Happiness on the homefront?

SyntonicGarden

So I've got an honest question to throw out there. What do you do to keep your relationship / marriage strong once they've come home, especially if they come back a little different than when they left.


Might not be full-blown PTSD with terrorizing nightmares or readjustment disorder. Might be something scaled back, but... different. How do you make / keep things as wonderful as they were before they deployed?


I'd love the feedback from those who've had partners/spouses deploy and come back slightly different.

I'd ESPECIALLY love feedback from spouses or partners of Veterans who might not have access to resources on base or other wives/partners to talk to.

I knew something was wrong and tried to seek help as early as I could, but it took the guy at the Veterans Center (Not the VA) nine... NINE months to call us back about couples counseling. By then, poor communication habits had become the norm and we completely lost who we were before he went out on his final trip out. We're both getting help individually now. It's not quite "roommate" bad, but it's definitely not "can NOT wait to get home from work!' good either. I try to find the positive every day, but some days are more difficult than others.

(PM is fine too. I just need some positive or creative input as to how to put some life back into things. The only people who understand the changes that come with deployments are you all...)

Thanks.