Feeling kind of down

jr235

I'm feeling really down and just wanted someplace to talk with women who understand where I'm coming from.

I feel so crappy, and I have for weeks. I started at about week 4 (turns out I was week 5 by my ultrasound dates) with the constant nausea. The only thing that remotely helped was many small meals, and then when I started constantly throwing up I was put on some medicine and that helped too. But I'm week 10/11 and I still feel like crap. I haven't done much exercising in the last few weeks because i feel like such crap.

I feel like a crappy wife, mother, and employee. My sex life is practically nonexistent. My DH hasn't said anything, but I can tell he's getting frustrated. I am so exhausted I am never in the mood, and the only time we have any alone time is after the LO is in bed, by which time usually I am in bed.

My daughter is always asking me to do things with her, and its basically all I can manage to go to work and come home. I tell her no so often and its awful. I've never been wholly reconciled to working full time. I always say myself as working part time while my kids were young, but things didn't work out that way. At least in the past I could say I spent nearly every spare moment besides my going out running twice a week with her, but now I can't even say that. I spend nearly every spare moment laying on the couch and telling her no. I've been ending nearly every night with a massive headache. On the weekends I can manage to do at least one activity with her, but that is so much less than I normally do.

Then I know at my job I'm considerably less productive than I was before I was pregnant. My boss already knows, and I already got a talking to about my productivity, so I'm stressed about that.

Thanks if you got this far. I guess I just needed to vent. Here's hoping in a few more weeks I start feeling better.

DawnieB1977

I was similar. I felt really nauseous until 14 weeks, and I was so exhausted. I have 2 children already and some weekends I was just having to lie in bed and leave my husband to deal with the kids.

I work part time as a teacher, and I did find I felt ok when I was busy teaching my classes, but I fell behind on my marking. Luckily I don't think anyone noticed!

I did manage to keep exercising somehow, but that was hard.

What I found hard was the eating side. I felt sick at the thought of opening the fridge some days, and I just didn't fancy my usual healthy meals. My husband works shifts, so when he was on lates and I had to make dinner for me and the kids, that was difficult.

Anyway, I felt normal again at 14 weeks and I've been fine since. I'm 30 weeks now and I do get tired, but I have enough energy for my kids, and to go to the gym. My eating went back to normal too, although I have increased my calories now and since I hit 30 weeks I've been craving some sweet things. I was extra tired last week though as my kids had ear infections, so I didn't get a lot of sleep, so it was hard to resist some chocolate!

kristineevans12

Don't be so hard on yourself being pregnant is hard and can make you feel terrible, can you get signed off for a few weeks to get some rest. Talk to your husband tell him how you feel hopefully this is just a phase and you will start to feel better once you hit the 2nd trimester x

hiba_84

Don't feel so bad, it's perfectly normal. First trimester was so hard for me too (and a lot of other women i am sure). The really bad nausea hit me at 10 weeks. It stayed and kept increasing until 13 weeks. I could barely do anything for my son and couldn't concentrate at work. Although they lasted for only 3 weeks, it really felt like a lifetime. But once it was gone, i regained a better mood and though i get tired more often and a lot quicker than pre-pregnancy, it still feels much better than the first trimester.

dandelyon

I am very familiar with the first trimester fog, and I hope you are feeling better soon - it's no fun.

RatherBeInTheShire

Like the other ladies have said, don't be too hard on yourself! This will pass!! I didn't feel okay until week 15 and then everything got a lot better for me. I'm cleaning, exercising, and most of the time feel great. Just hang in there for a few more weeks and i'm sure you will start to come around. You are creating a life and it's hard on the body!

tiggerhammon

Do you have to keep working? I found my peace in moving to part time.

Have you tried BVitamins? If you can get a BVitamin Complex injections - in pure form, not chemical - they will change your life!

jr235

Thanks for the pep talk, everyone! Its nice to know other people understand.

I had an ultrasound last night where the baby looked vaguely like a baby and not a blob. That cheered me up considerably. I always say ultrasounds are the best part of pregnancy. With my first pregnancy I felt worse than I do now, and it lasted until week 14 or so. After that I felt mostly ok. I never felt 100%, but certainly not like the first trimester. During my ultrasound the doctor told me I'm actually closer to 11 weeks than to 10, but they'll confirm that in the next appointment.

My boss did give me a talking to about productivity, but he had just had a meeting with his bosses and I think he was just stressed out. Since then he's been nice about things. I just took two weeks off because we had planned a vacation before I knew I was pregnant. That helped because I didn't have to work, and since DH wasn't working either he did most of the childcare. Last night he gave LO her bath and he's been putting her to bed most nights. Still, she is overall really clingy and I'm having a difficult time dealing with the guilt of telling her no so frequently.

I'm on bcomplex pills, I haven't heard of the injections. I also have some other medicine for nausea. Same active ingredient as Zofran I think, but I'm not in the US so I'm not sure.

Thanks again!