I hate when people avoid sitting next to me on the bus. Even if its the last available seat.

allofme32

Here I am staying on track. Exercising, working hard at my goal feeling good about myself. Then today I rode the bus to work and found a seat. I couldnt help but notice people getting on the bus looking my way but not taking the only available seat next to me. Reminding me that I got a long way to go. I dont know if I should feel encouraged to keep working hard or discouraged feeling like no matter what I do people will always see me as the fat girl nobody wants to sit next to on the bus. I choose to not wallow in self pitty today. Just had to vent.

KnitOrMiss

allofme32 wrote: »

Here I am staying on track. Exercising, working hard at my goal feeling good about myself. Then today I rode the bus to work and found a seat. I couldnt help but notice people getting on the bus looking my way but not taking the only available seat next to me. Reminding me that I got a long way to go. I dont know if I should feel encouraged to keep working hard or discouraged feeling like no matter what I do people will always see me as the fat girl nobody wants to sit next to on the bus. I choose to not wallow in self pitty today. Just had to vent.

@allofme32 Please remember a few things here:

1) people are jerks. Period. Selfish, double-standard fueled, overly judgmental jerks. Someone who looks different - OMG, the world is ending! (That can never happen to me mindset. I'd hate to see what happened if a health condition did surface for them - how would they cope?)

2) We are our own worst critics. We see ourselves often as worse than we are, and we feel uncomfortable in our skins, and that causes us to assign motive to actions of others, regardless of reality/perspective/unnoticed factors, etc.

3) It's NOT about you, it's about them... Their own issues.

4) It could be your perfume or shampoo... It could be the seat. Maybe they hate sitting on the outside. Maybe they have anxiety... Maybe they're nervous about themselves, etc. Maybe your fear/discouragement translates on your face to a scowl and you scare them off... No telling. Maybe they are simply scared/anxious about knowing what to talk about or say/do, because they don't know how to be a decent person to strangers...

5) but all that being said, you are you, we here know you are awesome, and so I wonder why you're worried about the perceived opinions of random strangers on the bus? When I hit around 30, I finally woke up and realized that I was so concerned about what I thought others were thinking/doing that I was neglecting myself!!! They are not worth it...

I'm glad you came here to vent and that you're refusing to wallow in self-pity! Remember that no matter what, we're awesome people, and for jerks who don't want to take a chance, THEY are the ones missing out....