getting a number

AnnaPixie

OK, I've done this last week (asking for a number, and not calling).

Why? I think it's because I wanted to end the conversation with the girl, but on a nice note. Like I literally used the phone as an excuse to extract myself.
The girl was obviously into me, and I wasn't that much into her - but got dragged into the conversation anyway, so, to end it, I kinda said something along the lines of "Hey, you know what, it'd be great to talk on another occasion, so just give me your number yeah?".
And then I just felt relieved. So no, I wasn't particularly satisfied because I had a number... (I realise the truth is actually much more complex than that, but that will give you an idea).

I love the male/female interaction on this forum. I'm learning things about men (and women) that I never knew!!

Very honest of you to reveal this Florian! I will now always give my number out in trepidation that he's only asking for it because he wants to get rid of me!! :laugh: I mean, couldnt you have just said "Oh, look at the time, I must be going......" :flowerforyou:

flimflamfloz

OK, I've done this last week (asking for a number, and not calling).

Why? I think it's because I wanted to end the conversation with the girl, but on a nice note. Like I literally used the phone as an excuse to extract myself.
The girl was obviously into me, and I wasn't that much into her - but got dragged into the conversation anyway, so, to end it, I kinda said something along the lines of "Hey, you know what, it'd be great to talk on another occasion, so just give me your number yeah?".
And then I just felt relieved. So no, I wasn't particularly satisfied because I had a number... (I realise the truth is actually much more complex than that, but that will give you an idea).

I love the male/female interaction on this forum. I'm learning things about men (and women) that I never knew!!

Very honest of you to reveal this Florian! I will now always give my number out in trepidation that he's only asking for it because he wants to get rid of me!! :laugh: I mean, couldnt you have just said "Oh, look at the time, I must be going......" :flowerforyou:

Well... The thing is it was a long night, I was a bit drunk, and I got "a bit" forward before - so then she took this as an indicator of interest from my part (which is fair enough!). So then she was kind of sticking around me and because of my earlier indicator of interest, she felt I was into her (but I wasn't).

So yeah. On the other hand, she didn't ask for my number when I was trying to move away, so perhaps she "felt" I was looking for an escape (my body language, tone of voice changed perhaps?) or maybe she just made a beginner mistake .

I guess I could have said what you suggested though... Not very consistent with my earlier behaviour that is all!

dbrightwell1270

Why not just be honest with the guy? Tell him you came to the bar because you were having a bad day and getting a drink from him caught you off guard. Tell him you think he's cute but you're not sure you're interested. Then ask him for his phone number.