Reject the Drink, not the Man

JanieJack

Piggybacking off the "Number" thread...

I've never had a man send me a drink...usually they come up to me and ask if they can buy me something.

One time, a bartender told me, "that man would like to buy you a drink, what will you have." I was newly single and quite flattered! I told the bartender, "I don't drink, so cranberry juice please." He went and said something to the guy, who got up and left. I didn't mean it as code for "I'm not interested" (cuz he was cute) but I guess I wasn't his type if I don't drink, or maybe I wasn't an easy target....?

Whatever it was, I've received quite a few cranberry drinks :bigsmile: and one of my favorite impromptu dates was one where I told him no, I'm fasting but you can get me a water- we had a great night watching the Colts cement their place in the Superbowl. We clicked but then I found out his rank and that ws the end of that.

So guys, if you sent a girl like me a drink, how should she let you know she doesn't take alcohol yet still encourage you
(as long as that's not one of your dealbreakers).

Showgirlbody

My friend used to have this issue with dancing. She absolutely refused to dance. So we would go to a bar/club and guys would ask her to dance because that is the easiest way to say hello especially when you are in a group of people. She would hem and ha and stammer about not dancing and the dudes would just slink away. lol Buying a drink or asking for a dance is easier than just plopping down and looking like a creeper though I guess. I really don't know how you politely acknowledge the gesture but not the drink (or dance). Say you don't drink but ask if he'd like to join you to chat?

AnnaPixie

Can't really understand why the guy left if it was a soft drink. A drink is a drink. I mean, you could be driving?? Or on meds?? Wrong assumption to think you're teetotal..............anyway

Perhaps he got a phone call from his wife!!! :laugh:

AnnaPixie

Say you don't drink but ask if he'd like to join you to chat?

^^this is a good one :bigsmile:

flimflamfloz

Can't really understand why the guy left if it was a soft drink. A drink is a drink. I mean, you could be driving?? Or on meds?? Wrong assumption to think you're teetotal..............anyway

Perhaps he got a phone call from his wife!!! :laugh:

Yep, this seems more likely.
Mind you she said: "I don't drink". So the bartender probably said to the guy: "She says she doesn't drink.". Then the guy: "What? Weirdo. Oh let's move out... I'm bored anyway.". Message got lost perhaps :laugh:
Or maybe he wanted her drunk for some naughtiness later on? I dunno.

I would like to say something though: this approach of buying a drink to a girl is the cheesiest ever. :sick: Just makes me sick! Better to strike up a convo and then offer a drink after 2mins if you're into it.
Because imagine if the girl starts talking like this to you:
"ohhh noo but I hate this girl sooooooo much you know? It's like she is reaaaaally so annoying, you see? And so then I was like nooooooooo waaaaaaaaaaaaaay!" :huh: (*kitten* I wasted this drink on the wrong target...)

Anyway, I guess as a girl I would stand up and talk to the guy immediately perhaps and say "Hello why don't you come and sit at my table", the bartender can wait 2 mins. Or just don't say I don't drink to the bartender, just say "Brilliant, I'll have a cranberry juice and tell him to come and sit here!"

AnnaPixie

Because imagine if the girl starts talking like this to you:
"ohhh noo but I hate this girl sooooooo much you know? It's like she is reaaaaally so annoying, you see? And so then I was like nooooooooo waaaaaaaaaaaaaay!" :huh: (*kitten* I wasted this drink on the wrong target...)

lmao!!!!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

DMZ_1

Sending over a drink is not a good pickup move. Talk with her first. Then you can see if she's interested.

christine24t

Sending over a drink is not a good pickup move. Talk with her first. Then you can see if she's interested.

I agree. If you're seriously interested, go up and talk, and say "can I buy you a drink?"
The only time I had someone send over a drink was on my 21st birthday and he bought drinks for the whole table, and paid for half of our meal! We went and thanked him politely, and he warned us to be careful if we were drinking. It was a nice gesture - he wasn't doing it to hit on us, so that was acceptable then!

Learning2LuvLindsay

I would like to say something though: this approach of buying a drink to a girl is the cheesiest ever. :sick: Just makes me sick! Better to strike up a convo and then offer a drink after 2mins if you're into it.
Because imagine if the girl starts talking like this to you:
"ohhh noo but I hate this girl sooooooo much you know? It's like she is reaaaaally so annoying, you see? And so then I was like nooooooooo waaaaaaaaaaaaaay!" :huh: (*kitten* I wasted this drink on the wrong target...)


Ha! This literally made me lol!

AllanMisner

The best thing you can do is get up and move to his part of the bar. Girls almost never do this.