Joining the group - 32 year old mum of 2

Caz_Campbell
Caz_Campbell Posts: 16 Member
I'm Caroline, 32 year old mum of 2 girls, aged 2 and 4. My husband and I bonded over food in the early days and it's been a struggle ever since really. My husband had done amazingly well and reached his goal weight, I'd lost a few stone but had a bit of a way to go but we were happy. But life and a love of food got in the way and here we are, again, giving it our best shot. Unfortunately I have a lot more to lose than my husband, a fact that I really struggle with and that affects my confidence and probably our relationship quite a lot. More than I would like and more than I should let it really.

I've got half a lb short of 7 stone to lose. 7 stone. It's almost unimaginable and really I'm rather disappointed in myself but I can't live a life of guilt and blame, I just need to move forward as best I can and do something about it.

There are only two things that have ever really worked for me - slimming world and calorie counting. I've been faffing about on SW the past 10 months since we went on holiday (regaining the weight I lost before holiday) so I'm coming back to CC. I did it very successfully around the time I met my husband 8 years ago. I lost 3.5/4 stone, was motivated by a healthy diet and exercise and was at a point where I was feeling really good in myself. Then we moved in together, kids, all that and life somehow has taken over. But it's time to do this.

So I'm going to set myself 1400 calories a day and will be using My Fitness Pal to track everything. Even on a bad day, I'm going to challenge myself to track it all. I've got my fitbit and am going to try and consistently hit 10k steps a day. Family walk at the weekends. Try to do some form of exercise 3 times a week, even if it's just a walk on my lunch break. No food is off limits, it's all just going to be about burn more than I take in. No pressure. No weekly targets. Just take it day by day and do the best I can.

When I think about the reasons not to do this properly, it's really only because I bloody love food. But that feeling is short term. Any stress relief, any enjoyment, it lasts a couple of minutes. My reasons to lose weight, they last a life time and that's what I need to focus on.

I'm really going to try and focus on what those reasons are:

My children.
To be the role model they need
To be a mum they can be proud of
To be free to do anything they ever want me to do with them
My health.
To be free from worrying about the future
To never be held back from anything I want to do because of my weight.
My confidence and self esteem.
My clothes, my choice of clothes.
My marriage, my relationships with other people, my social life.
Ultimately, my happiness.

I've learnt to try and be happy as I am (although I wouldn't say I've managed that) because I can't spend my life waiting to be a magic number before I be happy but I want to just live the life I want, how I want and not dictated to by my weight, without fear of anything.

So that's me. I know this is a long post so if you've made it this far, I'm impressed. Writing this was more for me, about making it concrete. If that makes sense! So now I've rambled enough, I'll shut up 🙈

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  • Okbt1stCoffee
    Okbt1stCoffee Posts: 1 Member
    Writing it down to make it concrete makes absolute sense! Your reasons to keep on this healthy track are extremely relatable as is the struggle! Thanks for sharing 😊!