Tug of War
brisingr86
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Discussion topic: What are your strategies for juggling all of your commitments with respect to work, home, family, fitness, wedding, etc.?
WARNING: Rant/whining ahead.
So, feeling a bit overwhelmed this week and thought I'd ask how others deal with the constant tug of war between all your commitments/roles. For me, it's between work, homeownership, fitness, fiance and wedding planning. I was all psyched to be on the morning workouts and I have been getting up earlier, but I've had earlier morning meetings (8am vs. normal start at 9) all week so I haven't been getting to the gym. Hope was I would get home earlier and get to the gym in the evening. Unfortunately, bought a new bedroom set over the weekend that is being delivered Friday. Fiance isn't around and likes to do things on his schedule rather than work to a deadline, so it's pretty much up to me to get everything moved to make room for the new furniture so that's been taking up my evenings. I also need to call a plumber to do some work on the heating system. I've been keeping pretty low cal so I'm still losing, but I'm frustrated that I'm not making time for committing to workouts. I haven't done anything for wedding planning since the beginning of the month. We selected the DJ months ago, but I still don't think my fiance has gotten a signed contract (he wanted to take care of the music). Need to start figuring out a florist and plans. I still haven't found a hotel to get a block of rooms. Feeling the stress.
WARNING: Rant/whining ahead.
So, feeling a bit overwhelmed this week and thought I'd ask how others deal with the constant tug of war between all your commitments/roles. For me, it's between work, homeownership, fitness, fiance and wedding planning. I was all psyched to be on the morning workouts and I have been getting up earlier, but I've had earlier morning meetings (8am vs. normal start at 9) all week so I haven't been getting to the gym. Hope was I would get home earlier and get to the gym in the evening. Unfortunately, bought a new bedroom set over the weekend that is being delivered Friday. Fiance isn't around and likes to do things on his schedule rather than work to a deadline, so it's pretty much up to me to get everything moved to make room for the new furniture so that's been taking up my evenings. I also need to call a plumber to do some work on the heating system. I've been keeping pretty low cal so I'm still losing, but I'm frustrated that I'm not making time for committing to workouts. I haven't done anything for wedding planning since the beginning of the month. We selected the DJ months ago, but I still don't think my fiance has gotten a signed contract (he wanted to take care of the music). Need to start figuring out a florist and plans. I still haven't found a hotel to get a block of rooms. Feeling the stress.
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Be kind to yourself! You have a lot going on right now, and it's a stressful time. I think just acknowledging that can help. My fiance and I have been getting into a lot more arguments lately, and it helps us to just be like, "yeah, this is a stressful time so it makes sense that we're going to argue more that usual".
Maybe just lower your workout goals for now? Especially if your the type to beat yourself up about not achieving set goals, maybe just change the goals since it doesn't seem like you can reasonably fit it in at the moment.
I went through spurts of wedding planning all year. Did a lot one week, and nothing for the next 3. As long as you have a rough timeline of when everything needs to get done (with buffer room), you'll be ok!
There are plenty of checklists and 12/6/whatever month plans online, so if you're not already working off one, that might help. Every month or so I'd go back through my list (in a wedding moleskin notebook my friend gifted me that has a 12 month planning list) and I'd re-assign priorities and deadlines.
Get all your vendors booked, even if you don't have the details sorted out...like meet with a florist, put down a deposit for the date, but don't worry about the details of your order (just rough enough to get quotes you're comfortable with). Once I had all my vendors booked, I felt so much more at ease. I knew that if the wedding was the next week, it would happen...even if all the details weren't sorted out yet.
This is supposed to be a fun, exciting time. I find that browsing on pinterest helps me get excited about things again
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I have to agree with @CostaRica120 , it's sound advice. Also, keep coming here to vent, I'm guessing that just getting that out probably helped some?
I can relate to your fiancé liking to do things on his schedule, my fiancé is always saying, "we don't want to rush into anything." I've learned to add those "buffers" in there for him, but without telling him
it still doesn't always work, but at least it's closer to my timeline...a bit of a compromise which is part of what marriage is all about, yeah?
You can only do, what you can do and it will all work out in the end! Deep Breaths, and take things one thing at a time! YOU GOT THIS!0 -
Sorry for delayed response, but thanks ladies! It did help just to get it out. I do have a checklist on a site, but need to revisit and see if there are things I'm behind on. It sort of feels like it's still so far away, but it also feels like time is going so fast. Thanks for being here for me. Let me know if I can return the favor if you ever need to vent!0
