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@shanaber I'm glad you are enjoying Zion. Your pictures are great. I wouldn't be able to chose just one either.
Tippy would love to do the find game with ham. LOL I use her treats. I heard about that virus too - it was just before I left for my FL race. They only said something about it for a couple of day, so I don't know if that is still a thing or not. I felt like they were making a big deal out of it and hurting the boarding places at a time when a lot of people were traveling. I'm not really a conspiracy theorist, but it just felt off to me.0 -
Good morning folks!
I never realized how busy life could be. I don't know if I was sheltered or this is just the season I am in.
We had sentencing and it was a long day. I finished my statement and was happy with it, highlight mom and also pointing out how LS has shown zero remorse or accountability. DH went with me and the original detective took the day as well and sat with us. We got to see a 5 page letter LS partially wrote (I say that because there were very obvious handwriting changes from his male messiness to a really loopy female handwriting). It sorta gave his explanation for what happened. He claimed that he was very high on LSD, weed, and drunk and that he started hallucinating due to the COVID hysteria and was convinced doomsday was here and he needed to go find a quiet place to lay low while the world ended. The Detective said the statement really fed into the known evidence that they had against him, he said nothing new was added. Anyway he says he panicked when Mom caught him on the property and she fell running away from him (I guess it wasn't in any report mom was in a mobility scooter and could not run). He said she fell and hit her head and she "carried" her into the house where she regained consciousness (unlikely b/c she had a piece of of her skull in her brain) and he panicked and tried to gag her with a belt and it "slipped" around her neck. Yeah...whatever. The rest of the document was about how regretful he was of his actions and how is life was ruined and he swore to be a better person. His sweetheart lawyer tried to file a last minute continuation for add some "young offender" stuff to his probation records. The DDA was so confused since it had absolutely nothing to do with sentencing. It took 4 hours and 2 judges to finally turn that off and told him to file after. Our liaison said that it was a "high profile case" and she said the lawyer was enjoying the publicity and that is why he kept dragging it out. I read my statement, there were 5 members of his family there, allegedly including his new fiancé. I cried as I read it. The news station was there and I didn't realize they recorded it and I found myself on TV by 6pm that night. Oh well. LS also read a slightly different statement and the Judge told him it was flat and it was obvious he was "detached from reality" on the seriousness of his crime. He was sentenced to 25 years to life...but he could be in as little 16 years total with all the "good credits" CA offers.
The week after I caught COVID for the first time. I suspect DH had it the week prior but all he got was a bad case stuffy nose and never tested...it was going around his work like crazy though. I just had a low fever for a few days and then a sore throat for 2 days and was done with it.
The week after that our friend came to stay for a week and we just hung out and did local stuff, it was relaxing. She brought her 13lb 10 month old kitten terror with her...DH and I were once again happy to send him home with her LOL. It made us a bit sad, black cat has been gone a month now and it still hurts. We were really missing our quiet routine with him and his constant affection and cuddles. I don't think DH and I will be ready for another cat for awhile.
You think it ends there! LOL...heck no...I told ya, it is a season.
We also lost one of Mom's miniature horses...he was 32 and so not unexpected but it was sad. Thankfully my tenant was there and got the vet out there (she has pretty much adopted them) and I just had to organize getting a backhoe out there to bury him in the pastures with the rest of the gang. I am glad the tenant is out there....but dang she can be annoying. She likes to lecture me...ugh.
A couple days later I get a random friend request on FB and I just deleted it. They then sent me a message saying they were my half-sister. Now I do have 4 half siblings - we were all removed by either the fathers or the state and we never felt the need to find each other. I did have contact with the brother right below me since we grew up together for a hot minute until his father decided he wanted custody. A quick dig into paperwork - it was actually her. She said that a Detective had called her a week ago and said that our birth mother had died. It appears she had died from an opioid overdose. I had kept tabs on her (the birth mother) for many years but kept her at a double arms length since I knew she had significant mental health issues so I was not surprised. But now it seems I am getting dragged into another "clean up". The sister had already flown down to SoCal where our mother was living and gotten the important stuff out of the apartment. She said it looked like it had been sacked, I suspect she did not die alone and had a "dealer" of pain pills with her. She had no money, nothing of value...Sister said she grabbed lots of photos and such. She didn't have much contact with her either. But now DH and I may have to make the 6 hour journey down there to pick up some furniture she wanted but was not able to get.
I told DH that this HAS to be it! What else could happen?
Next month we are going to start transitioning stuff into storage and start looking for a new place. We decided to just get another house with a 1 year lease.
No movement on the property. We did get the driveway finished after a month - the originally asphalt guy did half the job and then went AWOL. Thankfully we use a middle man so it is his problem. We had to get another one and it is now done.
This is the first week of "normal"? I let reselling slip but even with not touching it for 10 days this month, sales are up 25% from December so more proof that Dec just sucked.
Oh good news is I got my initial rating from the VA - it was much higher than I expected. They also added some claims they felt I needed to be evaluated for. Surprisingly they added depression and anxiety...so weird. I had to have a 10 min "consult" with a psychiatrist ... no idea what will come of that.
Well, I best get to work. Have a great week!
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@martaindale - I sent you a friend request. I'm going to be in Rome for a few days this summer and wanted to ask you a question. Hopefully I am remembering correctly that you vacationed there last summer! If not chalk it up to my old age memory!0
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@CMorning99 Whew! You did have a lot going on. I'm glad that LS got a pretty long sentence, though not really long enough for what he did. Hugs to you for having to go through all of that. Then the horse and your birth mom. That's a lot to deal with. I'm glad to hear that the driveway is finished. I hope you find a new place to rent that you love. I'm also glad that your reselling did well, even when you weren't paying a lot of attention to it this month. Congrats on a higher VA disability rating. That's great! Hang in there. I hope things start looking up.
I have some sad news. My cousin, Gary, that I have been helping and am his POA, was sent to the hospital on the 19th because he couldn't put any weight on his left leg. The staff at the assisted living wasn't sure if he fell or not - he couldn't really tell them. In the process of testing, they found that he has stage 4 lung cancer - is in his liver, adrenal gland, grown into his chest wall, and seems like somewhere else. We had NO clue and there was not decline that would indicate he had such advanced cancer. I've had to make all the end of life decisions for him and will probably start hospice/palliative care tomorrow. Such a shock.
I have let his estranged son know, but the son has decided to not come see him, after 20 years. I had hoped he would, but it was his choice and I respect that. I know a little bit of why he has stayed away, but not the entire story, so I will not judge.
I'm still trying to get some exercise every day, but I'm also stress eating, which I know isn't good. But, it is what it is.
Have a great week everyone.
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@CMorning99 - how are you doing?
I am so glad the trial is over and I hope LS stays locked up for a long, long time.
Hope you aren't dragged in to too much with your birth mom's estate or whatever might be required.
Have you found a new house/apartment? Also I hope there wasn't any damage at the property from all the rain we had last week.
I had my PET Scan last week and got the results back immediately which is really unusual so I was pretty sure it was not good news. It flagged a lesion on my liver ☹️ I was able to get in to see my oncologist the next day. So we are kind of back to square one. I have a biopsy a week from Monday and depending on the outcome they will determine the next steps. Radiation is off the table though. I am trying to stay positive and continue to get my walks/runs in along with some strength training. Doing those regular things and getting outside in the sunshine helps with my attitude.4 -
@shanaber I'm sorry to hear that news. I was wondering what the test results were. I think doing those regular things would be very helpful to keep your mind off of things and keep moving forward. You have done great so far. I don't foresee that changing. I see that you said radiation is off the table. Have you looked into proton therapy? I hear that causes so much less damage to surrounding tissue if it is available and can be used for that. Just a thought. Huge hugs to you and continued prayers.
For those that don't know, my cousin, Gary, that I have been helping out, passed away rather suddenly on 2 Feb. He had been sent to the VA the week before because he couldn't put weight on one of his legs. In the process of trying to figure out what was going on, they discovered he had Stage 4 lung cancer! He just progressively got worse and I had to make all of those end of life decisions. He was on hospice for 5 days before he passed away. I'm not even sure he realized that he had cancer. It just hit him so quickly. No one had a clue. His funeral was this past Wed.
So, I've been stress eating like crazy and gaining weight. I HAVE to stop that cycle. I am going to try to track calories as best I can this week and see how it goes. It may help that I have a colonoscopy on Thursday, routine screening. That will be at least one day of low calories and getting cleansed. Exercise is going to suffer though, as it has this entire month so far. It's a vicious cycle.1 -
Good morning Folks!
@shanaber. I am so bummed to hear about your PET results...I hope this is only a 1/2 step back from all the progress you made. You are an inspiration with your drive to keep moving and taking it day by day. Something I can learn from you.
@quilteryoyo. Sorry about to hear about your cousin. I hope you get some rest from all the stress and end of life decisions you had to deal with. I think we are all very aware of what you are going through and hear to help!
Things slowed down bit thankfully...although it has only been 2 weeks since my last post.
DH and I did end up going down south to get the furniture that my sister wanted (weird saying that). It turned out my birth mother lived in a decent 2 bed house with an attic. According to the landlord our Grandmother had lived there 20+ years and was the apartment manager (she got the big house as manager). It was the weekend of the big rains and so we were rushing. We drove down on a Saturday and stayed the night and then went to the house on Sunday. O.M.G. I had an idea what I was walking into but oof. It was so dirty and she was a smoker and smoked in the house. Cobwebs 3 ft long hung from the ceiling. Rotting food in the kitchen. Trash everywhere. We grabbed the desk and chair and a small box of stuff...after 90 min we were coughing and miserable and left. It was good thing as the rains started about 3 hours later into our drive and by the time we hit Santa Barbara it was torrential and the roads were flooding (like 12-18 inches of water on them). Luckily we had the big 3500 truck so we were good but I think it was raining so hard that the seals around the doors leaked!
I have been moving slow. I don't know if I have "long covid" but every couple days I feel like junk, light sore throat and tired. I am also getting a pain just below my sternum...my heartburn has been pretty bad and I am thinking I may have started a small ulcer. Been taking my Pepcid everyday and it is better but still comes and goes.
We signed out a 10x10 storage unit near the property this weekend and are going to slowly start moving stuff in there...10x10 doesn't seem like a lot of space LOL! But DH and I agreed, we only put what we really want in there and the rest...well, gets a hard second look.
A house right up the road just came on the rental market...it is identical the house we have and same rent! They are holding an open house tomorrow so we are going to go look at it...I am sure it will go quickly. The only "issue" is that I don't know if they will hold it for us till 1 Apr? DH said he is ok with signing earlier...but I was hoping for a bit longer since we still have no real time frame on the house...but I can't pass up a good deal over 1 month. In all likelihood...our house is going to take longer than than anyway...by MONTHS.
We are waiting on 2 signatures from the county for the property split and I told the Architect to submit our plans to the county...I think that was 2 weeks ago? Haven't early anything. Le sigh.
Well, time to take my shipping to the post office and get started on a pile of consignment I picked up last week.
Thinking of you all! Hugs!
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Thanks @CMorning99 . Sounds like things are headed in the right direction. I hope you are able to get the house "next door." That would make it really easy to get stuff moved...and, if you have to rent it a month early, it'll give you a month to get it all done. I hope you don't have "long covid." It would be nice if there was a test that would let you know. At any rate, I hope you feel better soon.0
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I'm struggling with my food and weight right now. I want to do better, but have so many social things that I can't seem to get a handle on it. This morning, I had breakfast at a friend's house, Friday I'm going to a Chinese buffet with friends, and Sunday I'm having a big lunch at a church fundraiser. Yesterday, I had lunch out for my Aunt's birthday. So, I'll have leftovers for a couple of days. I know I do better if I cook and eat my own food....but how to do that doesn't seem to come easy for me right now. I guess recognizing the problem is the first step to fixing it.
Hope you are all doing well. Haven't heard from anyone for a while.0 -
@quilteryoyo - it always tough when you have engagements that involve food that you have little to no control over. I know for me if I knew ahead of time that I would be eating elsewhere I would plan to have a healthy snack at home of something I made so I wasn't ravenous when all the other choices were available. I would then take small portions of what ever the food choices were - not limiting what I could eat just how much I would eat. It didn't always workout as planned but I felt better going in with a plan in mind. You have managed thru this before so I know you can again, just do what you know works for you!
@CMorning99 - how are you doing? Were you Able to rent that house you were hoping to get for 04/01?
I hope things are progressing with the property.
It has been a rough few weeks for us. My PET scan showed a lesion on my liver and a biopsy confirmed that it is basically the same cancer as before. I have been waiting to hear about a clinical trial but it is on hold for new patients and my team finally decided I needed to get going on the chemo sooner rather than later. So I start chemo again this Wednesday. It is a different regimen than the previous one (3 weeks on, 1 week off) and there is no real end point. I am just hoping we can get to the point that we can take an extra week break so we can take a trip north to see our daughter and friends in OR. The hardest part is I feel great, basically normal so hard to believe the cancer is back again already. I am hoping to still get out and walk when I am able during the treatments. It is good for me in so many ways, physically and mentally. I just need it.5 -
Thanks @shanaber . And now I am having lunch with my cousin tomorrow who is a truck driver and passes through every once in a while. It's hard to not eat a lot when you go to a restaurant. The portions are so large and most are either full of calories or sodium. I just have to keep trying and doing better on days that I do have control.
I'm so sorry to hear about the cancer being back. I hope and pray this chemo isn't as hard on you as the last type was. Can you still get into the clinical trial when it starts if you want to? I hope you will be able to work out a trip to see your daughter too. I'm glad you are feeling "normal" for now. Prayers and hugs for you and your DH and daughter. I know it is hard on everyone.2 -
@shanaber I hope you get into that trial and it works for you! A friend of mine is in a similar situation and she has been "lucky" that they seem to be controlling the growth of her lesions with daily oral chemo. She just graduated nursing school and is doing really well!
@quilteryoyo We are in a similar boat with eating out with the move and all that. So hard to then break the cycle...fast food is addicting.
We have been chugging along, nothing interesting going on but we have been busy. We are in our new house! We did end up putting an application on the house down the street but then pulled it after thinking about it. The house had a "death disclosure" that an unnatural death had occurred in the house in the past 3 years. That wasn't really the issue, but when I did a bit of digging (cause you can't get the intel analyst out of the girl) I suspected it was an elderly man and the house was so outdated and threadbare looking. DH and I thought about and we just didn't feel like we could live with how run down it was. We went through another property manager and they sucked. So we switched again and they were great and we ended up renting one of their houses. It is a tiny 1960's 1100 sqft place that required us to sell our bedroom set (we were planning on it anyway). It also shows a bit of wear and tear but at least they tried to keep it up. The only downside is that it is on a busy road and so we hear cars all day/night. But last week we hired movers and moved in so we are all settled in here. The good thing also was it was a 1 year lease and then goes month to month.
We are still waiting on property stuff. Our surveyors really screwed us, not just with how unresponsive they are/were, but their maps were sent back from the county with what appeared to me stupid mistakes. The county departments are also not talking to each other, we got another checklist of stuff we have already done and probably should not be applicable under the new permit...but now we have to go through all the wickets of that again. It is frustrating because they just approved 2 new huge housing developments! My project manager is earning his weight in gold at this point. Our June target of starting the house is starting to slip away
Reselling is ok, I was doing really well the first half of the month and then I put everything on vacation mode for the move and when I came back my inventory / listing software was down. It is web based so all I can do is wait for them to sort it out. But sales this month are going to take a big hit.
DH and I for sure gained 5lbs during this move. We really took the "no added stress" route with food LOL. We don't even want to put the batteries back in the scale LOL. We went for a walk around the new neighborhood yesterday. It was ok, lots of bigger roads and crosswalks with no lights. I miss my old quiet neighborhoods. Oh well. Chicken stir fry tonight so we will work our way back to at least maintaining LOL.
Have a great week folks!
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@CMorning99 I was just talking about you today with my mom and how I hadn't heard from you in a while. We were talking about how expensive things are when getting permits for stuff and I told her it is nothing here compared to CA. LOL I'm glad you found a house to rent with the terms you wanted. You'll probably get used to the car noise. I am always surprised at how soothing I actually find the cars going by when I am napping at daycare. I hear nothing here, so you would think it would distract me, but it's like white noise, I guess.
I do hope that you are able to get the house started soon. Just seems like so much paperwork and expense already. We'll all have to celebrate with you when they finally start!
I'm glad that you and DH went for a walk. That's a start!
I hope everyone else here is doing well. My niece is having her third baby girl tomorrow - scheduled C-section. We're planning to go see her on Friday. Can't wait to hold the little one.1 -
Hi there @CMorning99, @quilteryoyo and anyone else lurking here!
So glad to see an update from you @CMorning99 and that things seem to be going well for you. I am so happy you were able to get into a new place even if it is smaller. Great opportunity to downsize 😁 I agree with @quilteryoyo that you will get used to it and not hear it any longer.
Do you have any recourse with the surveyors like maybe not having to pay them so much? I hope you can get the County straightened out too!
Chicken stir fry sounds great! You'll get back to the eating/exercising routine soon especially if your DH is participating too.
@quilteryoyo - congratulations on the new baby! (grand-niece?), You will have to share a picture. Are the other little girls excited to have a new baby sister?
How are you doing getting back to eating more regular food now that all the meal dates are over?
I started the new chemo last Wednesday and it knocked me for a loop. I was wiped out on Thursday and developed an allergic reaction Friday night making for a miserable weekend. My blood tests on Monday showed that my blood counts were really low (explains why I was so wiped out). They redid the tests on Tuesday and it had only come up a little. The shots they want me to have to help my body build more blood cells wasn't approved yet so I couldn't have chemo this week. It probably isn't the best news but our daughter is coming in tonight and it means I can go and do some with her and my husband. I'll be back on the chemo train next week. In the meantime I have lost more weight but I am trying to eat more. My husband got me fresh strawberries so I have been having berries with vanilla ice cream for dessert in the evenings. Yum!3 -
Mom and I went to see my new grand-niece this afternoon. She was born yesterday. Pictures in the spoiler. And, yes, @shanaber, her sisters are both obsessed with her and didn't want anyone else to hold her. Right now, it seems like they are going to be great big sisters.
No. I am not back to eating better yet. Today, after the hospital, mom and I stopped and had Mexican for a late lunch/early dinner. I would probably be okay with that, but I almost always get the chimichanga and of course the cheese dip! Yikes. Now I can't drink enough water. LOL But, I am at least maintaining where I am. I'll take that and try to get it moving down.
I'm so sorry that your body isn't handling the new chemo very well.
Since you had an allergic reaction, are they going to give you a different kind next week? Vanilla ice cream and strawberries sounds delicious. I hope you can gain some, or at least stop losing. I hope you enjoyed the trip to the zoo today and had fun with the family! 1 -
@quilteryoyo - the pictures with your grand-nieces are adorable. What a beautiful family! I bet your mom is just thrilled too.
Because my blood counts were so low this last week my chemo treatment was cancelled (good news/bad news). It was good because our daughter came home and I felt good, but bad to delay treatment more. I have blood tests today and chemo on Wednesday likely followed by multiple days of shots to increase my body's production of platelets. I don't think they will change the chemo drugs but I do have medication to take if I have another reaction. They may also give me something prior to or during the infusion to prevent a reaction.
We had a great (short) visit with with our dd. She planned a day at the San Diego zoo, including a VIP behind the scenes tour in a jeep, for us. We had perfect weather, got to see so many animals up close (esp koalas, awake koalas!) and walked a bunch with some stops for me to rest. When we got home she went out and got a little cake to celebrate her dad's birthday. It was really just a perfect day all around! It was a short visit but so great to have her here for a couple of days.
The koala in the picture below was so funny. He was just eating and eating and really savoring each bite. He would take a bite, tilt his head back and close his eyes 😂
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You look great @shanaber ! That koala is so cute....looks like me with cheesecake.
Glad you had such a great day. I hope the meds prevent another allergic reaction and your counts stay up. 1 -
Hi Folks!
Thought I would check in.
@shanaber. Bummer about the rough go with the new chemo, so glad you have attentive doctors who can read the number and make the right calls for you. Glad you got to spend time with DD! I haven't been to a Zoo in probably decades.
@quilteryoyo. What a cute kiddo! Looks like a content family
Things are about status quo here.
Reselling took a big hit last month with the tech outage. After a week of trouble shooting, we finally figured out that the WiFi extender we had bought was causing the errors on all my reselling platforms! Once we hardwired the laptop into the extender everything worked like a charm. Stupid technology. Just after I got everything working one of the platforms went rogue cowboy and completely rewrote the TOS. Previously sellers paid a set % selling fee, processing fee and service fee...it all added up to about 15%, free money transfers, and no returns unless the item was not as described. Then in the middle of the night they changed it all so everything is FREE for sellers...no fees or anything. BUT they then transferred all the fees to the BUYER! So now when you check out you have 4 lines of shipping, fees, tax...it creates quite the sticker shock. Mercari instructed all sellers to lower the prices since there are no fees. They also added a $2 fee to transfer your money, AND now offer free returns for any reason (at their expense). The sellers on the platform lost their $h1t about the returns and the $2 fee. I really don't care...$2 is less than the 15% fees if I pull my money out 1-2x a month. I offer returns on eBay so meh (everyone is convinced every scammer is going to descend on Mercari now). The only bit I don't like is the fees for the buyer! I suspect that is going to be a big turn off for buyers. I thought about lowering my prices but IDK, Buyers will not know I lowered them and they still get hit with a long bill. I decided to go the free shipping route and keep my prices close to same as...it comes out to about the same money in my pocket as the other platforms without the seller fees. Hopefully buyers will be less shocked if they see a $0 for shipping in their long check out list.
Slow movement on the property. We were able to get some paperwork done and then we were sent another list that I now have to pay $277 and next years taxes (which aren't due till Oct) for the tax assessor to sign off...they call it a Tax Bond. WTF is that? DH took tomorrow off and we are going to make the drive up to the county offices (50 miles) and we have to file paperwork with the clerk.
We are fully settled in the new house. Still trying to sell our bedroom furniture...ahhh the joys of FB marketplace. No one shows up or they don't speak English. We are watching a friends Weiner dog and cat for the week.. The canine creature barks incessantly. The cat and I get along great...but he is not my boys. I think DH secretly likes the dog LOL...except when he barks.
We still haven't put batteries in the scale yet but our eating habits have returned to mostly normal.
Have a great week!
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Glad you are settled into the new house @CMorning99 . Sorry about the hassle with the re-selling. All of that sounds a bit much for me, but free shipping is always nice. I can't believe how hard it is to build in CA! You have to be patient for sure. I hope things start moving along quickly. Thanks for checking in.0
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Hi all!
@shanaber Thoughts are with you! What a rough battle to be assigned. I do hope that the liver is the last of the cancer and is easier to treat. Enjoy those treats with out guilt!
I think the euculiptis (sp) causes a "drunken" feeling in Koala. Extra yummy!
I am sitting at a friends house doing homework. he is outside whistling and hand washin my car after feeding me lunch. we are together practically 24/7. It is all surreal. We've known each other for 18 years. Of course I havent seen him or talked to him much during that time.
Back to homework. Will check in with everyone later after I get some studying done.1
