Single on Christmas blues

getitamb

Ok. I'm going to rant a bit. Anybody else look aound at their cousins and other family members as well as friends and realize that they are the only ones that are single? How do the rest of y'all handle that sad feeling when everyone else is talking about their boyfriends and you realize you don't even have anyone that likes you like that worth mentioning.

keg619

I guess it might just be me, since I have always been single, but I enjoy the time with the family. Instead of feeling sorry for myself that no one wants to be with me at this point in my life, I remind myself of the things I like about me. I don't need another person to make me feel like I am of worth, I just spend the holidays with friends and family. They all are taken for the most part, but I am happy for them, instead of jealous. I, personally, don't feel sad. Only rare occassions does that happen. I try and be as optimistic as I can, so when I do feel sad about not having a significant other, I remember that in good time I will find someone who is worth the wait, and worth all of the jerks that were before them.

mznisaelaine

Yes! My older brother is married, my younger brother has a girlfriend.. My cousins are married or in a relationship...etc...and the worst part... My cousin (who is married) kept asking what happened to me and my ex... I still had a great time today... But still everyone is coupled up...

Saruman_w

Yes! My older brother is married, my younger brother has a girlfriend.. My cousins are married or in a relationship...etc...and the worst part... My cousin (who is married) kept asking what happened to me and my ex... I still had a great time today... But still everyone is coupled up...

This very reason is why I always felt so depressed and down when going to a cousin's wedding or visiting them in general. Every single person and their friends were coupled up and would ask when I'm going to find someone as if I had an answer. I just felt completely out of place.

mnwalkingqueen

Ok. I'm going to rant a bit. Anybody else look aound at their cousins and other family members as well as friends and realize that they are the only ones that are single? How do the rest of y'all handle that sad feeling when everyone else is talking about their boyfriends and you realize you don't even have anyone that likes you like that worth mentioning.

I also don't have anyone that is worth mentioning at this time of the year. My baby sister is married and than it's just me. I spent 2.5 hours in the gym today working that feeling out and watching my Packer team win while doing cardio.

christine24t

It's definitely tough being single. I am to that age where I am starting to get questions about it, and I never know what to say. I feel you. Christmas especially is a time of year for families and couples, and it is hard when you are single.

getitamb

Ok. I'm going to rant a bit. Anybody else look aound at their cousins and other family members as well as friends and realize that they are the only ones that are single? How do the rest of y'all handle that sad feeling when everyone else is talking about their boyfriends and you realize you don't even have anyone that likes you like that worth mentioning.

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I also don't have anyone that is worth mentioning at this time of the year. My baby sister is married and than it's just me. I spent 2.5 hours in the gym today working that feeling out and watching my Packer team win while doing cardio.

I'm giving you a virtual high five for going to the gym today. You are awesome for that!

skierxjes

Yea, my brother always brought a girlfriend and my sister always brings at least one of her men and I'm always, always alone..

BondBomb

Yeah the holidays are especially hard! It's not that everyone around me is coupled it's that I have never gone this long being single. And if I didn't have a little one to put first I probably would be on to the next boyfriend. Hell maybe even remarried by now. But I'm not willing to trust anyone around my little dude until he is old enough to communicate effectively. So a few years of being single for me.

1FitMom326

I can completely relate. I have been divorced 7 years and only had one relationship since that lasted more than a year. I am the only single one and I get tired of being asked if I'm dating or have met someone. I do get depressed when I see everyone else has someone and often ask what it is about me. I love my kids and enjoy the time I have with them but I do always hope that the right person will come along.

zombiesama

yes it is a little sad knowing that, but it is something that doesn't bother me too much. I just don't really care about it as much as I should, it seems.

mnwalkingqueen

@getitamb thanks for the high five for the gym. It atleast got my mind right for a few hours and off being alone.

Elfinmajic

I would just respond "Wow you guys are still together? I'm surprised! I figured you would be broken up by now!"

bregalad5

27 people at this house for Christmas dinner. They figured out that only 2 of us over 16ish (which accounted for about 3 of the 27) were single. Ouch.

Shrinking_Xtina

It doesn't really bother me when I'm around the couples within my family but it makes me ridiculously umcomfortable when I'm around a group of friends, all talking about their partners and I can't contribute to the conversation. Then when I'm asked if I have someone and I say no, I can't help but assume they're thinking that I can't find anyone because of my weight. I know it's an awful mentality to have but I do since I'm always the single one.