Kind of excited

Meghan0116

Hey everyone. I had to share this and get your opinion on something.

I have been talking to a guy from pof since Friday and we have talked on the phone a couple times. Actually, last night we talked on the phone for 6 hours. Needless to say a 4 am bedtime is not conducive to a productive day. lol He seems really great so far and wants to meet when he gets back from a conference he is at. I very much want to meet him too but my weekend is pretty booked.

The little beach area where I live has a massive St. Patrick's Day parade and then lots of drinking and carousing. I will be taking my son to the parade and then to his father's house for the night. Seth has brought up getting together that night for the festivities but I am not sure that would be the ideal time. I don't plan on drinking myself into oblivion but I will be drinking. On the other hand, I will be with friends and so will he, which makes it let nerve wrecking. I am not sure what to do. Advice???

Steelheart7

Sounds like it would be fun .. plus you can get to see off the bat how he behaves around alcohol. lol. That is huge for me with a guy. May not be for you, but it is for me. There will be lots of people around so it won't be so .. uncomfortable?

But, you won't get much alone time. So it won't be a date to chat too much on. Depends on how you feel.

Do you get more touchy feely when you drink? lol. I tend to and he probably wouldn't be all the impressed with me ... or maybe he would.. hm. Nevermind.

Sounds like fun. lol

DMZ_1

As a guy, I would not accept a date that is not one on one. Early on, you need the one on one time. Once you're an established couple, there's plenty of time to see each other's friends.

La_Amazona

I wouldn't want to go on a 1st date during a huge party like St. Patrick's day because 1) I'll be drinking 2) I'll be with friends 3) Those 2 combined equal wild times!!!

Meghan0116

I wouldn't want to go on a 1st date during a huge party like St. Patrick's day because 1) I'll be drinking 2) I'll be with friends 3) Those 2 combined equal wild times!!!

That's what I am worried about. But, the other problem is that I won't have another free night until the next week, which means almost 3 weeks of talking with no meeting. I hate that.

Meghan0116

Sounds like it would be fun .. plus you can get to see off the bat how he behaves around alcohol. lol. That is huge for me with a guy. May not be for you, but it is for me. There will be lots of people around so it won't be so .. uncomfortable?

But, you won't get much alone time. So it won't be a date to chat too much on. Depends on how you feel.

Do you get more touchy feely when you drink? lol. I tend to and he probably wouldn't be all the impressed with me ... or maybe he would.. hm. Nevermind.

Sounds like fun. lol

Exactly. I hate the surprise when the guy reacts badly to alcohol. I am not a huge drinker but I like to go out and have a few with my friends.

No, I typically don't get touchy feely. I tend to talk more though and that can go either way. lol

La_Amazona

True but still wouldn't convince me to do it... no way! lol

Not that I act out of character with friends but there is no way I'd want a guy to meet me for the 1st time out with them. Later on, I don't care but not 1st time.

melg126

I wouldn't want to go on a 1st date during a huge party like St. Patrick's day because 1) I'll be drinking 2) I'll be with friends 3) Those 2 combined equal wild times!!!

That's what I am worried about. But, the other problem is that I won't have another free night until the next week, which means almost 3 weeks of talking with no meeting. I hate that.

That is what happened to me with Mr.NoButterflies... I think it's better to meet quicker if not it just fizzles...

I say go for it while you have the time!! What's the worst that can happen??

Meghan0116

I wouldn't want to go on a 1st date during a huge party like St. Patrick's day because 1) I'll be drinking 2) I'll be with friends 3) Those 2 combined equal wild times!!!

That's what I am worried about. But, the other problem is that I won't have another free night until the next week, which means almost 3 weeks of talking with no meeting. I hate that.

That is what happened to me with Mr.NoButterflies... I think it's better to meet quicker if not it just fizzles...

I say go for it while you have the time!! What's the worst that can happen??

I get really drunk and throw up on him??? lol That is not going to happen.

flimflamfloz

That would actually feel a bit awkward hitting on someone in front of my friends - especially close friends.
I would feel hindered.

Them tracking my position in real time and whispering:
"So so... Do you see him? Is he doing it? Is he doing it?"

Give me a break man!

Steelheart7

I wouldn't want to go on a 1st date during a huge party like St. Patrick's day because 1) I'll be drinking 2) I'll be with friends 3) Those 2 combined equal wild times!!!

That's what I am worried about. But, the other problem is that I won't have another free night until the next week, which means almost 3 weeks of talking with no meeting. I hate that.

That is what happened to me with Mr.NoButterflies... I think it's better to meet quicker if not it just fizzles...

I say go for it while you have the time!! What's the worst that can happen??

I get really drunk and throw up on him??? lol That is not going to happen.

LOL .. yeh that would be bad.

melg126

I wouldn't want to go on a 1st date during a huge party like St. Patrick's day because 1) I'll be drinking 2) I'll be with friends 3) Those 2 combined equal wild times!!!

That's what I am worried about. But, the other problem is that I won't have another free night until the next week, which means almost 3 weeks of talking with no meeting. I hate that.

That is what happened to me with Mr.NoButterflies... I think it's better to meet quicker if not it just fizzles...

I say go for it while you have the time!! What's the worst that can happen??

I get really drunk and throw up on him??? lol That is not going to happen.

Ok on second thought... :sick: lol...

Meghan0116

That would actually feel a bit awkward hitting on someone in front of my friends - especially close friends.
I would feel hindered.

Them tracking my position in real time and whispering:
"So so... Do you see him? Is he doing it? Is he doing it?"

Give me a break man!

Hmmmm, that's something to think about too.

Moe4572

I say go for it.........

christine24t

If you're both planning on going with groups of friends, maybe meet up for a drink, but then separate to your own groups. I agree it's probably not the best plan to hang out.

flimflamfloz

If you're both planning on going with groups of friends, maybe meet up for a drink, but then separate to your own groups. I agree it's probably not the best plan to hang out.

Yeah, this sounds like a good compromise.

pa_jorg

It's probably not the best scenario, but as someone else mentioned, the longer you put off meeting up then the more chance things will fizzle. Are you sure there isn't another time or activity you can figure out?

Meghan0116

It's probably not the best scenario, but as someone else mentioned, the longer you put off meeting up then the more chance things will fizzle. Are you sure there isn't another time or activity you can figure out?

I would love to say yes but I have my son most nights and that makes things hard. My son's father is a cop and is on a 4 on 2 off rotation so the day he keeps D changes every week. I will not have another weekend night for a month. I am sure we could do a week night but again that won't be for another week. Blegh

AnnaPixie

I wouldnt feel comfortable meeting for the first time in front of his friends, or mine! It's not exactly a romatic setting and you're going to feel compromised in some way. I'd wait :bigsmile: