Oblivious to flirting?

Moe4572

So, I think I have posted something like this before, but there are several new peeps........

I have been told twice in the last 2 days that I was being flirted with and was totaly oblivious both times. I work in construction company and we sell materials to contractors so there are guys in and out all day.

yesterday a guy came on and we were talking about nothing really, as I wrote up his ticket, and then when he left coworker said "he was totally fliring with you!!'

Then, today a guy came in and he has been customer for a long time--I always thought he was married (none of these guys wear rings due to the machinery many of them have to use). So, my coworker was making comments like......"She (meaning me) looked at and said "oh, who is that tall drink of water?" trying to encourage me to flirt..........didn't work-just made my face turn beet red...........and she said he had started the flirting, trying to draw me in and I missed the cue. NOw, this guy is adorable, but I am just clueless I guess.

Maybe it is because my interest is currently elsewhere?

Any others miss all the clues?

Tropical_Turtle

I wish I could help, but I too am completely oblivious to flirting too.....

castadiva

I'm a very competent flirt...with people I know but have no interest in on that level. Someone I don't know well/a stranger, or am interested in - absolutely oblivious. Can't help, I'm afraid!

MissingMinnesota

I am obliviuos to it as well until there is casual touching. That is always my cue to flirting.

christine24t

I can't recall ever really being flirted with where I knew the person was interested in me except for one time and that is because he really laid on the touching and started to make sly sexual comments.

I just always assume people are being friendly with me and until someone is blatantly obvious they are flirting such as aforementioned guy I don't think anything of them except for being friendly. I would hate to think a guy is flirting with me and I flirt back and it turns out he was just being friendly - that happened one time and it was massively embarrassing when his girlfriend walked up...

flimflamfloz

Maybe it is because my interest is currently elsewhere?

Any others miss all the clues?

I think everyone is oblivious to sh!tty flirting.

Frankly, I don't care because I don't think I need not to be oblivious to it.
If I flirt and you don't stop me I will be jumping on you pretty quickly, so you shouldn't miss it, and if I'm oblivious (or pretending I am) then I'm probably not interested in you anyway.

jesusHchris

I think I would pick up on it. I honestly can't remember the last time someone flirted with me outside of actually being on a date already.

AnnaPixie

Maybe it is because my interest is currently elsewhere?

Any others miss all the clues?

I think everyone is oblivious to sh!tty flirting.

Frankly, I don't care because I don't think I need not to be oblivious to it.
If I flirt and you don't stop me I will be jumping on you pretty quickly, so you shouldn't miss it, and if I'm oblivious (or pretending I am) then I'm probably not interested in you anyway.

yeah, I tend to agree with this.

With reference to the other flirt thread we had recently, where people in relationships think its fun to flirt harmlessly, I'm of the opinion that if it's flirting with iNTENT then you would know about it. Any other kind of flirting is not even noteworthy.

TheKitsune6

I think I would pick up on it. I honestly can't remember the last time someone flirted with me outside of actually being on a date already.

I flirt with you all the time don't even.

I think different styles of flirting go missed by different people. It also depends on what you consider flirting if you're going to recognize it or not. It doesn't make you oblivious, it just means you have different modes of communication.

Let's not forget that friends are also likely to see something that isn't there. I have one girl friend that is 100% certain my BFF and I are secretly in love and we'll realize it one day and be meant for each other and blah blah blah and that when we interact we flirt.

Tube_socks

Ha, I'm opposite as of lately. I think everyone's flirting with me. Not really but obviously I'm as confused as the ones that are oblivious to it. I do "test" to see if they're flirting.

JeffseekingV

Not single here but I think I'm 50% regarding catching if someone is flirting or not. I know there are a few women in my gym that are comfortable enough to chit chat in a friendly flirt. Especially when they KNOW I've talked to their husbands. One older lady that wears a sports bra and spandex shorts was kidding around about our ages. I told her I'm probably older than her. she said she was 53. I was amazed. She comments on my workouts here and there. It's all good and fun because everyone know exactly what it is. Harmless

lacroyx

Any others miss all the clues?

I am told I do. I haven't had much experience flirting or learning to pick up the signs that I am being flirted to.

I think different styles of flirting go missed by different people. It also depends on what you consider flirting if you're going to recognize it or not. It doesn't make you oblivious, it just means you have different modes of communication.

I agree with this. I remember one time long ago in my early 20's before I got, well, really big, I was visiting one of my friends neighbors. I started talking to the neighbor's wife. I found out she was from Mexico and she was happy to find out I was bilingual in Spanish. We spoke for a bit and I cracked a few corny jokes in Spanish. She laughed a lot, sat real close and would touch my arm frequently. My friends did not know Spanish, so had no clue about the context of our conversation but told me that just by reading her body language she was most definitely flirting with me. I was young, clueless and she was married so it never even once crossed my mind that she was flirting with me. Now that I'm older, I know better than to assume because someone is married that they won't flirt however, I'm still mostly clueless.

I do "test" to see if they're flirting.

What? How? Maybe I am being "tested" all the time and due to my thick headedness I fail it all the time.

bregalad5

Apparently I'm oblivious, too. I've had friends say, "he was totally into you!" or "he was flirting with you!" I just say, "oh... huh..."

Yeah, I'm just not used to anyone flirting with me.

impudentputz

I too am no help with pointing out the signs of flirting. I dated someone a while back who had been apparently flirting with me for a while and I wasn't catching on... she eventually came out and told me she was doing it...I guess I need a tongue in my ear and a thumb in my....never mind...I'm oblivious, all I was getting at

pa_jorg

I think I would pick up on it. I honestly can't remember the last time someone flirted with me outside of actually being on a date already.

I flirt with you all the time... and you don't even remember! :sad:

RunIntheMud

I will shamelessly flirt with everyone all the time, unless I'm really interested or if there is a small group of unknown people. I'm working on it, but seriously most of the time my flirting is just me being friendly and nothing more.

When a man flirts with me, I assume the same thing. I am a little more chatty lately and have met some guys in real life (which you all know is unheard of for me). So, I guess I'm starting to pick up the signs a little better. I guess, if you are interested, put yourself out there, give obvious indications that you're interested and just go with the flow (as Anna would say).

jesusHchris

I meant face to face in a normal daily activity.

I'm not THAT oblivious.

TheKitsune6

I meant face to face in a normal daily activity.

I'm not THAT oblivious.

come down to san Diego, I'll show you how not subtle I can be ;}

Cameron_1969

I'm not sure if I'm oblivious or not. . Everyone flirt with me and I'll see if I catch on. .