Venting

wennim

Ok so I wasn't sure what to title this post and I started this new one instead of taking the daily post off topic. Not sure what I am looking for here just a safe place to vent.


I have four sisters. Three have have always been larger girls and one makes a point of telling me every time she loses any weight which she always gains back double because it is with fad diets. So the boys and I went out to lunch with my parents and a couple of my sisters last week. I had only seen one of them since I started losing weight and everyone else had last seen me 70 lbs heavier. Not a single person said anything about my weight loss. I was disappointed but it is par for the course with them and why I only see them occasionally.

Yesterday the one sister that I do see a little more frequently was over and she starts asking if I have had my thyroid checked. I have and it is functioning on the lower end of normal but still in range. Then she goes on to tell me that her and another sister have both been tested and even though theirs are functioning a little better than mine they talked the dr into giving them a medication to raise the function. As a result of this magic little pill she has lost ten pounds and my other sister lost 25 in 2 months. So according to her I really need to push the dr to get this medication to help me lose weight. UHM EXCUSE ME!!! I have lost 70 lbs on my own with only hard work and watching what I eat. When I started this journey I said I would do it all on my own without any medical help. I thought I was doing well.

I know it isn't a contest but I am sickened by the fact that they may lose more weight than me and yet again their success will over shadow mine. I know for a fact that I am in probably the best shape I have been in in 17 years. I am getting stronger and I will keep the weight off. I just don't understand how you can look someone in the eye that I think has obviously lost some weight and tell them this is what you need to do to lose any.

I have support from my immediate family and I know that should be enough but would it be too much for someone else to at least acknowledge my hard work?

carostad

Hang in there. Sometimes people are afraid to comment about our weight because they don't want to offend. 70 pounds is a lot, but believe it or not, a lot of people don't notice it. Very few people that I know have notice that I've lost any weight. It's even hard for me to see sometimes.

Keep at it, and ignore the haters. You know that what you're doing is good for you, and that's what really matters.

julieworley376

I have to second on the weight loss front caro, the bigger you are the less people notice and also they don't want to defend or sometimes get into the discussion.

Now when it comes to the sisters and their mad weight loss schemes I am reminded here of something my husband often says.. the best revenge is living well. So. When they are even bigger once again and you have stayed the course, well, there isn't going to be anything else for people to do BUT notice that!!

carimiller7391

I concur.. the best revenge is living well. Do what you know is working for you. Let them do their fad diets. Soon they will see your results and ask you what you've done different.

Also, according to my endocrinologist, that little magic thyroid pill makes you lose muscle, not fat.

Keep up doing what you are doing as You are ROCKIN' it.

Hugs,
Cari

sherambler

I agree with everyone above. It's unfortunate but not uncommon. I think it also depends on where you lose weight from.carry your weight that makes weight loss more or less noticeable. It sounds like your family is just so used to harping on you about losing weight, that perhaps they're too blind to notice your progress. It sucks, but at least you know what to expect (or not to expect) from your family. So the next time you see them, if they don't say anything, don't be surprised or let it get you down. Simply adjust your expectations and move on.

My family is the same way. Not with weight necessarily, but they never ask about what's going on in my life, even when they know I got promoted or started volunteering or whatever. So when I meet up with them or talk to them, I don't expect it. On the off chance they mention something, it's a nice boost.

Also, her little pill sounds like a temporary fix. Once her body regulates itself with the new hormone, she'll probably be faced with the same original problem. A pill doesn't automatically change what you put in your mouth or get you to the gym.

You're doing an amazing job. Take solace in the fact that there are so many people, including me, looking at those 70lbs and going, "jeez, I wish that were me." And also that you're creating a lifelong change. Many people try but don't succeed, including--it seems--members of your family.