Open Relationship
CountingCaloriesSuxass
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Tell me about yours..
Your thoughts?
Your thoughts?
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Sometimes I use my left hand, instead of the right....0
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If you or your partner are jealous at all, it will not work.0
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Sometimes I use my left hand, instead of the right....
fvck , you got a wild life0 -
I've seen it work and I've seen it go horribly wrong.
It would not work for me. I'm a stingy b!tch.0 -
If you or your partner are jealous at all, it will not work.
pretty much this.
I know that I could never do one, because I get jealous too easily0 -
If you or your partner are jealous at all, it will not work.
^This is true.
Honesty and communication are very important as well.0 -
Trust is the #1 thing. If you have that, you can have ALLLLL the fun you want to! :bigsmile:0
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I wonder how it works, like do you tell each other where/what you did.0
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Trust is the #1 thing. If you have that, you can have ALLLLL the fun you want to! :bigsmile:
Trust for what though?
I mean you know your husband is banging another woman...you mean trust that he wont leave or something?0 -
I watched a homemade video ("for research") where the guy is watching his wife getting railed by 3 guys, all the sudden he just goes "I can't do this" and everyone stops. It was one of the worst cliffhangers I've ever seen in my life! Cause I had soo many questions for the guy.0
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I watched a homemade video ("for research") where the guy is watching his wife getting railed by 3 guys, all the sudden he just goes "I can't do this" and everyone stops. It was one of the worst cliffhangers I've ever seen in my life! Cause I had soo many questions for the guy.
Oh, so those videos where the guy starts rubbing one out to that, are not always true...I guess..0 -
I wonder how it works, like do you tell each other where/what you did.
Depends on what each couples thoughts are on the subject. Some people don't want to know the details, while others do and when discussing details it actually turns them on.
Occasionally, you will know ahead of time if/when the other person is off with someone else.0 -
Trust is the #1 thing. If you have that, you can have ALLLLL the fun you want to! :bigsmile:
Trust for what though?
I mean you know your husband is banging another woman...you mean trust that he wont leave or something?
Ya, leaving would be a big one. Also, emotional part of the side relationship becoming bigger than the main relationship. Unless the relationship is not based on a strong emotional bond.0 -
my man is mine, noone elses.0
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Trust is the #1 thing. If you have that, you can have ALLLLL the fun you want to! :bigsmile:
Trust for what though?
I mean you know your husband is banging another woman...you mean trust that he wont leave or something?
Trust that your spouse is not making bad decisions. Trust that they tell you everything you want to know. Trust that they are safe.0 -
I watched a homemade video ("for research") where the guy is watching his wife getting railed by 3 guys, all the sudden he just goes "I can't do this" and everyone stops. It was one of the worst cliffhangers I've ever seen in my life! Cause I had soo many questions for the guy.
Oh, so those videos where the guy starts rubbing one out to that, are not always true...I guess..
I guess not.
But I had soooo many questions!
Like who's idea was it? How did you imagine it would go? What was the exact point that he decided this isn't what he wanted? Did they let the the dude finish? Did the relationship rebound from that? And other questions.0 -
It takes a certain personality for this.
Don't be jealous you need to trust, etc.
Talk openly, no secrets, nobody needs all the details.
Keep feelings for your wife/hubby...the other is strictly sex and fun.
Some work out some don't.
Everyone is different.0 -
Trust is the #1 thing. If you have that, you can have ALLLLL the fun you want to! :bigsmile:
this...and not keeping score....once you start keeping score it's down the toilet...
"so honey...you had sex with three women so far and I've only had sex with one man....that's not fair" <----overheard at a party once....i have to be honest...i snickered knowing where that relationship was gonna go....0 -
I took a girl home twice and chickened out twice.0
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I took a girl home twice and chickened out twice.
same girl? And she was stupid enough to go the second time?0 -
I took a girl home twice and chickened out twice.
same girl? And she was stupid enough to go the second time?
No..random girl both times.0 -
I took a girl home twice and chickened out twice.
Didn't picture you as that type.0 -
I took a girl home twice and chickened out twice.
Didn't picture you as that type.
To chicken out or take home a girl? I'm not the type, hence why I chickened out (sobered up may be a better word).0 -
I took a girl home twice and chickened out twice.
Didn't picture you as that type.
To chicken out or take home a girl? I'm not the type, hence why I chickened out (sobered up may be a better word).
The latter. So I was correct.0 -
I took a girl home twice and chickened out twice.
Didn't picture you as that type.
To chicken out or take home a girl? I'm not the type, hence why I chickened out (sobered up may be a better word).
The latter. So I was correct.
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I took a girl home twice and chickened out twice.
Didn't picture you as that type.
To chicken out or take home a girl? I'm not the type, hence why I chickened out (sobered up may be a better word).
The latter. So I was correct.
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Well I had good intentions. :blushing:0 -
Okay...I'm not really a bad-*kitten* outlaw (yet), but I joined because I'm living in an open relationship.
First off, trust in your primary partner is the absolute KEY to making these relationships work.
Open and honest communication are next on that "essentials" list. If there are secrets, there are issues and it's no longer an open relationship.
Each person involved needs to figure out what they are and are not okay with. Perhaps the primary relationship is "fluid monogamous", in other words, they do not engage in any activity outside of that relationship that involves any sort of bodily fluid exchange. Perhaps one orifice is saved only for that primary relationship. It's up to each person to figure this all out and come to an agreement on what is and is not allowed.
For myself, my husband does not want to know what I do with my boyfriend. I don't want to know the details of what he does with other women either. All we ask of each other is notice of time planned with others so that we can plan around it. Another big thing for us is that any secondary partners know that our marriage and family come before everything else. There are no over-nights with others, and safe sex is always practiced.
The benefits...oh man, the benefits are amazing. The intimacy I have with my husband has never been stronger, and because we are learning from other partners, we're bringing new moves into the bedroom and exploring sexual boundaries that I never could have imagined 3 years ago. We're more connected now and we communicate better. Our fights have diminished because of this and we find that we're more caring and attentive to each others needs. I'm so glad that we took the step to having an open relationship.0 -
I took a girl home twice and chickened out twice.
Really? This is all the detail we get? 1st base, 2nd base? Who made the first move? You can't just throw that out there and not detail it. sheesh lol0 -
I took a girl home twice and chickened out twice.
Really? This is all the detail we get? 1st base, 2nd base? Who made the first move? You can't just throw that out there and not detail it. sheesh lol
Both times were with girls I met at the bar, and both times their idea. They happened about 5 years apart.
I was trying to be that cool girlfriend who gives her boyfriend 3 ways. I don't even know. Needless to say he was slightly disappointed.
Long story short, nothing happened either of the times. I did learn that I'm not the slightest bit gay though!0 -
This has been discussed at length in my relationship. As of right now, sex is always between he and I. It may, and has occasionally, involved others as well. But both of us are at least there. We've contemplated the idea of opening things up. Sometimes I want to, sometimes I'm not sure I could handle it. Could I sleep with others without it affecting my relationship with my boyfriend? I think I could. Could I be okay knowing he was banging another girl without me? I'm not sure. And he's pretty much on the same page.
The awesome part is that if there is someone I really wanna do, I can talk to him about it. Maybe we'll make it happen, maybe we won't, but it's so nice to not have to hide the fact that I wanna do someone else. Male or female. And him too. He's perfectly comfortable talking to me about who he's interested in. Neither of us want the relationship with anyone else, just maybe sex. And I think it is perfectly healthy to engage in a relationship like that as long as everyone is in agreement.0
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