Remind about birthday
Regmama
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Do any of you avoid talking about you birthday (or that of your children's) close to the date to see who remembers? Yes, I know, petty, but kinda a debate (maybe I'm just crazy or want to know who the heck cares in my world). Frankly I don't care if anyone remembers my birthday but I get pissed when grandparents and/or siblings forget my kids' birthdays.
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Nope. I don't think anyone should have to remember my kids' birthdays or my birthday. I try to remember to remind family about birthdays a few weeks in advance (not always so good about doing this) so that they can attend my kids' birthday parties... if they don't have other plans.0
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I'm not talking about gifts nor a card, just a simple FB message or phone call...when they forget, that's why I get pissed. I was adopted so, like many adoptees, I get weird around my birthday which is why I could care less if anyone remembers (except for my bparents - I hope they remember every year - which I know they do and did based on what they told me when we first met).0
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Ha! Yeah I kind of do this but it always backfires. My kid has forgot my birthday the past two years in a row (really it's her mother's fault).
So from now on I just embrace it. I will do my best to pay absolutely zero attention to my birthday so I'm not upset if no one remembers.0 -
I'm not talking about gifts or money or even a card either. I don't expect people (outside my direct family) to do anything to remember my birthday or my kids' birthdays. Generally speaking my kids get phone calls from all their grandparents and aunts and uncles on their birthday... generally speaking. If someone forgets to call them on their birthday, I dont get upset because I know that I have forgotten nieces and nephews birthdays myself!! But I know what you are saying... that remembering and acknowledging someone's birthday is a sign of affection... and it's certainly nice to get them... but I don't think that it should be expected from other than direct family members.0
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Ha! I remember doing this to my high school boyfriend!0
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Only one person that upsets me if he doesn't remember my birthday and that is my husbands. BUT - if he forgets mine he also forgets his, because we are only one day apart. I don't expect presents etc... from the kids but a phone call or message is nice. I also don't expect all the family members to remember mine or my children's birthdays. We take care of ourselves within our immediately family - all the rest is gravy. Besides, I think the world has bigger problems than remembering my birthday.0
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Everybody remembers my birthday, but nobody cares. B'days quit being a big deal after about,,, 11.0
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If I think about it, I let everyone I can think of know about it--I can pimp for presents with the best of them!!
Actually, at this point, I don't care much if anyone remembers or not. I have found that most people are more interested in celebrating your birthday the way THEY think it should be celebrated, not the way YOU want it to be celebrated.
I get very weird about my birthday. I don't really care if anyone notices or not, but it does kind of bug me if someone DOES notice it, but does it in superficial way. Mostly I just want to be able to enjoy the day and have it to myself. . It's gotten to the point where I just make all my own arrangements--I got tired of having to put up with stuff that I didn't really want, just because I had to "be polite" or "be grateful" to the other person for doing it.
So I arrange to take off work that day, I get my own cake and plan my own dinner (either something I make or bringing something home). For the most part, I even buy my own presents. It just works out better that way, and it frees Mrs Azdak up to concentrate on the most important thing--birthday sex.
This year was really tough because my Golden Retriever, Dylan, passed away suddenly less than two weeks before my birthday. I had actually planned most of the day for us to be together, but it wasn't to be.0 -
My birthday is next Tuesday the 17th... Love cash! Send me a PM if you need my address. It should still get here in time.
I don't care who knows or who remembers.0 -
No, I plan ahead and invite the people I care about to attend the festivities.
Seems passive agressive to stay purposefully silent, then get mad if/when it is forgotten.....It's kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy, huh?0 -
Def not lol
I remind ppl that after christmas sales are a great time to buy me presents since my bday is in February LOL
It's all in good fun though0 -
ME ME ME !!!! Im always waiting to see who will remember,,0
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I don't expect people to remember but I'm pleased when they do. I know when the birthdays of most of my friends and family are coming up but I sometimes forget on the actual day. But I still love them and I assume the same of them if they forget mine.
If I really want to do something for my birthday I will make sure people know.0 -
I don't remember my own birthday half the time.0
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Oh, I do invite people to celebrations, and most of the time I don't hear a reply either way if they can come, let alone a simple, happy birthday to the birthday child. I am not talking about extended family, but my siblings and my dad...I remember all of their's and their children's birthdays. Even within the week a simple phonecall or email message would be fine. I have lowered my expectations of my family, for sure, and am grateful for those who remember or at least respond to the invitations with a no. It's the lack of any acknowledgement that bugs me. I'm less pissed, and more disappointed, expecially when they say their "I love them so much" If you do, then you could at least call on their birthdays.No, I plan ahead and invite the people I care about to attend the festivities.
Seems passive agressive to stay purposefully silent, then get mad if/when it is forgotten.....It's kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy, huh?
Sorry about the rant. It's one of my son's birthdays tomorrow and I already know the people who will acknowledge it and it makes me sad. When I grew up all my relatives celebrated everyones birthdays, now everyone's too busy to even say a simple "Happy Birthday".0 -
My sister sent out a long email (in all caps, no less), reminding my sibs and I (there are 7 of us) that here 60th birthday was approaching and we were expected to remember it. (or as she put it "at least this way, I'll know it's not because you forgot--it's because you don't care".
My favorite part was that, as she was complaining that she is disappointed every year when she does not receive any cards, she wrote: "maybe you don't send me anything because I don't send cards to anyone--well, I think that's just petty".
<sigh> Whatever--I just made sure I sent her a card.0 -
That first part is so funny! The second part...jeepers. Good brother you are!My sister sent out a long email (in all caps, no less), reminding my sibs and I (there are 7 of us) that here 60th birthday was approaching and we were expected to remember it. (or as she put it "at least this way, I'll know it's not because you forgot--it's because you don't care".
My favorite part was that, as she was complaining that she is disappointed every year when she does not receive any cards, she wrote: "maybe you don't send me anything because I don't send cards to anyone--well, I think that's just petty".
<sigh> Whatever--I just made sure I sent her a card.0 -
My sister sent out a long email (in all caps, no less), reminding my sibs and I (there are 7 of us) that here 60th birthday was approaching and we were expected to remember it. (or as she put it "at least this way, I'll know it's not because you forgot--it's because you don't care".
My favorite part was that, as she was complaining that she is disappointed every year when she does not receive any cards, she wrote: "maybe you don't send me anything because I don't send cards to anyone--well, I think that's just petty".
<sigh> Whatever--I just made sure I sent her a card.
Your sister must be in a bad spot emotionally to send something like that.0 -
My sister sent out a long email (in all caps, no less), reminding my sibs and I (there are 7 of us) that here 60th birthday was approaching and we were expected to remember it. (or as she put it "at least this way, I'll know it's not because you forgot--it's because you don't care".
My favorite part was that, as she was complaining that she is disappointed every year when she does not receive any cards, she wrote: "maybe you don't send me anything because I don't send cards to anyone--well, I think that's just petty".
<sigh> Whatever--I just made sure I sent her a card.
Your sister must be in a bad spot emotionally to send something like that.
Yes, she deserves more sympathy than ridicule, and I didn't mean to ridicule her--it's an anonymous forum and I was just showing another odd way that people respond to their birthdays. Unfortunately, my sister has walled herself off -- emotionally and physically -- from most of the world, so it's hard to break through.0 -
Your sister must be in a bad spot emotionally to send something like that.
Yes, she deserves more sympathy than ridicule, and I didn't mean to ridicule her--it's an anonymous forum and I was just showing another odd way that people respond to their birthdays. Unfortunately, my sister has walled herself off -- emotionally and physically -- from most of the world, so it's hard to break through.
Sorry, didn't mean to imply you were ridiculing her, I did take it as illustration. I imagine some of the other recipients of that email didn't take it as well as you. It's easy to forget that people are usually hurting when they say and do irrational things.0 -
I learned a long time ago that people can't fulfill expectations if they don't know what they are. If I expect someone to remember my birthday then I had better tell them "My birthday is xxx please write it down because it hurts my feeling when people don't remember it."
I forget my nieces and nephews birthday's all the time, it doesn't mean I don't care it just means that I don't love them any more on their birthday than I do any other day and i don't love them less on days that aren't their birthdays. When I get to see my nieces and nephews I spoil them in anyway possible (I live 3000 miles away) and when I don't see them, I talk to them on any day that I happen to call my siblings and they want to talk to me.0 -
That's pretty good, I gotta try that. My birthday is in July, and this year it falls on a Saturday. Nice LONG motorcycle ride, maybe leave friday night and treat myself to a motel room and a good dinner. Spend most of the B'day riding and maybe visiting some wierd attraction that I'd love and the rest of the fam would hate. There's gotta be a metal lathe museum out there somewhere. Interesting idea,,,Azdak said:
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So I arrange to take off work that day, I get my own cake and plan my own dinner (either something I make or bringing something home). For the most part, I even buy my own presents. It just works out better that way, and it frees Mrs Azdak up to concentrate on the most important thing--birthday sex.0 -
Nope. Just another day to me.
I will celebrate it every year as I always do. Gonna BBQ. Have a couple cigars; imbibe a little Knob Creek. Invite family and friends over. I do that every weekend though.0
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