Lack of intimacy following childbirth

cdziallo

Hi, my name is Catherine. During my pregnancy in 2012, my husband felt uncomfortable being intimate with me. I had our daughter August 2012, and we have only been intimate a few times. That's 2 years with very little loving. I originally lost about 25 of 50 lbs gained from the pregnancy. When I realized my husband had no interest in me anymore I guess I subconsciously regained all the weight. I've worked hard to get back down that first 25 lbs, but I am still experiencing his unwillingness to be intimate with me. Not to mention I put a few lbs back on, again. Has anyone else dealt with lack of intimacy from their child's father following childbirth?

lucysmom9313

My husband and I used to have sex atleast once, sometimes 3 times a night, but when I was in my third trimester sex was painful for me, so we had to do other things. After baby, he had gone a long time without getting any, and of course was ready to jump in. But now we really only have sex about 3 times a week, which a big change. My libido didn't drop at all after baby but I think his did. Our daughter sometimes doesn't go to sleep til 11 pm but she sleeps through the night. He's always "tired". I feel like I'm the man and he's like the woman in the bedroom. I think it's mostly just being a parent. He get's way more stressed out now because he thinks of our daughter at all times, and making sure she has everything, he's always been a worrier.

cdziallo

Thank you. My husband is the worrier too and he's always tired from work. I guess I feel unattractive because I'm still overweight and my body has changed so much plus he's not touching me or making me feel beautiful. It seems as though he's not attracted to me anymore and is too polite to do anything about it. I've told him several times about how I feel and he still keeps his distance. I really want to get in shape just to see if his libido comes back. And if he does want sex once my body is rockin', I want to turn him down just to make him feel horrible for being so shallow. Hopefully his libido issues are all him and has nothing to do with my appearance. Thanks again for relating.