Michelle Duggar - Is this her sign?

dragonbait0126

It has been shared that Michelle Duggar miscarried in her 2nd trimester. They have openly stated that they will continue to have children for as long as God allows. I think it can be agreed upon that her body has been to hell and back with the number of times she has been pregnant. I can't imgine what she has gone through and I respect her for being able to handle it. But with this happening do you think they will continue to get pregnant? Should they continue? At what point do you exercise free will and say enough?

BuffyEat2Live

I am sad for them during this difficult time.

And no, I don't think that they will stop having babies because of this. Do I think that they SHOULD stop having them? No, I'm pro-choice and it's her body.

mikajoanow

It has been shared that Michelle Duggar miscarried in her 2nd trimester. They have openly stated that they will continue to have children for as long as God allows. I think it can be agreed upon that her body has been to hell and back with the number of times she has been pregnant. I can't imgine what she has gone through and I respect her for being able to handle it. But with this happening do you think they will continue to get pregnant? Should they continue? At what point do you exercise free will and say enough?

My grandma had 20 kids, if you count her step kids she had 26. I think Michelle Duggar is well aware of herself as a person and while I don't really understand why anyone would want to carry that many kids, she seems to enjoy it. I think she will try again, and I think they should continue if they want. I don't really agree with their parenting style but I don't think they are bad people.

Yakisoba

This better be a sign because the glad bladder attack didn't work.

kapeluza

As awful as this sounds, I'm pretty sure it's her uterus starting to go on strike.

Drunkadelic

She needs to stop.

1. She's 45 years old. Her risk of having a baby with Downs, or an even more serious genetic defect, is increasing exponentially every year. That's not really fair to anyone.

2. If she doesn't stop (which I'm guessing she isn't), there is a very high chance she will die during child birth at too young of an age. Also, not fair to her other 19 children, her grandchildren and her husband.

3. If they really want more children, ADOPT! I don't so much agree with their lifestyle, but they are good people with good intentions. They could really help out a child in need. Plus, they are "well-off" enough to afford it.

I personally think it's selfishness and a ploy for fame. If it wasn't, they wouldn't be on a freakin' TV show.

nehtaeh

I don't think they try now so I don't think they'll try to stop. I think they let whatever happen happen - it's gods will or whatever. I just hope that whatever happens, she stays healthy cause that's a lot of kids that would have a hard time losing their mom.

ETA: Geez that's a lot of 'whatevers'. :grumble:

poisongirl6485

I personally find it INCREDIBLY selfish on their part to keep trying to have kids. Yeah, I know, they'll have kids as long as 'god' will allow, blah blah blah.

But given the seriousness of her last pregnancy and medical issues the baby had etc, I find it really selfish that she would risk her health and risk leaving her other kids without a mother just to have another baby.

I'm not surprised she miscarried. At her age and with how many kids she's had, her uterus simply cannot do it anymore.

Grimmerick

I understand wanting to have your own children but after the 3rd one I would have respected them way more if they would have chosen to only adopt after that instead of adding to the worlds already overloaded population. If they are such good people you would think that they would have wanted to improve the lives of the children already here that deserve a good home. But it's her body and as long as they never ever ever ever ever ever need any assistance from society at all for them or their children then I guess I don't care what they do.

Marig0ld

It seemed like the youngest little girl barely made it through, poor thing! I mean, she has GRANDKIDS now, that's gotta make for really confusing family reunions!

Bahet

They should start to adopt and give her uterus a break. They won't. They will keep having kids until she's post menopausal or dead, whichever comes first.

KayteeBear

I feel very sorry for the family. I don't care about the circumstances, it's never easy losing a baby and I would never have wanted to wish harm on her or her baby.

And obviously they're not going to stop trying...they never began trying in the first place.

futiledevices

Well, these people obviously don't believe in contraception, so as long as they're having sex, I think they'll keep having kids.. until menopause kicks in. I don't think it's fair for her to keep having children - imagine being 10 years old and having your parents die of old age? :indifferent:

adrian_indy

I really don't care enough to research these people, but what ever they want to do with their time, family, and bodies is none of my business. BUT.....with the 56 kids they have or whatever craziness, if they ever go on welfare or food stamps I'm going to lose my mind.

maidentl

I am sad for them during this difficult time.

And no, I don't think that they will stop having babies because of this. Do I think that they SHOULD stop having them? No, I'm pro-choice and it's her body.

This sums up my feelings as well.

macpatti

I've never watched this show, but I've been able to follow the story via online news sources. Any miscarriage is a sign. It's a sign that there was something wrong with the fetus. I wouldn't necessarily call it a sign from God that she shouldn't have any more children, but it's a sign her body may not be capable of carrying another child. If what I've read about her doctor suggesting she not get pregnant again, then I find it incredibly selfish if she does. She should not put her own life in danger by taking risks like that because she has other children to care for. If a doctor recommends she have her tubes tied, for example, no church is going to ex-communicate her for that. She knows how not to get pregnant.

summalovaable

Honestly, it disgusts me to see people having this many children. As if they have no consideration ( or perhaps realization) of the rapidly increasing population. Should she have more kids? no. Should she have had this many kids? No. Is it my decision? definitely not, so really does what i think matter? Not at all.

To me, having 20 kids intentionally is no better than a man who fathers 20 kids with 20 different woman. (O.K. its a little better, at least they support and raise all their children...) But still, enough is enough.

After this many pregnancies though, do you think her body remembers what its like to NOT be pregnant....

daffodilsoup

Let me start out by saying that I do feel for Michelle Duggar - though I've never experienced it, I'm sure miscarriage is an incredibly sad and difficult thing to have to go through. Though I think she and her husband are absolute morons, miscarriage is not something I'd wish on anyone.

However, as someone who believes that having children should be a privilege and not a right, I find the Duggar's decision to have so many kids to be nothing but selfish. I get it, in America you are free to practice your own religious beliefs, but come on, there are currently 7 billion people inhabiting an already strained planet. Imagine the waste that house produces! Feeding twenty children, diapering twenty children, carting them all around in a school-bus sized vehicle - just because you can doesn't mean you should. Even if each of those twenty children grows up and has only two children each - what's considered a "modest" American family - that will still be another forty people on this planet gobbling up resources - just from ONE family!

It kind of bugs me that reality TV has picked up on them and essentially glamorized their lifestyle (I feel similarly about shows like Sixteen and Pregnant, Jon & Kate Plus 8, etc.). Sorry, but you're not doing a favor for anyone else in the world when you have a kid, and when you have twenty of them "and counting", you're pretty much giving every orphan in the world the finger.

She shouldn't consider the miscarriage to be a sign to stop having children - she should take the fact that she already has twenty goddamn kids to be a sign that she should stop having children.

_Timmeh_

It's a reality TV show that makes money.
There are other methods besides birth control to prevent her from getting pregnant, Jim Bob could get snipped...it's an outpatient procedure these days. But doing that would change the premise of the TV show.

killerqueen17

They don't believe in any form of birth control, nor do they believe in taking any sort of action that would prevent a pregnancy... so I don't think she will "try" again, but she's not going to actively avoid a pregnancy either.

I'm sure she realizes that the chances of her having more children becomes slimmer and slimmer as she nears menopause...

fbmandy55

I personally find it INCREDIBLY selfish on their part to keep trying to have kids. Yeah, I know, they'll have kids as long as 'god' will allow, blah blah blah.

But given the seriousness of her last pregnancy and medical issues the baby had etc, I find it really selfish that she would risk her health and risk leaving her other kids without a mother just to have another baby.

I'm not surprised she miscarried. At her age and with how many kids she's had, her uterus simply cannot do it anymore.

This. And I feel like it's to a point now where they are just having kids for the attention. Yes, they may have started off as a wholesome, conservative Christian family, but now it seems like they are just continuing on for money, fame, etc...Look at how their lifestyle has changed since they got the show.

Izable2011

It scares me that she keeps having kids. I think it isn't responsible to continue trying after a certain age. She needs to keep herself healthy for her other 19 kids, but that's really none of my business. Her kids look pretty happy to me. So I guess I'm undecided on whether or not she should continue. I personally would not. I think big families are great but when you get to be a certain age it would not be a bad idea to be more responsible about your decisions. Then again she and her family have a lot of love to give and are financially stable. So who am I to judge?

:indifferent:

poisongirl6485

Her kids look happy because they don't know any better. Once they start to realize that there's a whole different world out there, things will change. My uncle and aunt have 7 kids and have a family dynamic much like the Duggars (my aunt would still be having kids if her doctor didn't basically tell her that she'd likely die in childbirth next time as she lost about 2 liters of blood with her youngest). They are quite religious, they homeschool, they've sheltered their kids pretty well, etc. Once the oldest ones started realizing what the real world was like, they had a hard time adjusting and rebelled quite a bit (drinking, drinking and driving, etc) when they got a taste of freedom.

Izable2011

It isn't good to be sheltered. The real world is a tough place. I came from a family of 9 kids from the same parents. I love my family. I love all of my siblings. We are all very different from each other. We weren't home schooled. We didn't rely on the goverment for money. It can be done. It's just not for everyone. I don't think I could handle that many kids but I would like a few if I can one day.

_Timmeh_

Makes me wonder if any of the kids has ever been out to dinner, gone to see a movie, played with neighborhood friends, went bowling.....normal growing up stuff. I can't imagine them walking into Applebee's and asking for a table for 20.