Seriously? Swingers
PeekABooGirl
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Was recently talking to a guy who has dabbled in the swingers scene. I was shocked to find out how many couples are involved in that sort of thing! Personally, I don't get it. Seems to me that people shouldn't need an outside source to fill in th blanks of what's missing in their lives. I don't get how anyone can be ok with their significant other doing things to other people OR on the receiving end from others. It is REALLY that common?
On a side note, yes, I think he was feeling me out with the idea because he wants to ask me to try it. Uh. No. Not gonna happen buddy.
On a side note, yes, I think he was feeling me out with the idea because he wants to ask me to try it. Uh. No. Not gonna happen buddy.
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It's a big world out there :flowerforyou:0
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You would be surprised at the number of people that can have sex/relationships without meaning... It's quite common now a days... I've done some stuff with groups... it's not that its emotional, its more of a stress reliever.. without feelings.0
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If there's free chicken waffles, I am game!0
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If there's free chicken waffles, I am game!
NIIIIIICE!!0 -
I can tell you this: this is definitely not my scene, but I can totally understand why other people would want to have sex outside of their marriage. I was at a convention recently with A LOT of swingers (WICKED FAIRE!! go ahead, ask me about it
and polys. Some were married at an early age and never got to experiment. Others either come from broken homes, or previously broken marriages, and feel that traditional marriages are not for them. Some simply love sex too much, or a specific type of fetish, that the partner cannot/ doesn't want a part of. Anyway you slice it, the traditional vanilla sex is not for them. And that is ok.
Hey, if both people in the couple are happy swinging around, game on. I don't think I could swing/ be poly, but I don't judge swingers. At least they are honest with their partner (as opposed to ones who just....cheat).0 -
I hear their parties have super-good appetizers and really strong drinks!0
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I can tell you this: this is definitely not my scene, but I can totally understand why other people would want to have sex outside of their marriage. I was at a convention recently with A LOT of swingers (WICKED FAIRE!! go ahead, ask me about it and polys. Some were married at an early age and never got to experiment. Others either come from broken homes, or previously broken marriages, and feel that traditional marriages are not for them. Some simply love sex too much, or a specific type of fetish, that the partner cannot/ doesn't want a part of. Anyway you slice it, the traditional vanilla sex is not for them. And that is ok.
Hey, if both people in the couple are happy swinging around, game on. I don't think I could swing/ be poly, but I don't judge swingers. At least they are honest with their partner (as opposed to ones who just....cheat).
Oh I'm not judging that lifestyle at all. I can see the reasons that people would be into it, obviously. And if a couple is both on board - great for them. I'm just surprised how common it really is. And I guess theres a huge part of me that would be somewhat offended or at the bare minimum, challenged, if I wasn't doing absolutely everything to keep my partner happy. But, again, that's just because it's not for me.0 -
Was recently talking to a guy who has dabbled in the swingers scene. I was shocked to find out how many couples are involved in that sort of thing! Personally, I don't get it. Seems to me that people shouldn't need an outside source to fill in th blanks of what's missing in their lives. I don't get how anyone can be ok with their significant other doing things to other people OR on the receiving end from others. It is REALLY that common?
On a side note, yes, I think he was feeling me out with the idea because he wants to ask me to try it. Uh. No. Not gonna happen buddy.
Not judging?0 -
Was recently talking to a guy who has dabbled in the swingers scene. I was shocked to find out how many couples are involved in that sort of thing! Personally, I don't get it. Seems to me that people shouldn't need an outside source to fill in th blanks of what's missing in their lives. I don't get how anyone can be ok with their significant other doing things to other people OR on the receiving end from others. It is REALLY that common?
On a side note, yes, I think he was feeling me out with the idea because he wants to ask me to try it. Uh. No. Not gonna happen buddy.
Not judging?
Not at all, trying to understand it.0 -
To each their own, but definitely not for me.0
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To each their own, but definitely not for me.
Exactly how I feel
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I couldn't do it because I know that I couldn't handle seeing my partner being intimate with someone else. And, when I am in a relationship I pretty much only want to have sex with my partner. I say pretty much because if Johnny Depp came knocking at my door, I wouldn't say no. lol0
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I realized that it definitely wasn't for me when guys in open relationships would contact me online, and I couldn't get the word CHEATER out of my head. Rationally, I know they're not cheating, but my emotions disagree so..not my bag.
I have good friends that are open/poly and I don't think less of them for it though.0 -
To each their own, but definitely not for me.
Exactly how I feel
Me too! :bigsmile:0 -
I could never do that!!0
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I realized that it definitely wasn't for me when guys in open relationships would contact me online, and I couldn't get the word CHEATER out of my head. Rationally, I know they're not cheating, but my emotions disagree so..not my bag.
I have good friends that are open/poly and I don't think less of them for it though.
I wouldn't want to be with someone who was in an open relationship, only because I don't want to be the side dish or the number 2. Maybe if I had a number 1...lol With swinging, don't think I would do it more out of self consciousness of having an audience rather than the "cheating" aspect. I don't think it would bother me though for my man to be with someone else as long as I knew that I was the number one. Some couples feel closer by sharing their likes and intimacies with other people with each other. I guess it all depends on the dynamics of that particular relationship.
There are a lot of odd fetishes. Swinging is tame compared to some of the things people are into.0 -
not for me. i'm definitely a one man kind of woman.
Don't really care what others do with their sex lives though...as long as they don't try to involve me!0 -
I actually am friends with a married couple that participate in that sort of lifestyle. doesn't bug me one bit. I however don't share well with others. :noway: I am a 1 woman type of a guy.0
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