or who my beneficiaries are. So if I die before my daughter resumes our relationship, that money will likely be abandoned. You can ask for a list of assets and life insurance and beneficiaries, or to talk to the executor. It's less intrusive and easier to answer if you have a specific question.
Lanette Yay for back to the gym! I row 15 mins with music. Yes I should have checked yard sales or FB Marketplace for a rower. I might have found a bargain on a better quality rower.
Tracey Yay for the raise! I worry about dementia too. But there's no real exact test for it. With all the new brain scan technology there is hope. They renewed my Dad's driver's license for eight years. Ridiculous.
Lisa my Dad still struggles with feeling useful.
Rebecca Yay for looser clothes and a beautiful car! I gave up on makeup and jewelry. Nobody cares what I wear.
Michele glad your a/c was fixed quickly!
Allie Yay for a good time in Tennessee!
Barbie good question! Why do I hang on to things?
Pip Luna sounds wonderful. Hope she is available. Glad to see you moving forward!
Heather hope you feel better!
Last night Dad made the same joke four times in ten minutes. He used to be the life of the party. So sad.
I ordered more books from Amazon. I can't decide whether I deserve the indulgence or it's an addiction. It's not hurting the budget but I now have six bookcases full of paperbacks. Hmm.
My sister arrives from Tennessee tomorrow. So I might be quiet for a week depending. I usually still have quiet mornings but there's more to get done.
May you all be happy, healthy, safe, and free!
Annie in Delaware
Re: WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2025
That auto engine shut off is common among recent cars. I first came across it in a rental vehicle a couple year ago. Ease off the brake to get the engine to start again.
To start, press the brake and hit the button … is that right?
It is a good idea to know how to drive. When my husband had his accident, I hadn't driven in a decade and had never driven our new (then) van. I was terrified of driving, but he can't drive anymore so I had to relearn.
Machka in Oz
Machka9
Re: WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2025
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we submitted an application to Labrador retreiver rescue of Fresno.
Luna – Yellow Female mix, 11 months, 65 lbs.
Meet Luna! 🌙
This beautiful 11-month-old yellow Labrador mix is the perfect blend of playful pup and loving companion. Her spirited yet loving nature makes her a great fit for families or individuals looking for a loyal friend. Weighing in at 65 lbs, Luna still has that fun puppy energy and is always up for a game of fetch or squeaky toy fun!
Luna is housetrained (she’ll let you know when she needs to go out with a bark at the door), crate trained, and does well on leash. She’s up to date on all her vaccinations, spayed, and ready to find the loving forever home she deserves.
Luna was found abandoned on the streets when she was just 4 months old. She’s clearly had a rough start, but her spirit and adaptability are truly inspiring. She shines through in everything she does. Luna gets along wonderfully with dogs of all sizes, is cat-friendly, and does great with children.
Luna is looking for a family who will help her thrive, continue her positive training and be committed to her for her life.
If you’re looking for a fun, affectionate, and well-rounded young dog to join your family
pipcd34
Re: WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2025
Hey, kids,
Tracey - Thanks for the compliment on the glasses. I keep getting shocked by them when I catch myself in the mirror. 😂 I asked Corey what he thought of them and he carefully explained to me that he sees them as functional items, not "beauty accoutrements." I told him a couple of women had said they looked "lovely," and his answer was "Women are weird."
Living with him is always a trip.
Barbie - Thank you, too, for that compliment, as well as everyone who's commented. I find neighborhood yard sales like that absolutely overwhelming.
Lanette - I am only now (five years after retiring) beginning to make baby steps toward believing that I don't have to be busy. If I'm not telling y'all what I'm doing, I'm telling Corey what I'm doing, or my sister on the phone, or my best friend, or my daughter. I'm trying VERY hard to STOP TRYING SO HARD, which is such an oxymoron that it's making my head hurt.
So, I won't tell y'all that he and I put in four hours of hard labor. Really I won't. But first I went and got the gas cans filled. Then I used the push mower until I ran out the battery, then I jumped on the big zero turn mower - did I mention that I got a battery gas can pump from Amazon and I love that thing? Stick a hose in the can, stick another hose in the gas tank of the mower, and press a button. I'm in love. No trying to throw heavy gas cans around.
Anyway, I got all the very thick, quite wet grass mowed in 2 and a half hours, and then handed the mower over to Corey, who had been trimming everything with the gas trimmer, and he even trimmed that massively long ditch along the front, which I really struggle with, as it's deep and terribly thick grass. He also ran the zero turn on the parts of the yard where I won't go because I flinch too much. While he was finishing up, I used the leaf blower to clean the grass off the bottom of the push mower, and then used it to clean off the carport. The leaf blower, that is, not the mower. 😜
Then we both took showers, ate lunch, and now… I'm relaxing. So is he.
He's better at it than I am.
Do love y'all…
Have a good rest of your weekend!
Lisa in AR
Just an aside - has anyone hear anything about Vickie in Nebraska? We heard a little from her when she first started her new job, and then radio silence. Hope all's OK. And Meg in Omaha, as well. Check in, y'all, if you see this. We worry about everyone, you know.
Love,
Lisa
Re: 🌞 Just Give Me One Month - July 2025 🎆
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SW: 196 in Feb 2024
UGW: 150
GW for 2025: 168
GW for July: 170
- July 1: 172.5
- 2: 172.5
- 3: 172
- 4: 172
- 5: 172.5
- 6: 172.5
- 7: 171 ⚡️
- 8: 171.5
- 10: 172
- 11: 172.5
- 12: 173
- 14; 174
- 15: 172
- 16: 172
- 17: 172.5
- 18: 173
- 19: 174.5
- 20: 175
- 21: 175
- 22: 174
Have been in a vicious cycle of poor sleep and stress and being too tired to exercise. Managed to break through a bit last night
Re: Gaining weight?
I'm going to oversimplify the arithmetic, just to give a more understandable example.
Let's pretend someone ate 1900 calories on average every single day for the whole six weeks, which is 42 days. Let's pretend that person gained 10 pounds over that time, though that seems unlikely to me if we were talking about you.
Calories eaten = 1900 calories per day times 42 days = 79,800 calories eaten
Calories in pounds gained = roughly 3500 calories per pound times 10 pounds = 35,000 calories gained (approximate)
How many calories burned daily on average?
Calories burned in total = 79,800 eaten minus 35,000 calories gained = 44,800 calories burned in total
Calories burned per day on average = 44,800 calories burned in total divided by 42 days = 1,067 calories burned per day on average
(That's why I think gaining 10 pounds is unlikely in your case. It's extremely unlikely that your calorie burn is actually as low as that. I'm just showing an example of the arithmetic with theoretical numbers, not using a crystal ball to predict your future.)
To be clear about details, let's reverse the scenario, and say that in the same time period, our example person lost 10 pounds instead of gaining ten pounds, which is also pretty unlikely. Again, just showing the arithmetic. Here's what's different:
Calories burned in total = 79,800 eaten plus 35,000 calories lost = 114,800 calories burned in total
Calories burned per day on average = 114,800 calories burned in total divided by 42 days = 2,733 calories burned per day on average
For our made-up example person, the "Calories burned per day on average" is what's usually called TDEE, or total daily energy expenditure, or weight-maintenance calories.
To get their new calorie goal, the person would need to subtract 500 calories per day for each pound per week they want to lose.
If our theoretical person wanted to lose half a pound a week, they'd do this arithmetic:
Calorie goal = Calories burned per day on average minus 250 calories desired to lose
So, that would be one of these two numbers:
In the gained-weight scenario, calorie goal = 1,067 calories burned per day minus 250 calories desired to lose = 817 calorie goal
In the lost-weight scenario, calorie goal = 2,733 calories burned per day minus 250 calories desired to lose = 2,483 calorie goal
I'm going to underscore it again: No normal-sized averagely healthy adult with a typical life should be needing to eat 817 calories per day to lose half a pound a week. If the result comes out to be something like that, high odds there's a problem in the food logging, or a serious medical problem in the picture that the person should be seeing their doctor about.
This is just an example of the arithmetic.
In real life, the best result would literally be to add up all the calories logged over the whole time period rather than assuming the person ate goal calories every day. It'd be equivalent so OK to use the average calories per week figure the MFP phone/tablet app calculates for each of the 6 weeks, multiply each week's daily average calories by 7 to get the total calories for that week, then add up all 6 weeks.
It's just a story problem, right? Many of us didn't like story problems back in grade school, but sadly adult life is just chock full of story problems. There are different variations of how to do the arithmetic in this scenario, the above is just one. It's important to recognize that no matter how one does the arithmetic, it's still just an estimate, but it's an estimate based on one's own personal logging history rather than based on a huge group of similar strangers' averages.
If you think about it, the arithmetic is similar to balancing a checking account: If a person earns more than they spend over 6 weeks, they end up with a net increase in their bank balance. That's like the gained body fat. Instead, if they spent more than they earned, they'd end up with a net decrease in their bank balance. That's like the lost body fat. It's just that the relevant numbers are calories, not dollars. (Also, dollars in the bank are precise, and calories are always estimated/approximate. 😆 But the concept is similar.)
I hope that makes sense. I think it's correct. (It's late. I'm tired. 😆) If you have questions, please ask.
AnnPT77
Re: Just Give Me 10 Days - Round 303
Female, 60.5", age 57
Currently Class 2 obese
FW 302: 186.7
SW303 186.2
7/20 186.2 - Kept to my calories and protien, sodium was high. Stress very high. Did some walking but in the wrong shoes so not as much as I could have done.
7/21 186.5 - MRI day. Stressed out. Did not eat my stress. Went a little over calories (120) becasue I couldn't sleep so I had a bowl of cereal.
7/22 186
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Re: What's Your Most Recent NSV
good for you and your sister! Hope yall can support one another to success!
I didn’t live with my folks, but worked with them for decades. Time at the office was probably more than living with them, and we were over at their house all the time.
Mom was morbidly obese and refused to get out of her chair. Dad was obese but lost weight through poor health. He didn’t move much, either.
No amount of begging, pleading, threatening moved them. I tried to get them to go on walks. I offered to cook and bring dinners to work every day for them to take home, so they wouldn’t stop for fast food. Nothing worked and they were hostile to the suggestions.
Just brace yourself and accept that it’s their lives to live, no matter how high your hopes are for them. You can’t pressure or cajole people into doing anything they aren’t already invested in.
Sincerest wishes they see you and your sister’s success and changed attitudes and have their lightbulb moments. 😘
and, don’t let them pull you off your own path. It happened to me. 🤷🏻♀️ Mom was very invested in keeping me fat, like her. A win for me was a failure for her. Moms can be very persuasive, both positively and negatively.
