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farmers_daughter
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Chatting with a guy online, and he's in his semi. I'm assuming (which I shouldn't) he replies back to me when he stops, unloads, loads etc.
He is asking for my cell # to text, becuase it's easier for him and he doesn't always have internet signal.
I have had a few bad experiences (whiny guys that wouldn't let me alone etc....) and I've already told him I'm slow to hand out my #. I really really don't want to change my number.
When do you hand it out? Do you fall for the "it's easier"? Am I being a brat becuase I have good cell/internet signal with my phone?
He is asking for my cell # to text, becuase it's easier for him and he doesn't always have internet signal.
I have had a few bad experiences (whiny guys that wouldn't let me alone etc....) and I've already told him I'm slow to hand out my #. I really really don't want to change my number.
When do you hand it out? Do you fall for the "it's easier"? Am I being a brat becuase I have good cell/internet signal with my phone?
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I give mine out fairly easily. However, if you both have smart phones you can dowload the KiK app- it's free. It's a messenger app that's just like texting but without giving out your number.0
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There is an app somewhere with google where you can text without giving your number.0
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I give mine fairly easily as well, but the other girls are right if you don't want to give it out, just use one of the apps where you don't have to give your number.0
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Firstly, don't let anyone push you into doing something you're not comfortable with.
Secondly, I think the app is the perfect solution if you're worried about it. :bigsmile:0 -
You can also set up a Google Voice number for free. I prefer it over kik because you can also call each other so it's not just for texting.0
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Firstly, don't let anyone push you into doing something you're not comfortable with.
Secondly, I think the app is the perfect solution if you're worried about it. :bigsmile:
Anna I've said that in my head over and over...
It's that little voice in my head that says "but he won't talk to you anymore" that I need to beat the ever livin' crap out of.0 -
Firstly, don't let anyone push you into doing something you're not comfortable with.
Secondly, I think the app is the perfect solution if you're worried about it. :bigsmile:
Anna I've said that in my head over and over...
It's that little voice in my head that says "but he won't talk to you anymore" that I need to beat the ever livin' crap out of.
Trust me hun, I know that feeling. However, I always find that the one that wont talk to me anymore is the bullet I dodged!! :flowerforyou:0 -
Trust me hun, I know that feeling. However, I always find that the one that wont talk to me anymore is the bullet I dodged!! :flowerforyou:
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Trust me hun, I know that feeling. However, I always find that the one that wont talk to me anymore is the bullet I dodged!! :flowerforyou:
Also agreed!
Should never start out a potential 'relationship' feeling pressured into anything!
Like the app idea!0 -
Get a google voice # asap. I'd never give out my real number, have had to block SO many guys because they end up being creeps, makes it easy this way!0
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Thinking about this some more.
Why does he have to constantly send little messages? Why can't he can't send one message and let it alone for a while and wait for you to respond.
Maybe I don't understand online dating? I gave up on it as it didn't work for me but I don't get the point of constantly texting. I'd rather send a big message and be done with it.0 -
i did look this up but it looked like id have to change my number on everybody... i just want it diffrent for him. maybe ill look againGet a google voice # asap. I'd never give out my real number, have had to block SO many guys because they end up being creeps, makes it easy this way!0 -
You know the funny thing about this comment? (and why I think it is bollocks...)
Trust me hun, I know that feeling. However, I always find that the one that wont talk to me anymore is the bullet I dodged!! :flowerforyou:
Anna I've said that in my head over and over...Firstly, don't let anyone push you into doing something you're not comfortable with.
It's that little voice in my head that says "but he won't talk to you anymore" that I need to beat the ever livin' crap out of.
His friends are probably saying the same thing about you on their side.
Sure it's cute to offer unconditional support to someone, and great that we all think that the people on MFP are always right, but keep in mind that from the other side perspective (the people we talk about here but who will never have the right to answer because they don't participate), they and their friends are always on the winning team too (i.e. they think they are always right too).
Don't let anyone push you into something you're not comfortable with perhaps, but when this is something very trivial such as "going out", "talking to people" (and for some people it could be argued: "giving out your number") then maybe someone has to move their lardy *kitten* to make a change (and by someone I mean "you", the reader) because even though your friends will still tell you that "ur the best" and that "ur right 2 do as u want", you're going to be the one who ends up alone in 10 years, or god knows what else.
Because even though you kept your "freedom of acting stupidly", you were the freak all along and - aside from those people who you labelled as "the enemy" - everyone loved you too much to be honest with you.
* Angry looks towards me * "Oh of course... there had to be a party pooper!"
TL;DR: Be cautious, but try to look into the problem objectively and do something about it.0 -
Am I being a brat becuase I have good cell/internet signal with my phone?
Yes. :flowerforyou:
that was sarcasm ladies. >.>0 -
You know the funny thing about this comment? (and why I think it is bollocks...)
Trust me hun, I know that feeling. However, I always find that the one that wont talk to me anymore is the bullet I dodged!! :flowerforyou:
Anna I've said that in my head over and over...Firstly, don't let anyone push you into doing something you're not comfortable with.
It's that little voice in my head that says "but he won't talk to you anymore" that I need to beat the ever livin' crap out of.
His friends are probably saying the same thing about you on their side.
Sure it's cute to offer unconditional support to someone, and great that we all think that the people on MFP are always right, but keep in mind that from the other side perspective (the people we talk about here but who will never have the right to answer because they don't participate), they and their friends are always on the winning team too (i.e. they think they are always right too).
Don't let anyone push you into something you're not comfortable with perhaps, but when this is something very trivial such as "going out", "talking to people" (and for some people it could be argued: "giving out your number") then maybe someone has to move their lardy *kitten* to make a change (and by someone I mean "you", the reader) because even though your friends will still tell you that "ur the best" and that "ur right 2 do as u want", you're going to be the one who ends up alone in 10 years, or god knows what else.
Because even though you kept your "freedom of acting stupidly", you were the freak all along and - aside from those people who you labelled as "the enemy" - everyone loved you too much to be honest with you.
* Angry looks towards me * "Oh of course... there had to be a party pooper!"
TL;DR: Be cautious, but try to look into the problem objectively and do something about it.
and honestly I gotta say, while it's irritating for someone to have your number when you don't want them to have it, usually when you stop responding completely the unwanted messages and calls die out on their own. It's not like you'll come home and they'll be waiting in your bedroom with a knife because you talked to this guy.0 -
i did look this up but it looked like id have to change my number on everybody... i just want it diffrent for him. maybe ill look againGet a google voice # asap. I'd never give out my real number, have had to block SO many guys because they end up being creeps, makes it easy this way!
? No you don't. You don't have to change your number at all!0 -
There is an app somewhere with google where you can text without giving your number.
I am soooo happy I ran across this post. I have had similar issues and never knew Google voice existed. I now have it thanks!0 -
i did look this up but it looked like id have to change my number on everybody... i just want it diffrent for him. maybe ill look againGet a google voice # asap. I'd never give out my real number, have had to block SO many guys because they end up being creeps, makes it easy this way!
I looked it up. What it looked like to me is You can just choose a different number that forwards the phone calls and text to your existing number. I tried it and it works0 -
Meh.
I am fairly open when it comes to giving my number. Mainly because it's so easy to go on Verizon's website and block a number if you have a creeper problem.
That being said, don't do anything you are not comfortable with.
KIK is a great app.0 -
i did look this up but it looked like id have to change my number on everybody... i just want it diffrent for him. maybe ill look againGet a google voice # asap. I'd never give out my real number, have had to block SO many guys because they end up being creeps, makes it easy this way!
I looked it up. What it looked like to me is You can just choose a different number that forwards the phone calls and text to your existing number. I tried it and it works
LOL yes it does work, I've had it for about 4 years now.0 -
Don't you have to have the internet for KIK?
Its a situation that can backfire but also a risk that can have a great outcome, catch 22
the lady who said don't feel pressured is right, when you are comfortable to give it out is when you should.0 -
I give mine out right away ... I hate having to log in to message someone or read their messages. If they turn out to be a douche, I rename them creative names in my phone so I know not to answer lol0
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Once upon a time we didn't have the internet.... we met people in real life and gave out phone numbers if we were interested. (not trying to sound like a b*tch, promise. But this is what I tell myself.....)
If I were to meet a man at Starbucks and he asked for my number after a quick chat, I'd give it to him. Online dating is a little different. I like to get to know someone a little more before moving on to texting and/or talking. Why? Because there are hundreds of men online and I don't want him to think that I just give my number out to each of them. It also gives me a chance to get to know him, as well as see if there are any red flags that might slip into an email.... you'd be amazed at what a man will email. And, you can get a sense of his "pushiness" or "neediness" a little as well. Anyway, I don't have a set time limit. I just go with the flow and when I'm comfortable, we move over to the phone. Just depends on the guy and the conversation.0
