lost my motivation

theswan0

I done it i got to my goal weight but then stress happened i have 3 teens all with aspergers which inits self is quite stressful but then my daughter started passing blood yes euw but its stressed me out drs don't seem that worried but im mum im petrified as mums usually are and my son is waiting on a heart echo as his been getting chest pain and my 20yr old with autism is really struggling to get into work i could get the dr to sign him off but if i do that he will never become independent and all this is just getting to me i have no energy and im eating rubish again im not sleeping well i just don't know how to get back to it i did get down to 8st 9lb but im on the up at 9st 2lb now very cross at myself but i just feel exhausted and i eat to treat myself which i know is silly as it won't make me feel better in the long run any with any words of wisdom would be appreciated

chinsinsi

I am SO sorry - you are having a really tough time right now. Nothing breaks our heart and dominates our thinking more than when one of our children in crisis. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all better for you but instead I can remind you that you will not be satisfied down the line if you go all undisciplined on your eating and end up with too tight jeans. So far you have only added on 6lb - you can claw that back anytime and when your head is in the right space you will. Meanwhile, try and log your eating just to keep on track. You could increase your allowance to maintenance level (maintenance calories feel decadent after 1200), but make sure you work in a daily 'treat' whatever that looks like - food, audio book, bath. I always have my two squares of 90% chocolate every night - I can hold out when I know it's there. Obviously chocolate isn't the answer to all the world's problems but whatever - be gentle on yourself, so that you can be strong for your family. I really hope some of your issues resolve themselves.

AlecB62

Hi Mandy, sorry to hear life ain't good for you right now.Wow you've got a lot going there haven't you?
Just remember nothing stays bad forever, I'm sure it'll all get sorted and you'll soon be back on track. You've always come across as a real strong character so I reckon you can get on top of it all.