Checklists...

kimi131

I sorta unwittingly brought this topic up in one of my previous topics. I said I had met a guy who met my checklist. I think a few people didn't read passed that statement, even though my topic was about something else entirely. I didn't really mean that I have a real checklist, no specifics. What I should have said is that I met a guy who meets my non-negotiables. He has the same political and religious views as I do and, for me, that's HUGE. My so-called checklist doesn't go beyond that. I don't have any specifics a guy has to meet. Sure, a few things I guess I would like to find in a guy, but if he doesn't have those qualities it doesn't automatically disqualify him.

Anyway, same guy just admitted that he has a checklist. I don't know what all it entails, but it sounds more specific that my non-negotiables. So far, I know that it has something to do with boring and innocence because he "covered those in his old life." And that there is no such thing as too innocent to him. Ahh, well, I am not too innocent, so that could be a positive or a negative, not sure which.

I am kinda bugged now that he has a checklist... I mean a real one (because, like I said, "mine" hardly counts.) His sounds more specific and now I think our dates will feel more like interviews. I said I didn't want to be checklisted and he said "don't worry, I wouldn't still be talking to you if that was my interest." Umm... I'm not sure what that means. Well, now I think I'm going to be even more nervous around him wondering if I meet the checklist. And, if you read my other post, you know that's already a problem. :grumble:

So, thoughts on checklists? Do you have one? Do you have "non-negotiables"? Have you ever been in this situation?

mnwalkingqueen

I have a list of Expectations and Wants in my partner the top 5 things on the list are deal breakers. They mostly are around respect and faithfulness. Yes, I have dumped partners or stopped talking to potential partners that don't live up to what I am looking for. Live is to short to settle and not be happy.

christine24t

i have a checklist but i would be willing to budge on some of the things. the one thing i can't budge on is that he has to be taller than me.

Saruman_w

Yea, there're a few things that I check for that're non negotiable but it's not many.

cdngirl71

I have a top 3 deal breakers and won't budge on them either.

1. If he lives with his parents
2. Smoker
3. No job

mznisaelaine

Well I just prefer a guy who isn't verbally/physically/emotionally abusive, does not smoke or do drugs, is doing something in his life, and someone who can help me through anything..and hopefully a Christian. I don't ask for much but basically have a good head on your shoulders in life

nwhitley

I think everyone has a checklist (some are written and some are in your head). However, I think many people are scared to admit it because if you do then other people will say you are too picky and that's why you are still single. I definitely have a checklist, but there is not enough space for me to post it lol

kendrafallon

I have a top 3 deal breakers and won't budge on them either.

1. If he lives with his parents
2. Smoker
3. No job

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