exes

acasey0123

so my bf broke up with me about 6 months ago then a couple days before xmas I had called him seeing if we could be friends and he'd say he would think about it so on NYE he texted me saying that he thought it over and he just wants to be friends and nothing more (which is what I want) but I havent heard from him since...do I text him to see how things are going or do I leave it alone?

We also live about two hours away from each other now so seeing each other and hooking up wont even be in the equation for our building friendship

mznisaelaine

Let him contact you when he wants to contact you... You don't want to bug him or make him feel any pressure. I'm actually going through something similar but it's vice versa. I broke up with my ex 7 months ago and he wanted to be friends but he kept bugging me and pressuring me and would try to argue etc. I finally had to buckle down and tell him that he needs to move on... So if you want to be friends with him still just either casually text him hi or something or let him contact you...

AnnaPixie

I like to remain friends with an ex, and woud have no problem sending a quick text to see how they are. But some guys dont really do the after friendship thing, so dont be surprised if he doesnt answer. He might have moved on already.

But I dont see any harm in it, its been nearly 2 months, so its not like you're hassling him.......just dont text him every day!!

Good luck :flowerforyou:

chocolateandvodka

yeah i don't know your personality, or his, but if a similar situation recreated itself in my life.... i would in no way pursue a friendship with the ex in question. i would be glad that the seperation was amicable, and i'd leave it at that.
if i saw him again in some chance meeting, i'd smile, ask about his life, and move on.

my ex husband and i have this relationship. we are "friends" in that we are very civil, even cordial to each other in public. however, there is not a chance in hell of us ever getting back together. i do not accept calls from him, nor do i reach out to him unless it is absolutely necessary. it's been well over a year since our marriage fell apart, and i haven't missed him yet.

pa_jorg

It's probably really hard, but do your best not to contact him for a long while. That can spiral...I know, I've been there, done that.