Not Trying to Conceive, Just Trying to Manage

ContentedBeauty

Hi all!

I'm just wondering if there are others in the group that aren't trying to conceive but continue to battle against PCOS symptoms purely to obtain/maintain good health. I don't have the desire to have kids at this point but I'm still pre-occupied with trying to get my body to function halfway normally. I'd love to know if there are any others like me out there. I'm looking for more friends that are on the same journey.

Thanks!

ladypinktulip

Hi all!

I'm just wondering if there are others in the group that aren't trying to conceive but continue to battle against PCOS symptoms purely to obtain/maintain good health. I don't have the desire to have kids at this point but I'm still pre-occupied with trying to get my body to function halfway normally. I'd love to know if there are any others like me out there. I'm looking for more friends that are on the same journey.

I am just trying to manage the health aspects of PCOS because I am past child bearing and did not have children. I am 45years old

ladypinktulip

that didn't post right, I am the last comment...sorry:indifferent:

KayteeBear

Me!! I can't wait to have children! I'm only 21 though and my boyfriend and I aren't married yet but I do want to have children someday soon. However, for now I'm just trying to regulate my periods, lose some weight and just be healthy.

AmyD2009

Yes! I've already had my twins and my husband and I are not planning on having any more. So now I'm just battling the PCOS symptoms trying to eat better so I can be healthy. I am 42 years old.

purplegoboom

Yes, I do not want children and have no plans on having them. My husband got a vasectomy shortly after we got married so I could work on regulating my cycle without the use of the hated birth control pill, and because I was going through so much he didn't want me to worry about getting my tubes tied.

aggieamber05

I am here for that general reason as well. I had problems concieving my first child, after miscarraige and 3 rounds of clomid...irregular period etc. We dont want another for a couple years...but I want to lose about 50-60 more lbs before I get pregnant. I want to get my body normal, my insulin levels, cholestoral normal...etc.

lindsey212820

Same here! We're hoping to start a family in a few years, but for now just trying to get the weight off and see if it helps. All the research I've done on PCOS has lead me to believe that weight loss is the best medicine, so I'm trying my best. This is my first week using MFP and so far so good. It's nice (although sometimes scary) to see exactly what's in the food I've been eating. Other people have recommended low carbs, but that's proven to be harder than I thought!

ContentedBeauty

I'm glad to see all the responses! My husband and I don't think we want kids, and right now I'm struggling with all the questions from everybody "so... when do you think you're going to get pregnant?" I get asked so frequently it's becoming really uncomfortable. I love kids, just not sure I want my own. It's nice to see some others that have a focus of overall health and not just conception.

gingabebe

I have two sons and I am happy and finished. My second was conceived after two doses of Clomid. (A side note about Clomid: My good friend used it for a long while, ended up with breast cancer. She says her doctor told her it was hormone induced and shouldn't occur again since she is no longer taking it. I don't recall how long she was on it, but if you take it later on I would ask about the risks.)
Now I get a lot of questions from people like "When you gonna try for a girl?" I tell you, it just doesn't end.

So now I am just trying to lose weight and am glad to say my periods are normal. Once I got my weight down some it just took care of itself. I have a few chin hairs that drive me nuts. My weight lose is SLOW and I know if I upped my exercise it would help a lot, so I need to get back to doing that!

Oh, I used to see a PCOS specialist and I got frustrated about hearing about getting pregnant- I had to remind her I had my kids and was done numerous times. She was a really good doctor and sadly moved away and I quit going to the doctor she referred me to b/c my periods had regulated and I quit my Metformin. When I realized how many of her patients were desperately trying to conceive, I felt really thankful for my boys.

triplestepping

Me too, just managing. 32, married, not trying, not sure we want kids at this point. I'm trying to get myself sorted out and be in a position where I may have the option to change my mind, but right now I am not there. Husband is supportive; he really only wants kids if I definitely do, and he's fine with not, so that's good. I love kids and I'm good with them (I used to teach, did tons of babysitting as a teenager) but I've never fantasized about having my own. They're just not really on my radar.... always something I'd tell myself I'd think about "later" and later is pretty much here and I'm still ambivalent. I think I'd probably like to have a guest room so that I can babysit my friends' kids, and then they can take a weekend away somewhere. Win-win.

I am hesitant to "try" really hard to get pregnant, especially with hormones. Partly because I have a friend who tried on hormones for years and she suffered a lot of weight gain... and still no baby. I also know 100% that I don't have the mental strength to survive a miscarriage. I've got enough depression to know that that would probably make things go in a very bad direction, so I'm just kind of not wanting to go there.

Recently I got the puppy I've really wanted for years; that'll do for now. That's really helping get exercise sorted out. Boy is it ever. The exercise is helping my moods so much. I used to get PMDD and still suffer from depression/anxiety a bit, so exercise is a HUGE help. Hoping diet will follow and weight loss will ensue, and symptoms will begin to let up a bit. Maybe if I can get off the pill in the next year or two then we will see if a baby happens, but if not, I am already at peace with the idea of not having kids.

Going for laser hair removal next week for first session; excited about that. It's not AS expensive as I thought it would be. Still pricey though. After the six sessions, which should be finished by next year sometime, I want to cut my hair really short because I finally won't have to hide my face behind my hair any more.

Phany04

Hi! I'm 24 years old. I'm also here for health reason. Children? Maybe in the future. My priority right now is getting healthier and building a career.

chrissyreneet

I've had my babies and now I'm done. I'm trying to maintain but it's hard. The lower carb thing kills me and I wind up gaining weight if I don't pay close attention to what I'm eating.

JSG10506

I am a mother of two -thank goodness- & Im currently not ttc persay, just trying to get my body under control. Id like to be like "normal" women who want to get in shape/lose weight, work at it & do. Im so frustrated, I eat healthy, exercise AND my weight juat goes up & up. There is nothing harder than continuing to do healthy things & seeing NO outcome at all OR a negative one. Ive decided Im tired of feeling awful & its time to get myself back the best I can

toadoftoadhall

Me. I'd love to have kids at some point but currently single so just focusing on reducing symptoms and getting healthy.

myndikins

I totally agree. I'm not even sure if I ever want to have kids, but I'm 23 so I've got time to think on that. I'm just trying to get myself healthy!

OneWildAndPreciousLife

Yep, same here. Not interested in trying to have a baby. Just trying to manage my symptoms.

jcgutierrez

Hello there! Me! me! me! I have 3 babies, and Im done. I m here for my health and well being. I have trouble ttc convieve. But thank God I got the opportunity to be a mother. But 3 should be enough. I want to focus on losing weight. Making good choices and changing my life style. For myself, my children and my husband.

Alliwan

YES!

we tried ttc for 5 years, didnt work so now just focusing on getting myself healthy. I am having such trouble losing i want to give up almost every week when i weigh in. I dont know how to calculate my bmr or tdee with insulin resistance as i keep reading its way lower than normal ppl of the same hight/weight/age but cant find out how much lower it is.

so frustrating and disheartening.

srslycolette

*raises hand.
I'm not interested in trying to have children anytime soon, if at all. Mostly, I'm here for advice and support on dealing with PCOS while trying to lose weight. I've only been starting the whole process since July, and I know I had lost 20 lbs Feb - May, but since being diagnosed I have stalled.

obmckenzie

I'm in the same boat. I don't want kids, just trying to lose the weight/have a normal body

caljo06

Me too! Not trying to conceive just trying to be the healthiest me I can be and try to manage my PCOS symptoms as naturally as possible.

Emma_Cattell_

Hello ladies,

I'm 25 been married a year. Would love children HOWEVER I am concentrating on getting myself healthy first. I have stopped taking all medication & just focusing in living a healthier lifestyle. I have only lost 20lbs (ideally would like to lose 80lbs total) but I already feel great.

Feeling much more positive about the future

CharlotteSarahRichards

I had a kid 10 months ago so I'm in no hurry to ttc again. My main interest is in getting as healthy as possible to make sure I'm a good mum to the kid I have, and controlling the acne would be nice!

KimmeeMee

Me! I've finished my TTC journey (1 year for our first child, 5 years for our second) and now I just want to manage. Fertility is no longer my main concern. It's now all about health and managing my symptoms.

mrsmap5

ME! I am blessed with 3 kids. I'm just wanting to find something that help me manage & Weight loss! I'm not thrilled with my doctor of 14 years (who I actually saw again today).. Docs answer is just eat low carb, excercise and take metformin.. I have never had a blood sugar problem so I'm not sure why she keeps telling me the insulin resistance is why I don't lose weight. I run, exercise 3-4 days a week and watch what I eat, yet have managed to gain 20 pounds in a year!!! I'm looking for what helps and what doesn't and support from people who are in my shoes! Docs have even put me on numerous weight loss drugs (over the last 10 years) and none ever work... leaving them baffled!! Right now I'm feeling like I am fighting a loosing battle! Metformin never really helped me before (although I do think it helped me get pg) and I really don't want to start it again! .... ARGH!!

junoja

I am also not trying to conceive. I am a 41 y.o. mom of 2 boys. Trying to control PCOS naturally - diet and exercise.
Feel free to add me. :-)

kenzietate

OP I do eventually want to conceive but for now I am working on losing weight and getting everything under control also! Feel free to friend me!

mojopk

hello. I am 46 have no children and have PCOS. I had a total abdominal Hysterectomy about three years ago because I could no longer afford to do fertility and because I was having too many problems with my periods and with the pain from them. I always wanted children also, but after so long and getting up in age I decided the hysterectomy was the best option for me. So after that I thought that things would get better physically for me and no they did not. I still have hair growth and weight issues, so now I am trying to get healthy. I totally understand trying to become healthy and maintain but I also am with everyone when I say it is really hard and having other people who are going through the same things as you is like having a helping hand. So if anyone wants to add me as a friend I am here and we can just chat on those days when we are having a bad day or when we need to celebrate the good days. so please add me, thanks.