Need to vent, beyond frustrated right now

skroeze87

I am beyond frustrated and need to vent so I hope people don't mind.

here is my story....

At 16 I was put on birth control to create my first period, and avoid having a baby. It didn't work as I ended up pregnant a few months later. I lost her at 27 weeks when I went into premature labour.

Life went on and I stayed on a higher dose birth control with several back up methods and things were good.

About two and a half ago I was diagnosed with cervical abnormalities and had to have surgery to treat it before it became cancer. When dealing with that I decided that I wanted a baby. The OB/GYN I saw wanted me to try naturally for a year first ( no big deal I didn't know anything was wrong. After 6 months off birth control with no period, he started to investigate. I was diagnosed with PCOS then. Progesterone pills to restart system put me in hospital. I was told to keep trying and improve my diet and exercise. Ok, did that. I am eating better and am down 20lbs.

Now I am waiting to get back in to see doctor. My family doc will not do anything to help me. I haven't had anything resembling a period in over a year. I know I am only 26 now, but I become even higher pregnancy risk after age 30 and the OB/GYM will not help me ( I have a heart defect that caused blood clots easily)

I am frustrated with my health care system. I needed a new referral for ob/gyn despite seeing him before. I saw him after the referral went in for another cyst, but he wouldn't help me. ( I even had to wait for cyst to pop, since surgery date wasn't available).

I can't help but feel like I lost my chance to be a mother, and I am not much of a woman any more. This PCOS is ruining a lot of my life. It breaks my heart to have people ask me how far along I am ( PCOS belly), going to friends baby showers to be asked when am I going to try, and I am growing a lot of hair in places that shouldn't ( I have a moustache always going).

I am willing to try anything right now

trinity9058

It sounds like you need a new doctor to me. I don't know how that works in Canada, but can you get a second opinion and move your care elsewhere?

Even with PCOS, I didn't have a problem with getting pregnant so I can't say that I know how you feel. Wanting a baby is one of the strongest urges known to humans and I know it has got to be killing you. The best advice I could give you, besides getting a new doctor, is to live your life to the fullest. Don't make having a baby the focus of your entire life. Once you've stopped waiting for it, it'll happen.

Have you heard of that scenario where the couple who tries for a baby for years adopts and then bam!!, they're pregnant? This could be like that. Stress can absolutely keep you from getting pregnant as stress hormones can mess up your entire hormonal system. Just keep healthy and work with a doctor and eventually, you'll have your own little bundle of happiness.

I'm rootin' for ya!

skroeze87

It's hard to find a family doctor taking patients here, and most won't take you if you have one. I have asked to be referred to more than one OB/GYN but they don't let me. The system is so fubared here. I work in it so I know. We keep losing our MDs to the states and abroad. Wait time are really getting bad for certain specialities. I have tried talking to some of the doctors I work with, but they know there is nothing they can do.

I am still plugging away at my clean eating and exercise in a hope that my body will try and fix itself more naturally. See how strong I can get and maybe even create more time for myself.

I am helping control the baby fever with workouts and spoiling my friends kids. If it happens, it happens.... if not there are lots of kids out there without families that can use one!

Alliwan

I am helping control the baby fever with workouts and spoiling my friends kids. If it happens, it happens.... if not there are lots of kids out there without families that can use one!

Im sorry for your frustration over seeing the doctor. I don't know about the health care up there, so I cant comment much.

But what you said is huge! I'm 37 and its my husband that cant have kids and because of some issues with a daughter I had from a previous relationship we cant adopt. Like a previous poster said the urge/want to have children is one of the strongest human emotions there is. But there are A LOT of kids who want forever families. And you don't know all the joy, life changes and special children that is waiting for you out there if you choose to adopt. But you have a great attitude and your doing well with eating. Stay positive as best you can. You don't know where life will lead you but its almost always to a place you want to be but didn't know it at the time.