Just found out
kinkyslinky16
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Hello,
Got 4 very positive pregnancy tests yesterday. Today was supposed to be the first day of my period, and no surprise, it hasn't come. I have one child, born in Jan 2010 (he's 4 1/2). I had a miscarriage in July of 2012 at 11 weeks pregnant that I did naturally and it was an awful, awful experience. I have a history of PCOS, but my periods are regular at 30 days on the dot. Like my first pregnancy, this was not planned... at all. In fact, my husband and I had decided we were done trying. We weren't actively trying, but obviously not preventing either. My husband is beyond thrilled about being pregnant again, but I am still kind of on the fence. I guess I had romanticized the idea of only having one child. My husband and I had decided that we weren't going to prevent (I HATE birth control pills, it really messes me up). If it happens, great. If it doesn't happen, great. Because it's been 2 years since my miscarriage, I was pretty sure pregnancy was not even an option at this point. Granted, I have lost quite a bit of weight now. Not to mention, quite a few of my friends and even my MOM (who has 3 kids!!) tells me if they could do it over again they would have only had one child. Regardless, I am here now. I have lost a total of 61 lbs, and really do NOT want to gain it back... which is also contributing to my less-than-thrilled response to the pregnancy tests. I have completely changed my entire lifestyle and am SO worried that pregnancy may reverse my progress. My husband is sure it won't because I've made such drastic changes and have been very consistent with them... I guess it's an irrational fear of mine. Anyways, I plan on continuing to count calories and will see if my doctor would allow a VERY small deficit of 200 calories per day (wishful thinking, huh?). Gosh, I don't even have an OB anymore.. My last OB told me that I needed a c-section because he was guesstimating my son to be close to 13 to 14 lbs at delivery. Not even close! He was born 9lb 3 oz. Needless to say, he is not my physician any longer.
I don't even know why I am rambling. I guess because I am still in shock and on the fence about it all. I don't plan on telling family (outside of my sister, whom I called yesterday freaking out), or friends until after the first trimester considering my miscarriage was at 11 weeks last time... In addition, these awful pregnancy dreams have already started. I don't have wonderful, sweet, idealistic dreams of life when I am pregnant. No, not at all. I have horrible dreams of death, destruction, significant loss, turmoil, etc. They are awful. Any words of positive encouragement would be appreciated.
Nice to meet you all!
Got 4 very positive pregnancy tests yesterday. Today was supposed to be the first day of my period, and no surprise, it hasn't come. I have one child, born in Jan 2010 (he's 4 1/2). I had a miscarriage in July of 2012 at 11 weeks pregnant that I did naturally and it was an awful, awful experience. I have a history of PCOS, but my periods are regular at 30 days on the dot. Like my first pregnancy, this was not planned... at all. In fact, my husband and I had decided we were done trying. We weren't actively trying, but obviously not preventing either. My husband is beyond thrilled about being pregnant again, but I am still kind of on the fence. I guess I had romanticized the idea of only having one child. My husband and I had decided that we weren't going to prevent (I HATE birth control pills, it really messes me up). If it happens, great. If it doesn't happen, great. Because it's been 2 years since my miscarriage, I was pretty sure pregnancy was not even an option at this point. Granted, I have lost quite a bit of weight now. Not to mention, quite a few of my friends and even my MOM (who has 3 kids!!) tells me if they could do it over again they would have only had one child. Regardless, I am here now. I have lost a total of 61 lbs, and really do NOT want to gain it back... which is also contributing to my less-than-thrilled response to the pregnancy tests. I have completely changed my entire lifestyle and am SO worried that pregnancy may reverse my progress. My husband is sure it won't because I've made such drastic changes and have been very consistent with them... I guess it's an irrational fear of mine. Anyways, I plan on continuing to count calories and will see if my doctor would allow a VERY small deficit of 200 calories per day (wishful thinking, huh?). Gosh, I don't even have an OB anymore.. My last OB told me that I needed a c-section because he was guesstimating my son to be close to 13 to 14 lbs at delivery. Not even close! He was born 9lb 3 oz. Needless to say, he is not my physician any longer.
I don't even know why I am rambling. I guess because I am still in shock and on the fence about it all. I don't plan on telling family (outside of my sister, whom I called yesterday freaking out), or friends until after the first trimester considering my miscarriage was at 11 weeks last time... In addition, these awful pregnancy dreams have already started. I don't have wonderful, sweet, idealistic dreams of life when I am pregnant. No, not at all. I have horrible dreams of death, destruction, significant loss, turmoil, etc. They are awful. Any words of positive encouragement would be appreciated.
Nice to meet you all!
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Congratulations! Celebrate. All will be fine and dandy, I sure. Set your calories to maintenance and concentrate on staying fit for labour. It's up to you whether you eat back all of your exercise calories or not. For exercise they say to continue what you're doing, but not to try anything new. You don't want to push too hard right now, but if you're used to two classes a week and three gym sessions or whatever, stick with it for as long as you're able. Try and eat home cooked food, rather than processed and take a good pregnancy multi-vitamin. You will have to gain some weight, at least 15lbs, but that will be mostly baby and fluids. As a rule if you eat healthily whatever you gain will fall off after, whereas if you eat junk you'll find it a lot harder to lose after. And read this all again in a fortnight when the pregnancy has sunk in
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That's really sweet of you. Thank you!
It will take some getting used to the idea of being pregnant again. I keep telling myself, "I'm pregnant now" to try to ease myself in to actually believing it and eventually being happy about it.
Thanks for the support!
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When I got pregnant with my 3rd child we weren't trying to conceive or trying to prevent it either. I had a bit of baby fever and was thinking of having another but really wanted to get back in shape first. I am now about 10 weeks pregnant and started off about 15 lbs overweight. I too worried about the weight gain but I have logged my food on here everyday for over a month and to my surprise I haven't gained a single lb. (I am not trying to diet, just maintain).
When we had our 2nd I was nervous about having 2 but they adore each other and I can't imagine them not having each other now. Our oldest is 6 and our youngest is 16 months. Having 1 was great but having 2 has turned out to be even better.0 -
Thanks for the words of encouragement. I truly appreciate it. One of my biggest concerns was that my two would be too far apart in age by 5 years but it seems that is the age difference between yours and it has worked out just fine. Come to think of it, the age span between most of my friends that regret having more than one kid is between 2 and 3 years apart. Maybe it's the age difference that's the most important.
Just about a month ago, my son asked us to go to the kids store and get him a big boy to play with lol. We told him they start off as babies and he said no he just wanted us to buy a big boy lol. Guess he got his wish kind of.0 -
Our oldest daughter started asking for a sibling when her classmates at daycare started having brothers and sisters. The first couple months after our 2nd was born there were a few melt downs when the oldest wasn't getting enough attention (usually at bedtime) but that quickly resolved and our oldest acts like she is the mommy always wanting to take care of her baby sister. I think her age helped because she was becoming a "big girl" and we can explain things to her. I think keeping them involved helps. When I had my baby shower I got my daughter children's books about being a big sister and about having a new baby. I would tell her how important she was as a big sister and all the things she could teach her baby sister.0
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That is great advice! Actually, today we went to the library and checked out a bunch of books about being a big brother, changes that will happen, what to expect, and how to help out. We plan on doing this monthly until baby is here so that it really prepares him for the changes. He is super cute and already saying he wants to feed the hungry and thirsty baby. Melts my heart!0
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That's so cute. My daughter once scolded me for drinking a soda while pregnant. She said "mommy babies can't have soda!" :blushing:0
