Am I the only one?
Beckboo0912
Posts: 447 Member
So I haven't participated on here regularly more because I use my ipod app more the the computer, it will change especially with school starting soon (eekkk!) My name is Becky, I'm 27 and have a 2.5 year old son...I have been raising him by myself for the last year and a half, my family helps out a ton and such but his father isn't in the picture at all. Anyway, my brother saw him about a week ago, and he told me all about it, anyway, I can't help but wonder if my ex wonders what his son is like. I fell a kid changes a ton especially from a year to 2.5 Am I alone in wondering if he wonders how his son is turning out?
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I would not even waste the time thinking about the ex. Mine has NEVER seen his daughter and she is 10...... So glad your family pitches in (mine too). I would have been sunk without mine! if you need a supportive friend add me.....0
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These thoughts go through my head on a daily basis. My daughter is also two and a half. He sees her recently around every six weeks for a few hours. Its crazy to me, she is amazing...I have no idea how you would not want to see her daily. I hope these thoughts don't bother us forever!0
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I am torn about whether or not its a good/bad thing. I guess it depends on each individual case. For my part:
my ex "has" our son 2 days a week, and insists on getting at least that much time so he doesn't have to pay more support. But as far as I can tell, he is actually with our son 20-30% of the time he "has" him. I get calls from my ex in-laws, see pics, actually run into them, etc. And from what my son says all they do when together is sit and watch TV while his dad is on his computer. It has improved since my ex remarried, and I am hopeful it continues to do so. But I almost wish I could just keep my son for the time he isn't with his dad on his "dad" days and just lie to the courts that he is... He is only 5 and hasn't said anything yet, but it cannot be good for him to constantly stay away during their time together.0 -
My ex isn't involved either unless he can profit from having the boy around. It's a shame. I've stopped worrying about whether he cares or what he thinks and just focused on having strong male influences (through church and sports) around my son to help him come out ok.
As my son gets older, he's seeing more and more of his father's issues and becoming more thankful for our new life.0 -
I'm here too. Lately I have had time to log my food into my MFP dairy but I have not been taking the time to chat with everyone going through this too. I think it is one of my downfalls. I have to become more social on here.
I'm glad you are on here.
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