Hungry Kids/Spouse ALL the time and You trying to not over e

sarajeunegriffin

It is SO hard to have hungry kids/spouse around all the time and preparing and serving them food.......and remember that you can't put all that food in your mouth too!

I sometimes get frustrated and wished I lived alone just so I didn't have to be around food! I reationalize that .....then I would be at a healthy weight.

I know I don't really want to be alone but really don't want to have to be around food all the time!

How do you all deal with this?

anchorageb2

I too have struggled with these thoughts. Blamed my husband because he likes to eat too. Then I thought about a lesson we had in church about How we will be attacked through our families. Anything to tear us apart and tear us down. I would sit there think wait... He did not make me fat. He never forced me to eat those foods. Yes in my family we look at food as a form of showing endearment and my hubby loves me buying me chocolate and foods I like all the time.However would my eating habits really change if I left. I Know my trigger to eat is worry or depression and being lonely all the time... I mean my freezer would of been stocked with Ice cream and reeses peanut butter cups.

Lately I have been praying to love my family more and for heavenly father to take my anger away. I have been trying harder to diet with the spirit and not what some human who thinks he is a god telling you this or that will work. Its funny in the military I had to learn to be a nutritionist for MOS yet I keep trying to follow some fad diet. It was a real wake up call to realize no diet would work unless I had faith that heavenly father will guide me to make right choices and I have to ask him to do so. Now in all honesty I have been trying this method for only week. So far I do not feel locked down. I do not feel like I am cheating on something or someone. I have thoughts of I want to learn to love myself so I can love others. I have been looking forward to exercise and the spirit seems to be stronger with me since I have asked for his help with this issue. He can not be with me if I am hating myself or if I am full of anger. It seems I have found books with great advice and so far have been abundantly happier. I even shared my testimony today on what I experienced and had tons of people come up to me telling me they would like to diet with the spirit too. I hope you try it as well and we can do it together.

lonishaw

I have a similar yet different situation. My kids are very picky (and my husband too, I guess). So when I cook a meal, they cry and complain that it's disgusting and not fair that I make them eat it. If it's not chicken nuggets, breakfast foods, mac and cheese my kids don't want to eat it. So I easily get frustrated because I don't want to cook multiple meals for myself and them. My husband has been really great and supportive of me, but he doesn't like some foods and especially veggies. Once again, if I cook a meal with veggies in it (not as a side), I get complaints.
I've been trying to be more patient about it and just continue to introduce new food options for them. Sometimes they don't eat and sometimes they do. I can't change what they eat or want to eat and that has been hard for me to deal with.
I have been trying to turn to my Father in Heaven for help. He knows my desires and struggles and will support me when I come to Him. It took awhile for me to realize, that I could ask for help with weight loss. After all, I'm the one that let myself get this way (these have been my thoughts anyway). But I have been making it a matter of prayer lately, and while it doesn't solve my problem right away, it has helped me to be more patient and just take it one day (even one meal) at a time.
I hope it gets a little easier for you. If not easy, at least more manageable.

anchorageb2

Wow that would be really tough. I am usually the one in my home to speak up and say I did not like something because if I do not my husband will continue to buy it. I learned early not to say anything about my likes or dislikes until my daughter is finished or she would not finish it all and be adamantly stubborn about it no matter how much I told her it was ok if we liked different things. I also made it a point that mommy ate it anyways.
I taught my family you eat what I fix unless I think its bad. There will be absolutely no snacks and no other food made. If they did anyways... guess what ? I cracked down and threw everything away that was junk food. I told the oldest when we go to the store you buy your own snacks. Also when she started stashing snacks I figured it was time for her to help make dinners and the shopping. when she reached her teens she had to make a dinner every other week and learned what it felt like when no one wanted to eat her cooking, she also felt very rewarded when her family liked her cooking.
There is also a rule at our house is you can not say you will not eat until you have taken one bite. After that you can go hungry until the next meal. My oldest learned I meant this rule when she purposely burned the food thinking we would go out to eat instead and everyone in the house had to take a bite of it. I found out she purposely did it when she stomped of grumbling she should of burned it worse so she did not have to eat it. Later that night I shared with her aborigines brush there teeth with charcoal and her eyes got humongous.

About a month ago I was researching recipes to learn how to make vegetables taste good or hide them in foods for myself because I am the picky one. I Love my stirfry and soups and thankfully my family does too.

PhatAv8r

Might I point out a little experiment done in our home years ago. Our kids were doing the 'yucky' thing and whining about wanting McD's or nuggets, or cereal, etc. So we locked food up where kids couldn't get it, served healthy meals (with little fun things like pnut butter and celery, or creme cheese/pineapple filler), deviled eggs (with yogurt instead of salad dressing, just add a little more flavoring, onion salt, dash, etc).

Anyway, the first night, they decided to go hungry. The next night, they ate all the small stuff and mashed potatoes. The third night, they were saying, we are hungry...!!! We told them they were going to be hungry a LONG time.

As it is, within a week, they were eating what was made at the table.

Made my wifes job easier. And she has treated me the same way ever since. If I don't like it, I don't have to eat it, and I know how to fend for myself.

You are not a SLAVE. Do your planning, make good food, then let the cards fall where they may. And you can tell your husband I said so.

niebbia

A couple of the things I do are the following. My family eats pretty healthy bc a few years ago my young daughters were diagnosed with very rare high cholesterol (they are thin and fit so it made no sense) but since then we eat whole grains and pastas, baked or broiled lean meats and losts of fresh fruits and veggies. I didn't gain weight bc of what we put on the table, but what I put in my mouth in secret...another story...But still, I don't want to be eating all the carbs that my family eats. There is always rice, potatoes, or pasta on the table...as well as bread (whole wheat yummy bread!) So, I opt for the smaller plate, and make sure there are always fresh veggies and salads on the table. I serve myself a healthy portion of the salads and protein and skip the carbs almost completely. As soon as I am finished, I continue to sit at the table with everyone else, but I put my plate in the sink so I don't serve myself seconds. Even on the rare occasions I make Chicken nuggets (tyson white meat) and french fries (oven baked) there are still peppers or cucumbers or celery cut in bowls and usually a lettuce and tomato salad too. THe kids choose which of all the veggies they want to eat and I usually fill up my plate on them. My kids are pretty good about eating except when I try new recipes. They are motivated to eat a good dinner or at least try and not complain bc we eat at 4 in the afternoon (my husband is from Argentina and their big meal is middle of the day. We have opted for when the kids get home from school.) and I also decided, no snacks if I get any flack from them about dinner...it makes a difference when they know they will be hungry until the next day and have no bedtime snack!

The understanding that the Lord wants us to overcome the things that are controlling us. I was letting food control me. I know it harms me and that I can take control and overcome if I trust in the Lord and do my part. Keep it up! I know we can do it.

lonishaw

The understanding that the Lord wants us to overcome the things that are controlling us. I was letting food control me. I know it harms me and that I can take control and overcome if I trust in the Lord and do my part. Keep it up! I know we can do it.

I completely agree.