Facebook Dating Fiascos (True Stories only please)

JanieJack

Just posted this on the topic "How soon do you give your number out? Online... " and thought it would be fun to tell our facebook horror stories as related to dating. I've got QUITE a few of them, but here's just one to test the waters:

The very very first guy I was gonna meet from an online dating site had just set up a facebook profile and invited me to friend him. He had told me he was 45, and I knew enough to expect that guys lie online, so I figured he'd probably be a little older than that. But he had a great deep southern drawl and was a lot of fun to talk to so I figured even if it didn't work out why not at least meet him for one date.

The day before we were supposed to meet in person, his daughter got happy and posted a bunch of pictures of him at her wedding. I was totally unprepared to discover that his daughter was my age (at the time 34) and he was actually closer to 60. I immediately canceled out, and never met him in person.

La_Amazona

Haha, creepy!

I haven't had any. I actually haven't added anybody I dated EXCEPT for my ex crush.. which luckily it worked out fine since we're friends now.

Oh I did add another guy too and we're cool.

Nothing crazy... yet!

JanieJack

I've got so many "not really friends" from work on fb it doesn't bother me to give it out. I've learned a lot about people by stalking, er, I mean, reviewing their profiles. And I honestly think guys see enough on my fb to realize I'm not playing games and won't allow them to and that I'm serious about certain standards of living. I don't mind fb weeding out the "not good enoughs" for me.


Like a guy who got a new job in Florida, was getting ready to move, and was talking about how he was gonna fly me down there once a month. We'd only been getting to know each other for a couple months, so I didn't believe it... BUT... we'd had a lot of fun together, and he'd even come with me in some missions work so I was quite warming up to him. Plus he was a hot single dad, lol. Imagine my surprise when not 3 days later fb shows his status as "in a relationship." And then had the gall to text me again. I think he forgot he had friended me.

kkjay

Like a guy who got a new job in Florida, was getting ready to move, and was talking about how he was gonna fly me down there once a month. We'd only been getting to know each other for a couple months, so I didn't believe it... BUT... we'd had a lot of fun together, and he'd even come with me in some missions work so I was quite warming up to him. Plus he was a hot single dad, lol. Imagine my surprise when not 3 days later fb shows his status as "in a relationship." And then had the gall to text me again. I think he forgot he had friended me.

I can't believe he texted you again! I had a similar situation, I don't know if it fits into a dating fiasco though. I dated this guy, something in my gut told me that something wasn't right, so I ended it. A couple weeks later it shows up on facebook that he is now in a relationship. Then he has the nerve to message me saying he misses me and wants to be together again and all this other stuff when I can plainly see he is with someone. And he kept doing it, even though I wouldn't respond. Eventually he left me alone.. but sheesh. I felt so bad for his girlfriend, she seemed like a nice girl.

JanieJack

I can't believe he texted you again!

Yeah, I still have it on my phone as proof, lol. I replied to him that I'd seen the status change and that they looked like a cute couple. Get this: the next text back was, "Lol. Well, we aren't completely officially in a relationship. Gotta go on a couple more dates, meet parents, etc. Lol. If we don't work out, your hot self will be the first to know!!"

As if!

It's like my coworker who sold his house and bought a new one to move his girlfriend and her two kids in from *another state* to live in the new house said after I had commented on how this is getting pretty serious and perhaps he's thinking of settling down after all: "Oh, this is just temporary. I'm not ready for anything permanent."

kkjay

, "Lol. Well, we aren't completely officially in a relationship. Gotta go on a couple more dates, meet parents, etc. Lol. If we don't work out, your hot self will be the first to know!!"

:laugh: :laugh:

I don't understand people sometimes. You want to laugh because they're so ridiculous, but then think.. do they really think I am that dumb to fall for it and talk to them again? I'm glad you've moved on!

oddyogi

A couple of years ago I was in a relationship with this guy. On the night we met, it was me, him, his friend, and some chick that his friend brought home just drinking around a bonfire. I became friends with all of them on Facebook, even though I didn't really know the other people. A couple of months later, the guy is leaving for a deployment.. I notice on the chick's facebook that she starts complaining that she "misses him" and "I can't believe it's only been a few days since he left" and for some reason I was just thinking it's Tom (the guy). Next thing I know she changes her status to in a relationship and in her interests she adds "Tom"... so this random chick that was hooking up with Tom's friend ends up being in a relationship with him.. yech.

Then I see them months later when I'm taking my dogs for a walk and I'm at my heaviest. So embarrassing.

oddyogi

Oh.. forgot to say.. after that I messaged him and told him never to contact me again.. and he didn't. Not even a freaking apology... jerk.

AllanMisner

I guess I'm the only guy that tells the truth on the dating sites. Crap!

Meghan0116

I do not add guys from any dating site or regular dating to my facebook. I have tons of pictures of my son and adding them creeps me out a bit.

sofaking6

There's a guy that my friends and I have been running into at a new happy hour spot, who has been hitting on me a lot. So one night we FB friended each other while at the bar...I hop on his page to see what's up and the very first person I see on all his posts is this skank who slept with my good friend's boyfriend. So now I'm ignoring him but eventually I have to tell him I'm too grossed out by his friendships to date him.

La_Amazona

So on Friday I met a guy at that 80's coverband concert I went to. He's the one that asked me to dance. He's a pretty good dancer too. We talked a while and hung out for about an hour or so. He told me he was in the music industry which I pretty much dismissed. I figured he was trying to impress me.
Then I sort of moved on and like I said, I ended my night talking to the older gentleman. He did give me his number but for some reason when I called him right then in front of him, my call wouldn't go through to his phone. It was on mine but I had no intention of calling him first so I forgot about him.

Earlier Friday night, I had checked in (see what I'm talking about?!) at the concert place AND on the band's page. Of course, music guy likes the place and the band on Saturday and found me on there. He then friend requests me, we chatted a bit, he called and now we're going out.

I don't even know how it happened! His page is pretty neat. He's a freelance consultant in the music industry and he's cute!! He's from California though so nothing long term but still... FB outted me!

Tropical_Turtle

I guess I'm the only guy that tells the truth on the dating sites. Crap!

Dang you just can not win can you?? But hey honesty is the best policy (at least with me)

AllanMisner

I guess I should start lying about my age. I don't look or act 46. Might open some doors... ;-)

La_Amazona

I guess I should start lying about my age. I don't look or act 46. Might open some doors... ;-)

is your profile picture a recent one?

if so, i agree, you don't look your age at all.

the guy i'm going out with tonight is 42... my cut off is 37 but he doesn't look 42 so hey, why not? And he can dance although I've mentioned that already...

(breaking my own rules!)

odusgolp

FYI: I'm married on FB. It's not for real. At least make sure someone is lying before assuming

But, I'll never again add someone from a dating website to be FB friends *LOL*

AnnaPixie

I dont add any dating site men to my FB. I only have friends and family on there.

I can see the benefits of finding out more about them though! :laugh: I might have to create another profile........:bigsmile:

Moe4572

I guess I should start lying about my age. I don't look or act 46. Might open some doors... ;-)

I wouldn't have guessed 46