do you see yourself as always bigger/manlier than other wome
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My height never bothered me. I'm 6' 1" and my brother is 6' 4". We're the freaks of the family since everyone else is 5' 7" and under, but it never bothered me. My weight has ALWAYS been the issue. I adore being a tall woman. My husband (who's 5' 9") loves his amazon wife!
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Yes. In the past when I have had my nails done I feel like I have man hands. I do not carry a purse because I feel it is too femine for me due to the way I look. I have bigger arms which make me feel like a football player. I do not wear make up because it makes my skin feel dirty and I do not want to attract attention to myself.0
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Sometimes, yeah. If I'm looking at pictures in which I completely dwarf my petite and skinny friends, yeah. Sometimes I feel silly wearing short skirts and dresses because they are SO short on my loooooong legs. But generally, I just don't think about it. I wear clothes that make me feel professional and somewhat feminine, and I'm usually pretty comfortable in my own skin.0
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Yes! I love love love my height!!!! Actually when I was younger, I wanted to be taller.
When I was growing up, I wanted to be 6'3... and I fell about 4 inches short Damnit! hahaha I LOVE BEING TALL!0 -
I'm almost 6'1" and I feel MUCH bigger than everyone around me.
I wish I could be like some of you girls; I love all of this positivity and tall girl power. I like being tall kind of, but I do wish I was more like 5'9" or something. At least then I could probably buy pants in stores and I could wear heels without feeling TOO gigantic.
You ladies are my heroes!!
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I'm almost 6'1" and I feel MUCH bigger than everyone around me.
I wish I could be like some of you girls; I love all of this positivity and tall girl power. I like being tall kind of, but I do wish I was more like 5'9" or something. At least then I could probably buy pants in stores and I could wear heels without feeling TOO gigantic.
You ladies are my heroes!!
You should see the shoe thread. I will put my 4 or 5 in heels on in a quickness. No one is going to make me feel bad about my height or size. I know I am FLY!0 -
I'm naturally a tomboy. I feel "manlier" at a heavier weight. When my curves are more defined, that's when I put on the heels! I'll feel better when I'm more comfortable in a skirt! Soon!0
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I have more issues with feeling "Manly" when I am overweight.
I am 5'10" and built with curves and natural muscle. When I get over 170-175 I stop wearing heels because I feel insecure, like a giant blob. When I am 150-160, I feel tall, athletic and beautiful. Peoples actions and comments changed alot when I lost weight a few years ago.
It's like your pride in yourself shows through and people draw off of it. I understand the "unapproachable" thing a little, but, when your actions and demeanor begin to reflect strength and confidence, it changes you from unapproachable to "Hmm I thike the way she carries herself, think I'll give it a whirl".
Larger gals tend to hide behind their personallity I think.They tend to smile alot and talk alot. As we get smaller in size, I think, our outgoing-ness tends to get smaller too. You have to keep being outgoing or let your new found confidence take over, I suppose, in order to stay approachable.
Anyways, just my thoughts an observations.0 -
yes definately! especially as all my friends growing up were round the 5"5 height, and i'm 5"11. i always ended up feeling like the giant! i never wear heels as i'm scared people will think i'm a man in drag! lol! even though i see lots of women my height wearing them and think, how do they manage to do it, looking all glamorous and girly?!! i think it's made worse when short men are awkward around you being tall so for some reason end up treating you like a bloke!! lol0
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A coworker told me a very long time ago that folks were speculating that I was a lesbian because I was so tall, had short spikey hair (it was the 80s!) and wore such tailored clothes. I was wearing what I could afford that fit. I was not especially curvy -- leaned more on the athletic side -- lanky. That really hit home. Oh, nothing against lesbians, but I didn't like the idea that everyone thought I was butchy.
I started wearing a bit more make-up and jewelry -- made sure I had earrings in every day. I let my hair grow out a bit and chose a softer, curlier style.
I am not a pinkie twinkie either, but I do purposely choose feminine colors to mix in with all the black. In the winter, I make sure I've got a pashima or scarf on if I am wearing a black leather coat. Now that I'm older, I can't wear long hair -- it's just too thin -- so I want to make sure I'm not mistaken for a man from the back.
I love being tall, but I do not love being overweight and tall.0 -
Bigger, definitely yes. But the accompanying adjective is not manly. It's smarter, more confident, more competent, leader, etc. All those positive qualities men get assigned without having to do anything about it. I LOVE my tallness accompanied by smartness and confidence!
Post of the year. Or decade even. Perfect.
I LOVE being tall. I love it. The fact that I love it is helpful, since I can't do anything to change it...
Hey, I've just had an epiphany, the things I dislike about my physical appearance I can change. The things I like about it, I've got for life. How cool is that? That's a bit of an ego boost for a Thursday afternoon.0 -
Don't any of you girls ever sit down? I've got long legs so when I sit down, it's a level playing field and I no longer 'tower' over others
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Don't any of you girls ever sit down? I've got long legs so when I sit down, it's a level playing field and I no longer 'tower' over others hahah this is a good way to look at things. I will say though, I'm 5'11 and I'm leggy... but I still have a super long torso... So, even sitting I'm still taller. I also have fantastic psture (my grandmother always said "Shoulders back, knockers up! Be proud of who you are!") so shorties don't have a chance. LOL but I just rock my awesomeness and I couldn't care less if people are short or intimidated by me. That's their issue, not mine :bigsmile: 0
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I feel like now and then. Guess it depends on body image/clothes on the day but sometimes i feel like this giant, broad shouldered thing about to take out Tokyo! Doesn't help either that i'm a bit clumsy and am always falling over things or bumping into poles...
My feeling of being bigger/manlier than other girls has been helped since dating my finance who has a good 4 inches of height and 60 pounds on me which helps to at least give me the illusion now and then that i'm delicate and feminine looking :P
Wouldn't trade away the height for anything though- didn't like it as a teenager but the pro's definitely outway the cons nowadays. Have even started wearing heels in the last few years. Boom!0 -
I have always seen myself as a "big" girl and I hate that--but I LOVE being tall. I wear heals and it doesn't bother me to tower over men or women. I just wish I wasn't so "thick"....or I see myself as thick. UGH!!0
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definitely at 5'11 I just wish I was... idk dainty. Fragile looking. Its like I want to be the cheerleader but I'm trapped in a linebackers body! I'm so with ya'll with this one!0
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YES! I was talking to my friend about this the other day. I have no boobs, and I'm 6'1", I feel like a MAN for sure. I would love to even just be 5'11". I'm single and I hate being out at the bar or just in public in general and looking over the heads over pretty much everyone. AND when my friends see a super tall guy out they automatically just tell me I should date him. It's so frustrating and annoying! In high school I always was worried about this and talk to my parents about it once and my dad said "yeah, boys are probably intimidated by you because you're so tall..." so that's been stuck in my head since then and I really dislike it!!! ugh.
P.S. How can i join this group/thread so I get updates on it!? Thanks 0 -
hehe I'm a big woman. I have a large bone structure, so even when I reach my goal - I'm going to be larger than other women I see on a day to day basis - and that is ok! Of course, I'm also an ex-powerlifter, so I think that may add to it a bit I am, however, not manly. 0
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Yes, yes, yes! I'm 5"11", and when I was younger and at a lower weight, I felt like a supermodel when I walked into a room. Now I feel like Shrek
This comment cracked me up Thank you!0 -
I am 5ft 9 -so at the lower end of the scale to join this group
i always felt much bigger than all my friends. Especially at school - and in my early twenties.
I have kind of got used to it now I am 44! and my son is taller than me at 14.. husband is taller, stepson is way taller.. but the issue I think for me is not the height but the 'size'.
Yes, supermodels are tall - but they are willowy (skinny) and hence appear more feminine. When I weigh in at 163lbs -I feel not quite as gazelle like as Heidi Klum.. And when I work out - blimey - those muscles build up gooood.
This generation and subsequent - are all agoing to be taller - boys and girls. So we need to encourage our tall kids to embrace it. I remember being called a 'big girl' as achild - it may have been meant in a general way, but I always felt like it was a kind of insult being 'big'.. ? Would ratherhave been called a pretty girl or clever girl! Which i was/am also!0 -
I constantly feel a bit on the 'manly' side, not so much specifically about my height, but my build (I am quite a 'big' girl) and stuff like having quite large hands (and not in a good, long-elegant-fingers kind of way). This, coupled with the fact that my sisters-in-law, mother-in-law and loads of my friends are quite petite, does make me wish I was a bit smaller in stature. If I decide to wear something nice, I always feel that I have to check with my hubby that I don't look like 'a bloke in a dress'
This!!!
When I go dress-shopping, I am always quite paranoid about looking like a bloke in a dress. I have some Dutch genes (a tall country!) so compared to other people in the UK, my 5.10-5.11 height really does stand out. Moreover, I enjoy strength training and I like my muscles, but I have naturally broad shoulders. Many feminine clothes make me look like a man...especially strappy dresses or boob tubes. However, I have long legs and love wearing mini skirts to show them off. I get many compliments from other women, like: "oooh look at those long legs...".
Fortunately, I have hips and a waist, so my body is quite hourglassy to counteract the big shoulders.
I feel much better about being tall now that I am slim. When I was bigger (UK size 16), I just felt like a woman-mountain next to my petite friends! Now (UK 10), I feel like a sexy tall blonde woman...
I work in a secure setting with violent male offenders, and being tall and muscular does make me feel more in control, and like I could have a chance at defending myself should something go wrong.
But even now, when I go for coffee with my gorgeous petite brunette 5 ft tall friend, I kind of feel like a big-handed, big-footed, mountainous person, and end up slouching. On balance I'm pretty happy with my height though!0 -
You know how they say that dogs look like their owners. I own a Weimaraner and normally feel like one. Big ears, big feet, tall and clumsy.0
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OMG!!!! I just had this conversation with the woman I work out with. Although I am only 5'9 which is short compared to the women my daughter plays volleyball against...lol, I always feel so big! I'm tall, big and have broad shoulders. This is very frustrating to me sometimes. I have to go read the other responses now, maybe I will feel better.0
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I must also add, I wished I was a bit taller, and I find that tall women carry their weight better. I am 227 and look much smaller than that. I do find I build muscle well (except for ab muscles..dang kids) and have extremely muscular legs. I've had men tell me they wished they had leg muscles like mine. I do love being tall, and I LOVE LOVE LOVE high heels. I look great pole dancing, and I bet the rest of you tall ladies would too!0
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I have never felt "manly" due to my height but awkward??oh yea..... I dated 2 men shorter than me and I really don't want to offend but....uh.....the comments we got were really embarassing although they were meant to be for fun...Let's just say..my husband is taller than me and I'm grateful for this!0
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bump to read all the comments later...was just shopping for heels for a wedding i'm in and i was getting really upset bc of the fact that i'll be so much taller than the others and my foot wouldn't fit into any of the shoes i tried on0
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i certainly do - and i think that is because of the height, and not feeling "feminine" or "petite" enough, especially growing up where all the boys seemed to want the girls who were short, petite, cute etc. now im finally coming into my own, but sometimes that thought is still there that leads me into a binge (like today)
Yes, I feel this way too! It's actually a relief to hear other tall women feel the same...0 -
I felt this way when I was heavier. I always thought that my shorter petite friends were prettier and more feminine than I was. But now I'm fit and thin I'm happy to be tall - clothes really do look better on taller people. We can sport large purses and wear clunky shoes and not look silly. I found out at the doctors the other day I'm really only 5'10 1/2 and it made me a little sad...
I rock a pixie cut, my legs are miles long and I'm proud to be a tall girl!
I'm going to a wedding this summer and the shoes I'm looking at are at least 5". My date is 5'6. He told me to rock it...0 -
Wow! You took the words RIGHT out of my mouth! Except I'm more like 5'9 and used to play rugby so change "linebacker" with "prop".definitely at 5'11 I just wish I was... idk dainty. Fragile looking. Its like I want to be the cheerleader but I'm trapped in a linebackers body! I'm so with ya'll with this one!
I do try to to wear skirts, dresses, heels, jewerly, and cute blouses to help me "feel" more femine. When I was heavier, I felt more like a drag queen and trust me my broad shoulders, short hair, no hips or defined waist, and 38Fs weren't helping me feel more like a woman. Luckily I lost some weight so I now feel more comfortable dressing up. YAY!0 -
I felt this way when I was heavier. I always thought that my shorter petite friends were prettier and more feminine than I was. But now I'm fit and thin I'm happy to be tall - clothes really do look better on taller people. We can sport large purses and wear clunky shoes and not look silly. I found out at the doctors the other day I'm really only 5'10 1/2 and it made me a little sad...
I rock a pixie cut, my legs are miles long and I'm proud to be a tall girl!
I'm going to a wedding this summer and the shoes I'm looking at are at least 5". My date is 5'6. He told me to rock it...
Soooo glad you said that about your 5'6'' date. My husband is 5'7'', and loves when I wear heels. I think the weight is the only thing that makes me feel "manly". I can't wait to lose this weight and feel like a supermodel on my husband's arm!!!!0
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