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Wedding Planning Updates...
MsMarlaJean
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I only have 73 days until the BIG day 
FINALLY got the majority of my Wedding Invitations out, only 4 weeks late.
Getting ready to DYE my wedding dress skirt and the sash for the corset and I've decided I am definitely going to make my own birdcage type veil
Getting in some of the favors and decoration things, should probably test them and make an appointment to go over things at the reception venue...
Am going to do a trial run with my make-up artist on the 8th and today I started talking with my hairstylist about hair ideas, although it is Super Hard to determine how long my hair is going to be by then (I'm still trying to grow it out).
Have more, but I'll leave it at that for now
How are you all doing with your wedding planning?
FINALLY got the majority of my Wedding Invitations out, only 4 weeks late.
Getting ready to DYE my wedding dress skirt and the sash for the corset and I've decided I am definitely going to make my own birdcage type veil
Getting in some of the favors and decoration things, should probably test them and make an appointment to go over things at the reception venue...
Am going to do a trial run with my make-up artist on the 8th and today I started talking with my hairstylist about hair ideas, although it is Super Hard to determine how long my hair is going to be by then (I'm still trying to grow it out).
Have more, but I'll leave it at that for now
How are you all doing with your wedding planning?
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You sound like you're super on top of things Marla Jean! Way to go.
I'm ok...I think.
Today is deadline for RSVPs and we're almost 50 under guaranteed minimum for the venue (about 60% decline/not expected). I'm trying to invite some friends that I would have invited, but skipped because my mom has such a large family so I already had the majority of the guest list (but basically none of my mom's family is coming so now my groom has the majority of actual expected attendees). This is the major stressor at the moment.
I think I have most of the stuff for decorations ordered and good grip on what I want for favors. Bought a cheap veil off Amazon that I think will work with the dress. Make-up is ok, but still need to make hair appointment and settle on what we're doing. Need to find shoes...
Gifts for bridesmaids good except for the earrings which I still need to select and buy.
Ceremony planned, but need to figure out program (Catholic ceremony, with not a ton of Catholic guests so want to be sure there's a bit of road map).
Tasting at the venue (and hopefully finalizing details) next week.
Probably more, but I'll try not to whine too much 1 -
I'm trying to be on top of things, but also not be too persnickety about ANYTHING!
You sound like you're in a good spot with planning too! I can't believe you are getting down to 1 month left already! WOO-HOO!
I'm starting to get some of the RSVP's back already so that's good....just a handful so far, but only one couple has declined. Our Deadline is August 13th. I imagine I'll do like you and send out a few more invitations based on those coming and not coming closer to the deadline. Interesting that your families are panning out the opposite of what you were expecting. I hope not too much of a stressor tho!
I think I have shoes? I bought a cute pair of red kitten heels at our annual Shoe Solestice (a fundraiser for equipment in our local hospital) for the ceremony and then my Marriage Commissioner dyed some cute flower canvas tennis bright yellow (did I post that picture-I can't remember) and I think I will use those for the reception unless I get some personalized VANS or CONVERSE.
I haven't even started working on the ceremony yet, but I have thought about it and the fact that we want short, sweet and simple--It shouldn't be too hard (famous last words).
I envy your tasting...I guess I need to meet with our caterer (Darren's Brother) although he is a bit ambiguous so far...I imagine I should just ask who is going to be cooking and make arrangements with that person Let us know how it goes next week!
YOU FEEL FREE to WHINE away! This is the place to get it out with those of us who can commiserate with you and then you hopefully won't take it out on those close to you Well, at least not as much
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Actually, I'm lucky to get the tasting (I sent a VERY stressed email to the venue who also handles the catering), and it's not really everything. The venue said they usually only did tastings for the highest level package (we're mid-level) and because my groom's sister got married there just assumed that we trusted everything. I also found out cake flavor is really limited (chocolate or vanilla) so I'm a little disappointed we won't really get to do a cake tasting, but I guess less choices aren't bad given there's enough other decisions.
I really enjoyed planning the ceremony. Even though it's Catholic so many things are pretty scripted, picking out which prayers and readings I really felt were a way to show what was important to us and what we want for our marriage/how we interpret love. Enjoy your planning process!1 -
Mentioned make-up trial, sound tech, venue meeting and more dress shopping in the other post, but also forgot that apparently we are having CAKE at our wedding along with PIE (I only wanted PIE) but our cake maker is insisting on doing a cake for both our Welcome/rehersal dinner AND the wedding reception and wants to give us a tasting coming up in the next few weeks! Such a sweetie, I'm not going to tell her no.
Also, I flubbed up my Reception postcards, but it's quite comical really...oh well, nothing to be done about it now
@brisingr86 Have you done your tasting? How did that go?0 -
Tasting went fine. Food was tasty (we got to pick two of the three options to taste and then pick one of those for an option for the wedding); just had chicken and fish options. We talked before the tasting and were able to work out alternative salad than what they normally do (I'm very picky about salad). Ate too much.
Did some shopping this weekend and got a little box we'll call the "ring box" that we'll paint for the ring bearer to carry (he's 2 and a half so not giving him the rings). Also got a treasure chest that we're going to use for a card box and put notes out for people to leave us notes as a "guest book".
I'm alternating between feeling like no one else cares so why should I and being very que sera sera vs being super excited about finding the little details vs panic attacks worrying about all the things I have to do/get done. Less than 3 weeks...2 -
As of tomorrow I will have 1 month to wedding day. I bit off more than I could chew buying a house at the same time as trying to organize a wedding, but I had my little freak out and went into hibernation for about 36 hours and I'm now pulling myself together.
Thank goodness my fiancé and I had a chat and decided we will not move until AFTER the wedding and for now when there is time or the inclination we will work on painting and cosmetic changes of the house. Just one more reason he and I are made for each other!
Had a meeting with the caterer and the welcome/rehearsal dinner is planned for the night before the wedding. Also it has been decided what appetizers we will have for the reception.
Need to work on timelines and instructions for wedding party and visiting/traveling guests.
Need to reconfirm everything.
Need to work on wedding ceremony script.
Need to mail in for wedding license.
Need to meet with cake maker and remind people about pies.
so much to do
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Sometimes you need those hibernations. Hope you're feeling better now. Sounds nice to have the time to do some painting and little improvements before all the furniture is in (maybe some stress relief too to just focus on the painting for a little bit?). It's great that you and your fiance can bond over the stressful stuff as shared obstacles to overcome together rather than letting it drive you apart. That's what will count in the future; I think it's easy to have the happy times, but it's how you work through the crazy times that you need to make a marriage last (my 2 weeks experience! but also watching other couples).
It does sound like things are coming together. Hang in there! Less than a month, but you've got this! 1 lesson learned, those instructions for wedding party are important. Speaking from experience, it doesn't help when you've packed your bags to make sure you have everything you need, but don't make sure someone is assigned to bring it
(I had my purse with extra cash and checkbook all set as well as my bag for the wedding night get left at my house, caused some stress and inconveniences later). Good luck! You can do this and it will be beautiful and the little hiccups will fade or become things you can joke about later. 1 -
how is everyone's planning coming along? Its been just over a month since my wedding and I am still surprised how fast it went! Just enjoy the planning ladies, like @brisingr86 said, the little hiccups you have planning or on the wedding day will be things that make you laugh later, and likely no one else will know.
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16 days until wedding day!
working on the timelines for the wedding party and finalizing the ceremony script, went and applied for our "License to Wed" on Tuesday and can pick it up along with the Marriage Commissioner appointment paperwork tomorrow morning
Delivered Male Wedding Party Attire and dresses are all done for Bridesmaids, I've made my own veil, finished one on a comb and am finishing one on a barrette since I couldn't find a metal comb so my hair dresser will have options.
My MOH is doing AWESOME work on our Memory table and centerpiece jars...she is SO creative! My Officiant took on the ordering flowers, although we haven't gotten a bill yet, just slightly nervous about that, but since we've gotten so much of our wedding as wedding gifts, if our pictures and flowers are our biggest expenses we are doing well!
Dyed the sash for my corset back and have a yellow shrug that may or may not be used with the wedding dress. I went back and forth for a while after studying my dress and getting some experience with Dyes and the bridesmaid dresses and have ultimately decided that I am still going to dip dye ONLY the very bottom of my dress skirt. Most of my Galz didn't think I should because of the construction of the dress, which made sense and among other considerations, I didn't want to have to do a bunch of un-tacking and re-tacking of the overlay, so I've decided to pin up the overlay up to the first tack and only do the VERY bottom of the skirt, so it may or may not be noticeable.
I came to the conclusion to take the entire week off before the wedding, which I originally wasn't going to do, but now I think it's a good idea and I won't go back to work until the following Tuesday. We aren't taking our honeymoon until the end of October, early November.
probably am leaving some more out, but I have a list Hope the rest of you are doing well! Would love to see more pictures!!! 0 -
Marla Jean, sounds like you are in great shape with the planning and preparations. It will be nice to have that whole week before off. I took an extra half day off work (2 and a half days before, plus day of wedding off) and it was useful (probably could have used the extra day and a half). And even with you being so on top of things, that you don't need all the time for final preparations, maybe some extra time for a gym session or just to relax reading or a massage or some kind of extra pre-wedding pampering. If you can, maybe find extra time to spend with family/friends visiting from out of town. At the wedding, you're bouncing around a lot between all the guests and the photographer and just trying to find a moment to enjoy with the new hubby, so you may not feel like you get the time with your out of town guests that you would like. Or maybe I'm projecting my own feelings. There were definitely people that made long journeys that I would have loved to catch up with more and hardly got to see.
Almost there! Can't wait to see your pictures!1 -
10 more days! AHHHHH!!!!
Thank for all the tips and reminders @brisingr86 keep 'em coming for sure! Somehow it helps me not feel like things are so insane...
I already ended up taking yesterday as a sick day...I was just so exhausted! I slept like crazy!
So taking next week off I think is REALLY smart now! I have some last minute DIY decorations to do, some shopping for the martini bar and mostly going over timelines with all my Peeps to make sure we know what is going on! Other than that some small minor details, meeting with Photographer and videographer and all is done!
Most of our out of town guests are coming the Friday before, so I've planned a Welcome/Rehearsal dinner just to get to see those coming in and visit for a bit more! I am going to be going through the RSVPs too to find out for sure who might be coming in earlier (there was a bit of a snafu on those since not everyone returned them with a return address, so I'm not sure who it came from????)
As for ME-time/pampering, I do have a back facial (with mini massage) scheduled for this Friday and another for next Tuesday along with a spray tan (I have pretty severe back acne and scars that I am trying to clear up and cover up as best as possible for a strapless dress) a full body sports massage is scheduled for this Saturday along with a teeth whitening and a final practice for a song I am singing at the reception. Not to mention, I'm getting my hair colored the Thursday before the wedding and that's always a bit relaxing for me too!
I will definitely be trying to get in a jog, a walk, a kayak or some jump rope whenever I can!
Because our wedding is a cocktail reception, we have time figured in for everyone to eat dinner and freshen up so I'm hoping that will be time for M'Luv and I, it falls after photographs, but before the reception...
Have I forgotten anything? Of course! 0 -
Sounds like you're pretty much covering all your bases, way more organized and taking care of yourself better than I did.
Another thing that helped me I think before, during and after: pick the key things that are really important to you for the end of the day and focus on those. For me (and my husband), we wanted to be married, wanted a nice ceremony (mostly for me), and wanted our guests to have a good time. During and after the wedding there were plenty of things I might have done differently (mostly some vendor selection) or wish had gone more smoothly, but I kept reminding myself that the things that were really important happened.
For me, the worst part of the wedding was my brain going over things I would have/should have done differently or that didn't go the way I would have liked, but at the end of the day, it doesn't matter because you can't change it and (hopefully) you aren't going to do it again, so there's really no point. Having those 3 things to focus on that went right helped me stop thinking about the things that didn't and also to just be grateful for the beautiful day that it was.
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