heart break sucks!

gym_king_carlie

worst feeling ever! wow, been punched in the face numerous times, broken bones, been cheated on, but the woman I love with all my heart no longer is in love with me.....that ish hurts more than anything! devastated

farmers_daughter

Oh darling! I've been there it truly does suck! Everyone will tell you to take care of yourself, which is the most important thing you can do. The second most important thing you can do is to not shove it all inside, pick a time when you are alone and have an hour or so to yourself and allow yourself to grieve. It may sound silly, but I mean it with all my heart. It helps. Remember happy times, cry your heart out, and when you are done grieving, wipe your tears and move on with your day. You may need to do this a few times, but always limit it to an hour or so. No longer. You must not waste precious time on something that you cannot control.

You can only control yourself, and you will make it thru, time truly does allow one to heal, even though when you are going thru it, it feels like a complete hell of an eternity.

Hugs are sent your way!!!! Stay strong, make good choices and allow yourself time to remember who you are, because who you are is AMAZING!!!!! :flowerforyou:

OperationSuperKAT

I'm so sorry :sad:

Take care of yourself. *hugs*

gym_king_carlie

Thank you, I know I agree, I feel like ive lost my best friend, but she doesn't feel the same and you cant control anyones feelings but your own. Theres no ill feeling, in time we will be friends, thankfully, I'm involved with Cancer Research training for a fight to keep my mind busy

I thought I would vent it on here, thanks

I'm grateful for the memories and for once, someone who showed me relationships aren't bad, fortunately we was a distance relationship so I don't worry about bumping into her anytime soon lol.

cheers ladies

sweetcurlz67

Carl,

sorry you're going through this! i also lost my best friend/love, but he lives relatively close to me. Haven't bumped into him quite yet - thankfully. but yes, it's totally heartbreaking! guess he wasn't 'the one' like i thought. Anyway, it will take a little time but be sure to care for yourself and don't be too hard on yourself. give yourself time to heal.

i'm impressed about the cancer research as it's very close to my heart - many in my family had/have it including myself. but even though you bury yourself in your work, you have to allow yourself to heal.

take care of YOU!!!

Hugs... :flowerforyou:

pa_jorg

I'm sorry you're going through this right now! :flowerforyou: There isn't anything else to say that will make you feel better, so just remember that we've all been through it at one point or another.

sewerchick93

*hugs*

I have nothing more to add than what has already been said.

*hugs*

gym_king_carlie

Thank you Bethany that's very kind words and likewise its very close to me and my 'ex'

I'm absolutely devastated, I have no trouble meeting people I don't worry about that, I just loved her a lot, maybe I had never been in-love before as previous relationships were destructive and I felt relief to be apart in them, I will be friends in the future with my ex just not right now, Shes a wonderful person and deservers my support.

I've decided I am saving up mid October and going to travel America next year. I'm nearly 27, lifes to short to dwell, I may even see if I can bring charity into the equation positive thoughts equal good outcomes thank you for your encouragement

and thank you ladies :-)

m1xm0d3

Thank you Bethany that's very kind words and likewise its very close to me and my 'ex'

I'm absolutely devastated, I have no trouble meeting people I don't worry about that, I just loved her a lot, maybe I had never been in-love before as previous relationships were destructive and I felt relief to be apart in them, I will be friends in the future with my ex just not right now, Shes a wonderful person and deservers my support.

I've decided I am saving up mid October and going to travel America next year. I'm nearly 27, lifes to short to dwell, I may even see if I can bring charity into the equation positive thoughts equal good outcomes thank you for your encouragement

and thank you ladies :-)

Having been there before, here's some advice, friend.... some or all you may already know.

Don't dwell on what you 'could' have done. Everything happens for a reason
Stay busy, but don't burn yourself out
Don't dull the pain by self medicating, it will only get worse
Don't go out seeking a replacement or place holder
Do things you know will lift your spirits. (Exercise & shopping for yourself come to mind)
Surround yourself with supportive friends you can open up to

Time does in fact heal all wounds and what doesn't kill us only makes us a stronger person.

gym_king_carlie

thank you my friend I completely agree with you.
this experience of pain is a first for me, I have my moments of weakness but life must go forward and I can not put myself on a wall to watch it go by

cheers buddy

cbeutler

Sorry for your heart break. You are not alone my friend.