As big guys... opinions on men who like big guys

AZ_Danny

As a large man looking to find friends that I could identify with and that appreciated me as I am, I turned to various sites like bear411 and biggercity. While I have found many great men to talk to, I'm not sure how I feel essentially being someone's "fetish". Even worse, now that I've taken an interest in becoming healthy, I get a lot of negative comments about losing weight. I'd like to think that my friends want me to be healthy, even if it means I'm not their "type" any more (it's not like I'm out sleeping with them, anyway... I've always been quite a prude... but the attention is nice on occasion).

Has anybody else been going through the same experience? I used to stay fat because of all the nice guys I've met (I hate the terms chub/chaser... seriously, I'm NOT your fetish, I'm a human being) that made me feel good about myself, but I find it extremely toxic.

What are your thoughts on the topic?

paulei1975

I agree and feel the same way you do about this situation. I'm not on any bear sites but after I lost about 30 lbs some of my " friends" told me I should gain my weight back. Continue to be true to yourself and what feels good for you. Paul

KANGOOJUMPS

do what you feel is important, do not listen to others..
its all about you.

fjredding

Its funny somtimes you think that yoyr the only person who feels thst way. Im a big guy who had the gastric sleeve done April 2013. I wasnt a really big guy, but had enough of a scare do want to do something about it. Ive lost 51lbs since and want to get to 245. I like being a thick dude. I dont want to be skinny, just healthy. But I find guys who are attracted to me dont like my weight loss. Its hsrd to now realize that now im becoming less attractive cause im looding weight. Is there any guys out here who is judt down to earth and looking for a friend, not a person to uphold a big boy fettish?