Help!-how to deal with negative people!

beachlove09

So i am a nanny for two 12 year olds. both are very active and thin. the other day, i came to their house and found the girl on the floor crying. she told me that her brother was making fun of her for being fat because her mother put her on a diet. she is 12 years old and in great shape.. i found her the next day feeling very sick because all she had to eat was a banana.

im just wondering if you guys could give me some advice for how to approach this because i dont want my boss to be angry about me negating what she said but i want the girl to know that she is healthy and doesnt have to restrict herself.

im just worried about seeing her go down the same path

thinkingthingirl

Oh thats terrible she seriously only has a banana to eat all day? The poor thing must be starving. Maybe talk to the mother about it? Theres no easy way around it though.

beachlove09

yea totally agree. just gotta find a way to approach it without her thinking im trying to upsurp her as the girl's mother

♥Faerie♥

Very touchy subject with the mother, yet, if you don't say something this 12 year old could end up on our path.....not good....kids are so subjectable, and her mindset and self esteem could have already been changed.....I would have no idea of how to talk to her mom......maybe by telling her you would like to take the girls to a healthy deli or something, "To get them into healthy eating"......