Freaking out

Amybcb

Hey girls, need a safe place to vent with those who "get it". As you know I've got about x or so pounds to lose since the last baby. I'm at x [NUMBER REMOVED BY MOD - TRIGGERING - READ THE GUIDELINES BEFORE POSTING] right now (gagging) and only 5'2". I have to go to New Orleans next month with my hubby for a military conference. I need to wear a coctail dress. And I am completely freaking out right now. I was looking at dresses online and tearing down every dress (my arms are too fat, my stomach's too fat, my *kitten* is too fat) and just having a meltdown. The anxiety is peaking right now, to the point that all I can think about is purging. I want to so damn bad. I know I can't. I know it's not healthy. I know it can mess up my heart and kill me. So I came here to vent instead. I honestly don't even want to go now, because I'm so worked up about having to wear a cocktail dress and I'm worried my husband will be disappointed in how I look... especially with so many military co workers there. This completely sucks. I think I'm going to hit the gym after dinner and do a second work out today... maybe that will help.

therapyruns

Hey there. Hmm, first, deep breaths - you are awesome. I looked through your photos and you have such a beautiful family! You must be so proud. Besides the incredible fact that you have three wonderful young children and one still an infant, you need to give yourself a major kick *kitten* pat on the back for basically being a super Mom. Remember that you were carrying a child less than two years ago and your body needed the weight at the time to produce a healthy baby. And now, because you are taking care of the 24/7 demands and needs of your family (husband included), how could you POSSIBLY have any free time to truly focus on yourself?

I can definitely sense where the anxiety is coming from and great decision to vent rather than purge! Your husband will love the way you look no matter what, because he know what a wonderful mother and wife you are and has his three little angels to prove it! So yeah, deep breaths and try to focus on what you do accomplish every single day, and eventually you will have the time when you can exercise and eat properly. I'm not saying that you can't do it now, but I am trying to alleviate the guilt you are feeling and get you to see the positive!

Hope this helps - and feel free to send me a PM if you want to chat more!

P.S. I am so jealous you get to visit New Orleans - I heard it's a blast

seekingthepatienceofjob

Im sorry you feel this way

I really do understand where you are coming from though. Shopping for clothes is always something that brings me down. I never end up buying anything I like, mostly because I find *something* negative about how it looks/fits me. I think that you should not bring yourself down more, try to forget all the negative thoughts. If it makes you feel better, go ahead and do your second workout. Dont restrict or purge.

Maybe if you actually tried on the dress(es) and took a friend with you? Someone who could tell you how oyu look in them? A friend who will tell you the truth and help you see things correctly, NOT distorted.

Take care and have fun at New Orleans!