GRRRRARGH

logg1e

Back after a rest week, deloaded, focused on form, (though I had) had a great session. Right at the end after doing the deadlifts, the PT comes trotting up to ask me where I'd learned this rubbish and I'd been doing the deadlift wrong. Then proceeded to tell me that the lift should be all in the glutes. Three other men by this point were listening in. I was fuming and ready to scream or cry in frustration.

Doesn't he think it's hard enough as it is for me to turn up and work out in the weights area without this humiliation? I have never seen him intervene with some of the shocking form of the other, male lifters.

And this is the same PT who told me there were no 35lb barbells and that the bench press isn't a compound move.

I thanked him for saying something if he thought I was about to hurt myself and left. I wish I'd thanked him and added, "next time would you take me aside and talk to me without an audience?".

logg1e

And breathe.

SezxyStef

wow just wow....

This again makes me glad I workout at home....seriously.

I am not sure I could have kept my mouth shut.

It would have went something like this...

"you know I appreciate good advice....but not this. Show me the studies where it says benching is not compound....peer reviewed please. As well just for an FYI DL works all anterior muscle groups and shouldn't just be glutes and if you think that you are are doing it wrong...now toddle along to your clients who are paying for your crap advice, I prefer to get mine from reliable sources not someone who probably got their cert online."

unreal...

logg1e

Thanks for the words of support Stef. I must admit that I'm planning on re-jigging my gym routine to avoid this PT as much as possible and will definitely never approach him for any favour again (we're supposed to ask the on-duty PT to spot us on the bench).

canadianlbs

it's outrageous that you're being bullied like that by this little creep, and you have to change a schedule that's working for you just because he can't or won't keep his so-called ideas in his pants.

i keep almost starting out to give some advice. then i realise that if it was me, i'd probably only manage an opening sentence like 'listen, you obnoxious little **** -' and then i think i'd just drop 45 pounds on his foot. so i've got no authority for telling you how to deal.

logg1e

I think one thing that doesn't help is I keep remembering the words of one of the other PTs, "Oh, he doesn't crack a smile unless you've impressed him, you've got to get his respect before he's friendly" and I'd just laughed at this and said something about being too old to worry about impressing someone with that attitude.

randomtai

You thanked him??? No wonder they walk all over you... I would have choice curse words along with my ***** face. I never get bothered at the gym AT ALL.

logg1e

You thanked him??? No wonder they walk all over you... I would have choice curse words along with my ***** face. I never get bothered at the gym AT ALL.

I often have that kind of angry response to hearing about how others are treated and make similar, "I wouldn't stand for it" comments. However, I recently read an article about such comments diminish the experience of the person actually there and somehow detracts from the behaviour of the person in the wrong and shifts blame to the person on the receiving end.

randomtai

You thanked him??? No wonder they walk all over you... I would have choice curse words along with my ***** face. I never get bothered at the gym AT ALL.

I often have that kind of angry response to hearing about how others are treated and make similar, "I wouldn't stand for it" comments. However, I recently read an article about such comments diminish the experience of the person actually there and somehow detracts from the behaviour of the person in the wrong and shifts blame to the person on the receiving end.

*shrug* If you say so... :ohwell:

canadianlbs

However, I recently read an article about such comments diminish the experience of the person actually there and somehow detracts from the behaviour of the person in the wrong and shifts blame to the person on the receiving end.

i feel sometimes it shifts attention to what a badass the listener would have been in the same spot; which diminishes the person who was actually in the situation and didn't have the benefit of a cool head. sowwy.

i admired your coolth in reacting to him, actually. not a single rude word :drinker: there's a way of 'thanking' people that is really a dismissal . . . like 'thanks for your application but we're not hiring today' kind of thing. very eleanor roosevelt.

randomtai

Or maybe people are actually different and respond differently in different situations. Try not to read too much into someone's response. Focus more on the people who are actually being rude like the PT. *nod*

logg1e

Or maybe people are actually different and respond differently in different situations. Try not to read too much into someone's response. Focus more on the people who are actually being rude like the PT. *nod*

But this is our point. You didn't comment on the PT, which is fair enough of course, and your only point was to state that you presume people walk all over me, and its my fault.

randomtai

Or maybe people are actually different and respond differently in different situations. Try not to read too much into someone's response. Focus more on the people who are actually being rude like the PT. *nod*

But this is our point. You didn't comment on the PT, which is fair enough of course, and your only point was to state that you presume people walk all over me, and its my fault.

That's how you perceived it. This isn't the first thread you made complaining about this PT... I thought you put him in his place the first time he was rude to you. I guess not. Do whatever makes you happy.

logg1e

Cheers randomtai, I'm not trying to fall out with you, and perhaps I have misinterpreted your words.

Happy lifting!

randomtai

Cheers randomtai, I'm not trying to fall out with you, and perhaps I have misinterpreted your words.

Happy lifting!

No hard feelings at all. I particularly hate when people interrupt other's workouts with nonsense, so that is probably where my tone was at. :drinker:

MissHolidayGolightly

Thanks for the words of support Stef. I must admit that I'm planning on re-jigging my gym routine to avoid this PT as much as possible and will definitely never approach him for any favour again (we're supposed to ask the on-duty PT to spot us on the bench).

You shouldn't have to rearrange your schedule around him. If he bothers you again, tell him his advice is not welcomed and ask him to please refrain from interrupting your workouts.

logg1e

I know what you're saying MissH. I'm just angry and have a bit of a tendency towards cutting off my nose to spite my face.