baby blues?
shelbz123
Posts: 48 Member
Hi ladies just wanting any support I can get. I am a ftm and I am so in love with my son who is now 6 months old. I have a great husband and loving and supporting family but I just feel so empty. I have always been an over achiever I have always felt confident in myself and looked great had a great job all around confidence. I gained 50lbs during my pregnancy I was healthy and the drs never worried but even now 6 months pp I have 15lbs to go I just feel this lack of confidence in everything I do. I feel like everyone is judging me on how I am as a mom and I know that no one is I am just being so sensitive but I cant help it. my mother in law was holding my son the other day and said oh he has dry skin and I took that as a stab that she was trying to say I don't take care of my little guy. I feel like I am going crazy. please tell me I am not the only one
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You're not alone! I had post partum depression after I had my son in February 2013. I just had my daughter on 4/25. Our hormones are on such a roller coaster after giving birth. The placenta produces 300 times the normal amount of progesterone non pregnant women have and once we give birth boom it's gone. Three to four days after giving birth our estrogen levels are depleted to that of a 70 year old woman. The best thing you can do is eat well and take care of yourself and the baby. Make sure you're getting your vitamins too, I take a ton of supplements. There is so much pressure on moms in this country to be and do everything and parenthood is made out to be this blissful experience. Well the reality is sometimes it sucks and you have to keep yourself healthy first and foremost. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk :-)0
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Being a ftm can be a lonely business and feeling alone can start a cascade of lost confidence and worse. Do you mix with other mums? What do you do with your time other than look after baby and housework? Get some hobbies, so that you continue to achieve - cross-stitch, gardening, painting, card-making, walking marathons, whatever!. And get out and hang with other mums - at the park, at the leisure centre, at the coffee-shop. Being a ftm doesn't mean putting your own life on hold, just taking it in a different direction. Plus my own mother nit-picks like that and it helps to vent it, then ignore it and pray we don't end up like that too, lol! Get yourself busy, don't dawdle through life worrying what other people think, life is too short. Live life to the fullest and enjoy
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Trust me, you aren't the only one. Please make sure you also mention this to your doctor the next time you see him/her.0
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I can empathise. I was siting in a cafe today with my two darling daughters, bored out of my tree. When you have had a successful career it can be a jolt to the system to be a full time mum - and yes, the way others treat you is hugely different - sometimes people speak to you as if you're mentally challenged which is peculiar (I know I have "baby brain" but, hell, it's not that bad).
For me the solution will be part time work, just a few hours a week to keep my brain challenged, to allow me to interact with adults and to give me a break from all things baby and toddler. Friends, mummy groups, hobbies and exercise are a must too.
Take care of yourself and if you start feeling overwhelmed, talk to your doctor.0
