Head first. Heart second. Glands last. (Find the Woman of Yo

JanieJack

Interesting article on the dating process. I was NOT a fan of eHarmony, but I think the advice is still good:

http://www.forbes.com/sites/billfrezza/2011/05/31/how-to-find-the-woman-of-your-dreams-in-six-weeks/
The author is not religious and did not want a religious girl, but I especially liked this quote:

Set some ground rules before you start, at least in your own mind, because this is where your heart comes out from behind the computer screen. Not to mention your hormones, gunning their engines ready to turn you into an idiot at the least provocation. My rule was: no intimacy before exclusivity. I’m not religious and I’m as randy as the next guy, but monogamy evolved for good reasons.

Another excerpt I liked:

What did the process look like from my sweetheart’s side? She, too, was matched with 200 prospects, though this happened over six months rather than six weeks due to the demographic imbalance. Over that time she didn’t respond to a single request until mine. The pictures pierced her armor.

JanieJack

I guess the title can only be so long... it should be "Find the Woman of Your Dreams"

jesusHchris

I'd much prefer to find the woman of "Yo". Sounds hip, like she could teach me how to break dance or something.

AnnaPixie

if only it were that easy!! I'd say the guidelines are cool, but pretty rare that you would find 'the one' in 6 weeks of trying.

Or perhaps I'm just jaded! :laugh:

AnnaPixie

I'd much prefer to find the woman of "Yo". Sounds hip, like she could teach me how to break dance or something.

haha! A new position for the kama sutra perhaps? :bigsmile:

JanieJack

if only it were that easy!! I'd say the guidelines are cool, but pretty rare that you would find 'the one' in 6 weeks of trying.

Or perhaps I'm just jaded! :laugh:

IDK. From the time Allan posted here that we weren't dating after all (which was news to me haha) and he had truly met the woman of his dreams (ouch) to the time I met BB was 7 weeks. Only time will tell, but the longer we're together, the more he appears to be "the one."

I do not, however, agree with his taking a while to meet people and do filtering via email. For one, online persona typically aren't real. for 2, you can fall "in love" with someone online and be totally turned off by them in person. For 3, eHarmony's "report" on my personality wasn't very accurate so I have to imagine that other matching websites are even less accurate (which means the matches are already imperfect). And, finally for 4, (this may not hold true overseas, but at least where I lived...) everyone calls themselves "a Christian" but few men are compatible with my expression of religion and it's hard to ascertain that over the phone/via email.

laurenz2501

I do like that whole "Head First, Heart Second" thing though....I need to start following that more I think.

kimad

if only it were that easy!! I'd say the guidelines are cool, but pretty rare that you would find 'the one' in 6 weeks of trying.

Or perhaps I'm just jaded! :laugh:

I tend to agree!!

If you follow this pattern - head first, heart second, glands last, you can weed thru quicker I would imagine, but finding 'the one' in 6 weeks of starting out seems very very lucky!

flimflamfloz

Isn't 7 months a bit early to get married though?
Well... They're past the 6 months mark at least.

JanieJack

nevermind