Self Sabotage Venting

lorilbuckner1

2 1/2 months out and 7oz away from my first goal of being under 200 lbs I find myself falling back into the old habit of justifying poor food choices. I was so excited about being so close to that first goal and yet this last week I've consistently made poor food coices resulting in too many carbs, not enough protein, and being over my 900 cal goal. I feel like crap and haven't exercised because I'm tired all the time from lack of protein and overload of carbs. Today I am UP one pound. I'm so irritated with myself. What I need is a good *kitten* kicking. Enough excuses.

garber6th

You know, most of us spent the years prior to surgery being unsuccessful, and now that we have a tool that can lead us to success and keep us there, well, it's unfamiliar territory when you think about it. It's good territory but it isn't where our old comfort zone/mindset was. In the past I would lose weight, and it was just a matter of time before it would start creeping back up again, WAY up. Part of me was almost expecting it to happen post surgery, just because of history. I guess what I am saying is, it takes a lot to change our thinking, our mindset, and our expectations. It takes trial and error sometimes too. You are going through a rough patch, but you don't need to stay there. Take it as a learning experience, don't beat yourself up over it, and keep at it! This is all new territory that you have to learn to navigate as you go, but you have done a great job so far and you will find your way!

badhair56

lorilbuckner1 wrote: »

2 1/2 months out and 7oz away from my first goal of being under 200 lbs I find myself falling back into the old habit of justifying poor food choices. I was so excited about being so close to that first goal and yet this last week I've consistently made poor food coices resulting in too many carbs, not enough protein, and being over my 900 cal goal. I feel like crap and haven't exercised because I'm tired all the time from lack of protein and overload of carbs. Today I am UP one pound. I'm so irritated with myself. What I need is a good *kitten* kicking. Enough excuses.

ok, so you know what you need to do in order to get back on track. sounds like you kicked yourself in the butt enough, so get back to what works for you. everyone will have a bad period and this was yours. we're here to help you help yourself, so vent all you want, but after you get it out of your system, do what you know will work. (sorry, but I'm a tough love kinda guy)

lorilbuckner1

Thanks guys. I do know what works and learned what doesn't! Better day today. Even better tomorrows..

Thaeda

garber6th wrote: »

I guess what I am saying is, it takes a lot to change our thinking, our mindset, and our expectations. It takes trial and error sometimes too. You are going through a rough patch, but you don't need to stay there. Take it as a learning experience, don't beat yourself up over it, and keep at it! This is all new territory that you have to learn to navigate as you go, but you have done a great job so far and you will find your way!

THIS^^^^^ and I want to add... I have never found "@ss kicking" to do anything except make me feel bad. You do not need shaming, or to be "guilted" into taking care of yourself. Compassion towards yourself can help. It is expected as you reach certain new milestones you could experience anxiety and make food choices that slow down your weight loss. You will get yourself on track when you are ready.

5BeautifulDays

It is so hard to avoid those old ways of eating. I've found it's easier if I make sure that the things I should eat are easier to get to than the things that aren't best for me. I've also found a handful of things that satisfy my desire for a treat without pushing my self-control past its limit.

rpyle111

In general, I was pretty good at just recording my weights and following the process, but when I approached 'significant' numbers, like lowest recorded weight since 1999 (320), lowest since adulthood (260) and goal, I found myself doing some self sabotage as I approached it. It was like I didn't want to be in uncharted waters. They became self-induced stalls, and went away when I went back to the program that I knew was working. You can do it as well.

Don't beat yourself up (like Thaeda sez, it doesn't do any good and can do harm), just follow what you know works and let the results happen. Look at your overall weight chart and see how most stalls disappear a month or so later and what was so emotionally disturbing becomes a blip! Make your next best choice and move forward toward success.

You can do it!

Rob

pawoodhull

We all self sabatoge at some point. Like Thaeda said, the kicking doesn't help. No guilt. You know what to do, how to use the tool. Get back to logging, hitting the protein and water goals, you will start to feel better and then you can add back in the exercise. You can do this.

JreedyJanelle

I think that having the support of this group really helps. If you face a challenge then post it and we can support you. You recognize your problem and that is the first step to correcting it. We are not perfect, and we are not judgmental. Once in a while you get bucked off your horse and you have to get right back on.
Just get back to your program and you will get below that 200 mark!

loriloftness

I know how you feel. Part of my problem this weekend was not having the right food at home since I was just coming back from vacation. I clearly see now that planning and having the right food in the house will help me avoid eating the unhealthy food. You will lose your 1 lb quickly and be back on track. Don't worry.

lorilbuckner1

Thanks for all the support. I love this group. I appreciate that beating myself up is self defeating, but Im a tough love kinda person so don't be too nice to me! Lol.