independent women
pa_jorg
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I feel as though I've heard an awful lot lately about how guys aren't into independent women. Someone, please explain what this means in 2013!?
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Shut up, make me a sandwich, clean the house, get back in the bedroom, repeat. Quit making life so complicated and so much about you.0
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Haven't we beaten this into the ground? Some guys like independent women and some like non-idependent women and who you ask might classify an independent woman differently than the next guy.0
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Haven't we beaten this into the ground? Some guys like independent women and some like non-idependent women and who you ask might classify an independent woman differently than the next guy.
Fair enough... I guess it's just been one of those things that seems like it's everywhere for me lately! Plus, there are a lot of new Peeps to weigh in.0 -
Haven't we beaten this into the ground? Some guys like independent women and some like non-idependent women and who you ask might classify an independent woman differently than the next guy.
Sorry, but I really am going to have to agree with this. It depends on who you ask, where and how they were raised (although a lot change even after that), as well as time of day.....
Every person has a different preference for what they like. Be you, love you and someone will love you for you. 0 -
Yup, everybody has a different perspective on what an independent woman means. I consider myself to be Independent in some areas such as taking care of myself financially, need my own space and have no problem being On my own.
But I'm a feminine woman in search of an alpha male. I like to feel taken care of by a man. I love being submissive to him. I like the traditional roles such as a woman is the nurturer and the man is the provider.
Soooo I might not be what you consider independent because you have a different perspective.0 -
Well I'm 36 and by now I'd expect anyone close to my age to be somewhat financially independent, know how to do their own laundry, cook for themselves, etc. That's why I kind of laugh when I hear someone saying how independent they are. It's not really anything to brag about, you're a grown up adult, I'd expect you to be independent.
But from a different perspective, I'm probably more independent than a lot of people because I'm an introvert and I'm just more comfortable doing things by myself and keeping myself entertained. Some women seem to "need" a man in their life to protect them, fix things, for attention, whatever. I don't really find that attractive, I'd rather be wanted than needed. Children need to be taken care of, adults should be able to fend for themselves.0 -
Well I'm 36 and by now I'd expect anyone close to my age to be somewhat financially independent, know how to do their own laundry, cook for themselves, etc. That's why I kind of laugh when I hear someone saying how independent they are. It's not really anything to brag about, you're a grown up adult, I'd expect you to be independent.
But from a different perspective, I'm probably more independent than a lot of people because I'm an introvert and I'm just more comfortable doing things by myself and keeping myself entertained. Some women seem to "need" a man in their life to protect them, fix things, for attention, whatever. I don't really find that attractive, I'd rather be wanted than needed. Children need to be taken care of, adults should be able to fend for themselves.
Thank you for this!!!! I never thought about it before, but the fact that I'm an introvert is also probably why I feel like I have to be more independent. Of course I have friends and family, but I never bother any of them to ask for help unless it's absolutely necessary. Plus, like so many people I know, I'm not afraid to be alone or do things by myself either. Interesting that I had never connected the two before, but I appreciate you giving me something to think about now! Like you said, I knew the feeling had to be about more than my job, money or household stuff.0 -
From a psychological perspective it’s been studied that it’s healthiest for people in a relationship to be somewhat independent, have their own friends and interests separate of their partner. But personally, I know quite a bit of couples that are basically conjoined at the hip and in fact, my grandparents are going on 55 years of marriage in that kind of relationship, but that might be attributed to the era they grew up in.
I really like what Roadie2000 said, it was a really thoughtful reply, but especially about wanting to be wanted instead of needed, I think that kind of sums up my own attitude about relationships.0 -
My perceptions is: Men like to be needed (as well as wanted!). And independent women dont 'need' them! Or so they think!!!
As an independent woman, I'd say my needs are just different to traditional woman. I dont need any kind of help in the traditional role sense, just more of an emotional/sexual need than a practical one. Eg I'm more than capable of changing a plug, but still need to be hugged.
NB: Women like to be needed too!! This dependency thing is not a one way street :flowerforyou:0
