How soon do you give your number out? Online...
La_Amazona
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How soon after messaging with someone back and forth do you give your number out? Does it just depend on how smooth the "conversation" goes?
Just curious.
Just curious.
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Idk that I have a rule...I guess it depends on how naturally the conversation is flowing. I figure I can change my number if he ends up being a major creeper!0
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Well I just gave this one guy my number. (not the one I told you about.. another one)
We've been messaging for several hours here and there and he's sweet, cute and 6'5!! Woohooo! haha0 -
Don't really mind giving my number away to be honest. It makes things easier... Never had a creep, so I guess that works for me. But then again, I only use the phone to organise face to face events, so I don't want to spend hours talking on the phone anyway. Seems like if you talk on the phone too much, you'd better see each other in person!
Stuff like Facebook on the other hand... It tells a lot more about your life than your number, so I'd wait more to give it - if at all!0 -
Since I was a Realtor in a former life, my number is plastered all over the internet anyway, and I give it as soon as asked. I rarely offer it if not asked, but I do like to start talking/meeting "in person" as soon as possible.
For those who are concerned about giving their number to a stranger, you can always use services like Google or RingCentral that allow you to set up a fake number that rings to your phone. Google is free, but I've never used it. RingCentral costs $5 a month and I use it for business since it has a lot more functionality (like sending faxes to your email box).
Edited to add: PS: RingCentral does referral bonuses, so if you sign up, do give me a shout. But I hear the free Google is just as good, and will probably try it out the next time I need a number in another time zone.0 -
I've never considered myself stalking material, so I usually give it out early on. I can't log on to dating sites or some social networking sites at work, so texting and instant messaging (yahoo, whats app, BBM) are the easiest ways for me to keep in touch.0
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How soon after messaging with someone back and forth do you give your number out? Does it just depend on how smooth the "conversation" goes?
Just curious.
Yeah, would depend on a few exchanges that have gone well and I'm therefore interested in talking/meeting.0 -
Where I am, if you don't give it within the first two back and forth hello messages, then they don't want to talk to you. Some people are bad at emailing and don't know what to say if it isn't a direct back and forth dialogue so I respect that. But, I usually like to IM for a little bit, not even a day or week depends on the flow, could just be a brief conversation before I give my number. I had one stalker from POF who would call me all hours of the night ranting on my machine, and he still texts once in a while when I only went out with him twice in October. Anyway, you never know who is unbalanced or a weirdo. I'm not scared about it, just don't need the hassle nor having a bunch of randoms in my phone. Unfortunately, men think you are playing games if you don't give your number soon. I had a guy who said that I was trying to hide something because I didn't want to give him my facebook. That's private for people I know in real life. Who wants to friend a bunch of dating site one hit wonders?0
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I usually wait until it is asked for, unless its within the first 2 messages. Of course I have been sent messages for the first time being their number... Needless to say I do not contact them again.0
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I like to give it out after the first date/meeting. I don't like texting or talking on the phone that much and don't want a guy to start doing that before we even meet. If the date goes well then I give him my phone number after he asks for it. Sometimes I also give my phone number when the date doesn't go well; I have a hard time saying no to nice guys ;(0
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Who wants to friend a bunch of dating site one hit wonders?
The very very first guy I was gonna meet from an online dating site had just set up a facebook profile and invited me to friend him. He had told me he was 45, and I knew enough to expect that guys lie online, so I figured he'd probably be a little older than that. But he had a great deep southern drawl and was a lot of fun to talk to so I figured even if it didn't work out why not at least meet him for one date. The day before we were supposed to meet, his daughter got happy and posted a bunch of pictures of him at her wedding. I was totally unprepared to discover that his daughter was my age (at the time 34) and he was actually closer to 60. I immediately canceled out, and never met him in person.0 -
Stuff like Facebook on the other hand... It tells a lot more about your life than your number, so I'd wait more to give it - if at all!
Hmmmmm
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I'm def more protective of my FB. I check in places, hang out with friends and take crazy pictures so yeah, FB would be something I'd introduce to them later.0
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After I feel comfortable... It could be within a few days, weeks, or never. It depends I supposed. I don't ask for numbers at all because I rather a guy ask for mines and then I can decide from there.
ETA: lol I just realized the end of the topic says "online" ... Well same applies as to what says above. If I've been talking to a person online for a while then maybe so depends on if I'm comfortable.0 -
Can't really say a specific time to do so. Depends if I feel comfortable giving the person my number and am really interested in the person.0
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I'm def more protective of my FB. I check in places, hang out with friends and take crazy pictures so yeah, FB would be something I'd introduce to them later.
let the stalking begin....:laugh:0 -
I'm def more protective of my FB. I check in places, hang out with friends and take crazy pictures so yeah, FB would be something I'd introduce to them later.
let the stalking begin....:laugh:
I've given my email out before and I'm glad I didn't give my # to those guys!!! One ended up being a phony pretending to be a soldier in the army! I called him on it and never heard from him again... there were several like that from POF, so I'd be careful of who you give you # to.
I make sure I know them well enough to introduce to my children. If he's not safe enough to meet my children :noway: yet, then no # is given. email me.
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I'm def more protective of my FB. I check in places, hang out with friends and take crazy pictures so yeah, FB would be something I'd introduce to them later.
let the stalking begin....:laugh:
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I'm def more protective of my FB. I check in places, hang out with friends and take crazy pictures so yeah, FB would be something I'd introduce to them later.
let the stalking begin....:laugh:
One person's stalking is another person's research, lol!0 -
I'm def more protective of my FB. I check in places, hang out with friends and take crazy pictures so yeah, FB would be something I'd introduce to them later.
let the stalking begin....:laugh:
One person's stalking is another person's research, lol!
i have googled a guy before.. later on i told him (former crush) and he was amused by it. i actually found a picture of him winning at some arcade game from years ago.0 -
If the messaging seems to be going well, I move on to texting fairly soon. I'd rather go do something and still chit chat than have to sit at my computer for hours..
If they get creepy, stop replying. After so many non replies, they usually take the hint. haha Usually.0 -
Not that it gets asked that often but I don't mind giving it out ... always have caller id and call block0
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If the online conversation flows well, I'd say within a week or so...also assuming there is a chance to meet sooner rather than later. The longer you wait to meet but have time to email, text, etc. it can feel 'too relationshippy" too fast, yet you might not even know if there are sparks yet!0
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So I've been chatting with this guy for 2 days now. Last night he called and we talked for about 40 minutes.
I'm not sure if I'll be attracted to him in person.. on some pics I am very attracted to him and on others, not so much.
He needs to ask me out so I can see!!0 -
It depends on how well I click with the person. If they are very insistent, too insistent...The conversing is over.0
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I don't have a time frame. Personally I would rather text and talk to someone instead of emailing them through a website.0
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If after talking a bit through messages, and I think this is someone I might want to go on a date with, I give him my number. I get tired of logging on and off pof. I do NOT share my fb info.0
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I'm def more protective of my FB. I check in places, hang out with friends and take crazy pictures so yeah, FB would be something I'd introduce to them later.
let the stalking begin....:laugh:
One person's stalking is another person's research, lol!
i have googled a guy before.. later on i told him (former crush) and he was amused by it. i actually found a picture of him winning at some arcade game from years ago.
that's awesome! i do that from time to time. in today's technically driven world its amazing what you can find out about people online.
interestingly enough....one of my EX's (big bold there) had one of HER ex's run a full background check on me. That was a bit much!0
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