April 4th- journey to a healthier/happier me
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carimiller7391
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I seen this in the general message boards where a young woman is doing 100 days to the happiest her. I think I'm going to steal her idea. Starting today ( I am going to do 13 weeks to a happier/healthier me) 04/04/15 thru 07/04/15 I am going to work one week at a time on changing habits and making healthier living a focus and habit, so I do not have to rely on trying so hard, it will just come naturally to me. For the first week, I'm going to work on only eating what I have with me for breakfast/lunch. Even though our vending machines have healthy options, I'm going to stick to my bag only!!!! Also, I'm going to continue to weigh and measure every thing I eat...
Anyone wish to join me on this 13 week journey??
Anyone wish to join me on this 13 week journey??
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I'm already doing this, though not in such an organized fashion. However, I'm challenge free for this year, for the sake of my own sanity vs. my competitive nature...LOL. So I'm with you in spirit!0
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I'm not really considering this to be a challenge. I'm just picking one item (maybe 2) to work on each week straight so that I'm not trying to tackle a boat load of things and failing at all of them at once. Works better for me. LOL. I tend to multi-task like a champ for everyone but myself. When I try to do more then 1 or 2 things for myself.... Oops, I just screwed up. Not in such nice words either. LOL. So I am looking at the next 13 weeks as being a time to be kind to myself and concentrate on 13, maybe 19 things I need to accomplish. Like a head game I' playing with myself. 0 -
Interesting. My focus kind of shifts back and forth weekly, depending, but it's in kind of a cycle. I spent a lot (like 6 months!) of last year, getting my head on facing the same direction. It helps so much!0
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Oh Carly, I so agree with you. I see my therapist tonight and need to talk to her about keeping my head in the game. It is the hardest part of weight loss to me. Even with the weight loss RNY tool, it's easy to fall off the wagon. I've found this out.0
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That is so true. I maintain that this is all mental. If it was as simple as willpower, choices, and determination, no one would ever be fat! If we get our head the right way, the rest follows by default. So glad you're seeing the therapist. My advice comes from my own head (scary) and my MFP friends who are further along that I am! LOL0
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Oh Carly, being Bipolar, I've seen a therapist for 13 years now. I see her once per month.. We discuss everything. We started out about a horrible relationship I was in, worked thru some bad days and now basically I go rant for 45 minutes once a month about all the BS in my life. Like when my best friends didn't offer to do anything with me for my Birthday... or my niece who is just like her mother (GOD helps us all for this one)...I did get a self-esteem book from her a month ago, but didn't get it open in the last 30 days. Been busy working on "NOTHING". Total fail on that.
Some say I should have been a therapist/social worker but I have no patience for those in bad situations that put themselves there. (IE drug addicts who tried the drugs BC they thought it was cool or alcoholics or a number of other individuals)....I was a school peer counselor in college, found it to be trying. Not that I mind dishing out advice when I have "been there myself", but to listen to problems 40 hours a week. Couldn't do it.
Now, for me, I know I need to work on the head game and starting tonight we are going to tackle it one pathway at a time. I have got to mentally get to the center of my self-sabatage. (spelling is not my strong suit). I have this wonderful tool called "RNY" and haven't lost weight in almost a month. I know I hit a plateau but it's like I am almost relieved I stopped losing. WTF??? Why do I feel this way? Why would I go thru all this to self-sabatage?? I also need to get back into the habit of journaling my weight loss journey and how I feel. I have a feeling that after this evening with my therapist, I'll be journaling for awhile and a lot of emotions.
Now that I've ranted and cannot remember the reason I responded.... YIKES getting old sucks, I will stop ranting and be grateful for my tool, my MFP friends and my therapist.... Good evening everyone!!!!
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carimiller7391 wrote: »Oh Carly, being Bipolar, I've seen a therapist for 13 years now. I see her once per month.. We discuss everything. We started out about a horrible relationship I was in, worked thru some bad days and now basically I go rant for 45 minutes once a month about all the BS in my life. Like when my best friends didn't offer to do anything with me for my Birthday... or my niece who is just like her mother (GOD helps us all for this one)...I did get a self-esteem book from her a month ago, but didn't get it open in the last 30 days. Been busy working on "NOTHING". Total fail on that.
Some say I should have been a therapist/social worker but I have no patience for those in bad situations that put themselves there. (IE drug addicts who tried the drugs BC they thought it was cool or alcoholics or a number of other individuals)....I was a school peer counselor in college, found it to be trying. Not that I mind dishing out advice when I have "been there myself", but to listen to problems 40 hours a week. Couldn't do it.
Now, for me, I know I need to work on the head game and starting tonight we are going to tackle it one pathway at a time. I have got to mentally get to the center of my self-sabatage. (spelling is not my strong suit). I have this wonderful tool called "RNY" and haven't lost weight in almost a month. I know I hit a plateau but it's like I am almost relieved I stopped losing. WTF??? Why do I feel this way? Why would I go thru all this to self-sabatage?? I also need to get back into the habit of journaling my weight loss journey and how I feel. I have a feeling that after this evening with my therapist, I'll be journaling for awhile and a lot of emotions.
Now that I've ranted and cannot remember the reason I responded.... YIKES getting old sucks, I will stop ranting and be grateful for my tool, my MFP friends and my therapist.... Good evening everyone!!!!
Cari
Oh, honey, please don't worry!!!! We're all here for the mental aspects, too. Support - ain't nothing else like it.
As for self-sabotage, I was so there with you. Only since switching my way of eating (low carb high fat moderate protein) can I finally see that food compulsions compounding mental compulsions were controlling me. My food was controlling me. The freedom I've found in finally getting my body to realize it isn't in charge is amazing. No more crazy cravings. No more empty wrappers to Family Packages of junk and not remembering eating it all. No more food telling me when to eat or singing it's siren song to me. I would never have believed this possible.
Now don't get me wrong, I still have less than stellar choices sometimes, but I'm learning to hear the True hunger impulses again.
And goodness, that sounds like my former therapy sessions. I can't afford to go now at all, but that was it. Ranting, complaining about all the ways my life sucks, the horrible people, the works. It was like decompressing. I have found one friend who listens to my ranting now, and I listen to hers... I'm making a new friend who make fit this bill, too. It helps so much for someone just to listen to you and agree with you and support you!!!!
Yeah, I've considered going into therapy as a job, but I cannot stand people who won't even try to help themselves...so maybe I need to rethink that!!!
And yes, relief from success. It is terrifying. It means changes. And people noticing. And WAY more opportunity for failure... Success sucks. But so does failure. I'm still seeking balance here....
I have to sincerely say that from what I remember of the destruction that was my failed marriage, I had to get to a point where I actually liked myself before any of that ^^^^ mess could be addressed. And it wasn't easy. I was at my heaviest weight. Divorced after 16 years. Had a child that didn't like not being the center of the universe and a family who resented that I was no longer a doormat.... It took me about 4 years to start really liking myself and believing that I deserved anything...
I wonder if focusing on finding worth in yourself might help make the other things more achievable?
Hugs,
Carly, who has been there, done that, bought the movie rights, t-shirt, and bumper sticker!0 -
Oh Carly, darling... I adore you. movie rights, t-shirt, bumper sticker and all.
I agree, finding my self worth would most definitely help with everything else. I stole a self esteem book from my therapist.... Going to start working on it and the exercises in it tomorrow at work. I'd start today, but I am just drained mentally, physically and emotionally. (we buried my aunt today)...
I did get home and plan lunch and breakfast for tomorrow and made it up and it's in the fridge ready to go. One task down, time to decompress for the night.
I do hate that I have to use my therapy sessions for ranting about the perceived "injustices" in my life. I truly wish they were more about the future and how to get there, then my so-called friends and idiot niece. I did tell my therapist about the self-sabotage. She believes part of it may be medicine related as I reduced the amount of my anti-depressant after surgery. I'm back to my original dosage starting today. My doc and therapist both know that I will adjust dosages as needed and after surgery trying to get in 300 mg of one med alone (let alone the other meds and vitamins/minerals) during the day was just a chore. Now that I over reacted at work about something and punched my desk, I know I need to rethink dosage amounts.
I'm also going back to journaling starting today. I was very excited to see that the scale moved this morning. Down 1.5 lbs. for a total of 40.5. I still have a long way to go and will be very excited when there is a 2 as my starting number instead of a 3. I'm so close. I can taste it. The mind game alone of no longer being in the 3's will be huge.
Well off to journal. Have a great night.
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Oh, Cari, I have so much more that goes with that statement, depending on my enthusiasm level at that moment in time. LOL
Hugs on the loss of your aunt!!!! Losses like that deter even the strongest among us.
I'm glad to hear that your doctor and therapist are adjusting things - and that you're aware enough to self-adjust as well. That's a good sign.
And don't get too frustrated by your venting sessions. Right now, that is exactly what you need. As your needs change, so will your sessions.
Planning is such a empowering control mechanism for most folks. I hope it helps you!
And yup, journalling - definitely helps the sanity.
Ironically, I don't really remember the time when I switched from the 3's to the 2's. I remember it took me years to quite defaulting to writing my weight with a 3 first out of habit... I'm at 242.8 (13 of the last 19 days, rolling my eyes) pounds at the moment, and I cannot fathom getting that first number to a 1.... I wish you a smooth and steady path to achieving your 2! And for not yo-yoing over that line for days that will make you crazier! Been there, done that!
Hugs, good thoughts and energies, and sending mental writer's block removal....
Carly0
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