Married men...

lelliebugh

Ok I've been single for a little over a month. I started a new job and every married/taken man has hit on me. What is this all about? It happened when I was single before too.

DMZ_1

Have you had any thoughts as to why married men find you attractive? Is there a certain type of married man that you are around?

VTXJOCKEY

Are you flirtatious?

ajfrench

Married men love to hit on single women. Some have ulterior motives, but many just like to remember what it's like to be single and flirt with lovely ladies.

lelliebugh

I keep to myself. I don't socialize with people from work. I do not want the rumors to get started. It's embarrassing to have a co-worker say "you do know so and so is married right." I am not the kind of girl who does that. I am a flirt but specifically not at work.

teagin2002

Honestly they probably think you are sweet and won't take it the wrong the way. They are just being nice and trying to make your day and think you are worth the complement.
It is very sweet and I sometimes do it too and I am married. I just like making people happy and feel good about them selves. :flowerforyou:

I can not speak for all married couples but for the ones who are faithful, flirting is just a part of life that makes everyone happy and feel more confident.

Hope your having a wonderful day beautiful :flowerforyou:

BlondeLisa1

I think "flirtatious" is in the eye of the receiver. I seriously feel like getting a tee shirt that says "YES- I am nice. NO I am NOT flirting!". Just because I make small talk with people (everyone) around me and smile a lot doesn't mean I want you.

I think guys are attracted to happy girls. You seem like a happy girl. You can usually stop the married guys in their tracks by asking- "So, do you and your wife have children? You seem like such a fatherly type of guy!"

kit_katty

Hmm, my ex said that he wanted to feel like he was still attractive, not just to his SO, but in general... maybe this guy is the same?

Z_I_L_L_A

Yeah me too, I don't understand why they hit on me. I'm just being polite and courteous. Why do women take it the wrong way.

AggieLu

I get hit on constantly by married men. Single men seem more shy. There is a difference between men being polite and courteous than them flirting!

JanieJack

This happened to me also when I first became single again and I asked my friend's husband about it. He said 2 things:

1. Newly -single women put out one of two "come hit on me" vibes, either the version of "make me feel better about myself" or the "I'm so hot-to-trot you know you want me"

2. Married guys know that flirting with you won't go anywhere. So it means nothing, and they can have fun with no expectations. Single guy flirts with you, and you will think he wants to ask you out.

Cant wait to see what other responses you get

BlondeLisa1

There is a big difference between married guys being cool and friendly and married guys propositioning you, ie: hitting on you. I guess it depends how you define getting hit on.

Friendly people rock!

Katefab26

I don't mind chatting a little bit with married men, but when they lean over to start playing with my hair it gets a little awkward... :noway:

lelliebugh

Ummm well let's see one came up to me and asked if I was Dtf I don't have a clue what it is. I found out later and needless to say no I'm not DTF. I mean I'm friendly and even flirtatious sometimes but never would disrespect someone's significant other I mean if it was my man I wouldn't want that going on.

teagin2002

Ummm well let's see one came up to me and asked if I was Dtf I don't have a clue what it is. I found out later and needless to say no I'm not DTF. I mean I'm friendly and even flirtatious sometimes but never would disrespect someone's significant other I mean if it was my man I wouldn't want that going on.

My mouth is still open!! did they say that at work?? How dare they!!!

Katefab26

Ummm well let's see one came up to me and asked if I was Dtf I don't have a clue what it is. I found out later and needless to say no I'm not DTF. I mean I'm friendly and even flirtatious sometimes but never would disrespect someone's significant other I mean if it was my man I wouldn't want that going on.

Two words. Human Resources.

lelliebugh

Yea they said that at work. I laughed it off but really. Come on.