Tribute to those who have passed

serafin366

My fiance's brother passed 12 years ago, and since our wedding party involves our entire family, I would really like to do something to pay tribute to his late brother... My fiance has told me his mom is very against anything that mentions the boy, so I am trying to find a way to make it so that my fiance and I know he is with us on that special day. Any thoughts?

Shell30Harrison

Given your fiance's mom is against the idea, it sounds like it may be too much for her if her son is mentioned in the speeches or toasts. Perhaps she fears becoming overwhelmed if there is any public reference to him, or fears upsetting anyone on a happy day?. If this is likely, perhaps a tribute that is more of a photographic nature, to be placed near your guestbook or cake for example, would be a better idea? Your finance's mom could then have a private moment when looking at it?

I have thought about putting together a lifeline map in the format of a photo collage, maybe starting with baby photos of myself and the groom, with lifelines that gradually come closer together and with a photo of us taken near the time we met at the point our lifelines begin to intertwine. I thought I could have photos of the bridesmaids and groomsmen along the way, with dates/explanations of when we met, so that the wedding guests could find out who all the mysterious people in the wedding party are! The reason that I'm waffling on about this, is that a photo collage lifeline could start out with photos of the family, including any family members who have passed - be it grandparents, parents, or siblings. It would be a pictorial way of highlighting their importance to you, and a way of avoiding overtly separating out and highlighting the people who have passed. Family past and current all presented together, before the baby pictures.

pugsleyjean

I have seen people do a memory tree and have different pictures of family members who are no longer with us but are here in spirit. Each branch has a photo frame of a loved one. It was by the card/gift table so it wasn't the main focus of the evening. Something to remember everyone by and make them a part of your special day.

Daerina8

I'm planning to have a memory candle on the guest book table at my wedding with photos of my grandma, grandpa, and everyone else we love who has passed placed around the candle. A cute phrase to put on a card in front of the candle, "We know you would be here today, if heaven weren't so far away".

Another idea I've seen is to have a small photo frame charm attached to the bouquet with pictures of loved ones who have passed in it. http://farm7.staticflickr.com/6085/6049962589_181173d965.jpg

Predsfan2013

I had a cousin who was more like a sister to me she died in a car wreck 9 years ago and my grandmother passed last year. I have an origami owl locket that I am clipping to the ribbon of my bouquet with a sunflower, a breast cancer ribbon, and their birthstones in it. That is my way to know they are there with me.