Kryptonite

jenbit

Ok what I mean is that one guy/girl that literally you lose all sense around. They can get you to change your mind or draw you to them like a moth to a flame.....

Here's my situation. My Kryptonite and I were FWB/dating right after my husband and I split up. We really didn't want anyone to know because we were afraid my other friends would really give him a hard time for "taking advantage of me LOL". Long story short he left town for work and I ended up dating my ex-boyfriend. Through it all he has always been call me when you break up I want anothe chance. Well we hung out a couple of times last year when I split with my ex and it was interesting. We would go out then come back to my place and talk until the sun came up. Now I havent seen him since July cause of his crazy work schedule (alot of time out of town) and he Knows about my weight loss but he hasnt seen me.Tonight were suppossed to go hang out. I'm really excited and nervous. I've always had a thing for this guy:blushing: HELP I need to calm down lol share your stories with me

Carl01

I`m not sure what you have to be nervous about :laugh: at this point,you both are interested in each other,have been intimate and get along.
The only thing I would say is to not let it go far if you are romantically interested and his desire is only for a no strings or emotions attached sexual encounter/relationship.
Don`t toy with the idea that you will bask in the glow and eventually he will come along,it won`t happen if that is where he is at.
He will turn a deaf ear to all the signals you send out that contradict what you say you will accept and he will enjoy the benefits without emotional risk.

Know what you want and expect and despite what you say about him being a person that can overly influence you just stick to what you know is best for you in the LONG run,not just the minute.

You don`t have to be cold and stand there with a check list but make it clear you consider this a testing ground for a real commitment to grow out of.

AnnaPixie

Wow babe, what you worried about?? Go out and enjoy all the attention!! I'm sure he has a thing for you too?? And if not, then he must be mad!

I've had one 'kryptonite' in my life and whilst it was mad and intense and he broke my heart cos in the end he didnt feel the same, I know that if I heard from him tomorrow I would be on cloud 9 with the biggest smile!! :bigsmile:

Just enjoy it. These kind of thinsg dont happen often enough in life :flowerforyou:

jenbit

@Carl we were intimate about 6 years ago. Thats what I'm nervous/excited about. I know that everytime we hang out we just click we always have but something about tonight feels different. LOL

Carl01

@Carl we were intimate about 6 years ago. Thats what I'm nervous/excited about. I know that everytime we hang out we just click we always have but something about tonight feels different. LOL

Exactly my point and why I was being a bit silly...make sure he knows that things are starting from a different point.
If you don`t you may find yourself trapped in a painful limbo of feelings.

jenbit

@Carl we were intimate about 6 years ago. Thats what I'm nervous/excited about. I know that everytime we hang out we just click we always have but something about tonight feels different. LOL

Exactly my point and why I was being a bit silly...make sure he knows that things are starting from a different point.
If you don`t you may find yourself trapped in a painful limbo of feelings.

I'm just worried I might hurt him again. He didn't take it well when I started dating my ex-boyfriend. And upto the point I told him about ex-B I didn't even know his feeling where involved. I'm very bad about talks involving emotions lol.

La_Amazona

Welllllll I'm not one to give advice about said kryptonite (:ohwell: lol) but just have fun. See where both of you are now, today.

:flowerforyou:

Carl01

@Carl we were intimate about 6 years ago. Thats what I'm nervous/excited about. I know that everytime we hang out we just click we always have but something about tonight feels different. LOL

Exactly my point and why I was being a bit silly...make sure he knows that things are starting from a different point.
If you don`t you may find yourself trapped in a painful limbo of feelings.

I'm just worried I might hurt him again. He didn't take it well when I started dating my ex-boyfriend. And upto the point I told him about ex-B I didn't even know his feeling where involved. I'm very bad about talks involving emotions lol.

Well,identifying a "problem" is the first step towards fixing or correcting it.
Think about what you wrote there for a second.
He had feelings for you that you didn`t catch on to or let yourself catch on to.
Now you admit to having feelings for him and all indications are he still has them for you.
That is half the battle over with so you really should have nothing to lose.

Back to the strong,independent woman we have discussed in other threads,if you want to be that here is the time to be it.
It clearly comes at a level of risk and that needs to be understood and accepted.

It boils down to where you are at as a person and how comfortable you are with yourself.
This is simply another step forward in life. :flowerforyou: