Weight-loss Barriers
agarlits
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I thought it would be productive to get a discussion going on some standard weight-loss barriers that we commonly face on our journey to live a healthier lifestyle. In this discussion topic please post any roadblocks that you have encountered during your journey, how you overcame them or what your game plan is to overcome them.
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I find the biggest barrier is that people don't understand that putting time aside for yourself, which you HAVE to do, and putting time aside for your health are the same thing. Before I elaborate, I will reiterate that I am in no way an extreme dieter or anything like that. I still get wings at the bar, drink a bourbon on the rocks, whatever. I'm not eating kale and seeds and doing hot yoga. I'm a typical midwestern tomboy grown up. I have so many friends who complain that I am in better shape than them and they are just too busy to do anything about it for themselves even though they want to. It's annoying. Especially as you get married and/or have kids, you have to still show everyone you are an individual outside of your relationship definitions, which means you have to still do things for yourself. Feeling good after exercising gives me more energy and a better mom during the day. Looking good after exercising and eating the correct amount of calories makes me more confident physically and mentally to be a desirable mate to my husband. Feeling better and looking better bring more good energy that positively effects every other part of life too.
A year ago I decided to live by this: I am never too tired to do something for myself after doing things that I didn't want to do all day for other people.
You do things all day you don't really want to be doing, many of us anyway. There's always something you'd rather be doing. So don't make the excuse of being too tired to do something that you know is good for yourself. Don't skip the gym, don't skip the cooking time for the healthy, non-takeout meal, don't tell your significant other you're too tired for intimate time. Don't let your friends who make excuses make you feel guilty for taking care of yourself.0 -
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Thanks for the advice. I was visiting with some friends, and I was saying how I had this whole list of things I "used to do". I used to play volleyball, I used to ride horses, I used to take backpacking trips, I used to play soccer, I used to ski, and on the list goes. All those things that made me happy, and filled my life before the busy life of raising 4 boys squeezed them out one by one.
Now I still have lots of things that make me happy, but they are bound by what I can do "with my kids", and what I can afford to do now that I am a stay at home mom, trying to raise 4 children. I have a husband who I love, yet he does not share an interest in maintaining the same kind of active lifestyle I want for myself. Anyway.... the point is that I need to remind myself that dedicating time to something that I love, even if it means doing it by myself, is a good thing. I feel so selfish when I do leave them out. Yet the boys are not old enough play at my level, and my hubby just doesn't want to.
So maybe I should go sign up for a rec league for volleyball, or soccer. The friends I used to play with do not have a team any more, but I could use some new friends to get out and active with.0 -
@rachelg
Love, love, love your quote "I am never too tired to do something for myself after doing things that I didn't want to do all day for other people."
It's 1 pm ...... am off work today & already tired from catching up on housework & laundry ........ entertained the thought of being a couch potato & watching TV, but had also promised my MFP peeps I would go to the gym ....... oh, the guilt ! Guess I can watch later, that's what the "record" button is for LOL
(putting on sneakers & heading out the door :drinker: )0 -
@rachelg
Love, love, love your quote "I am never too tired to do something for myself after doing things that I didn't want to do all day for other people."
It's 1 pm ...... am off work today & already tired from catching up on housework & laundry ........ entertained the thought of being a couch potato & watching TV, but had also promised my MFP peeps I would go to the gym ....... oh, the guilt ! Guess I can watch later, that's what the "record" button is for LOL
(putting on sneakers & heading out the door :drinker: )
Gotta love the MFP friends accountability, just another reason why having an e-support group is so important. That and you know you love seeing those "likes" when you post a good workout!0 -
If anyone has been on the diet roller coaster more than once, then you have to figure out there is nothing wrong with the ride. You got on the roller coaster and got off at a better place. Only to go pig out at the concession stands, get fat/out of shape/whatever and head back over to the roller coaster once again. So if there is nothing wrong with the ride, then the only thing left to blame is the concession stand or ourselves. A lot of people like to point fingers at the concession stands (soda's bigger than x size should be banned) saying they are to blame. If the fast food places did not exist my child would not be overweight (yes, this is true.. a woman sued a known fast food chain with this argument). However, to own up to this sort of argument puts you on the same level as a cow feeding out of a trough, after all they either graze of eat what is given to them. What happened to taking responsibility? For their own body? For MY body?!
Overweight or out of shape people need to address what is wrong INSIDE before they can every truly fix the outside. I don't know if it is a coping mechanism, food addiction, laziness, apathy??? Until you figure this out, confront it and come to terms with it, you will not change. I will not change!
“Until you make peace with who you are, you'll never be content with what you have.”
― Doris Mortman0 -
You got on the roller coaster and got off at a better place. Only to go pig out at the concession stands, get fat/out of shape/whatever and head back over to the roller coaster once again. So if there is nothing wrong with the ride, then the only thing left to blame is the concession stand or ourselves.
Love this analogy. Something to think about today, thanks!0
