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Carl, leave me alone!!! :grumble:
I would have told Jason to come. I don't care. I would have been a bit nervous but I would have told friend lover a guy I'm interested is here, I'll be right back. No problemo and go talk to Jason for a bit. I'd introduce them and be flirty with J. See???
I keep looking at my picture and wondering where the hell is my bicep muscle? I know I have them!
I really am not trying to pick or make anyone upset.:flowerforyou:
Just food for thought and then I will leave it but this...I would have been a bit nervous but I would have told friend lover a guy I'm interested is here, I'll be right back.
...may not be how you meant it but it sounds like you would be hanging with the friend like he was a date and kind of leaving Jason as the friend off to the side.
Sorry if I misread that.0 -
Carl, leave me alone!!! :grumble:
I would have told Jason to come. I don't care. I would have been a bit nervous but I would have told friend lover a guy I'm interested is here, I'll be right back. No problemo and go talk to Jason for a bit. I'd introduce them and be flirty with J. See???
I keep looking at my picture and wondering where the hell is my bicep muscle? I know I have them!
I don't think that is what Carl is asking. I am curious to know if you would break a date with guy-friend to hang out with Jason?0 -
No I wouldn't break a date with FL (I'm going to start abbreviating friend lover) because he's my friend and I don't break plans with my friends for guys/ dates.
I would definately make it obvious I was there with FL as a friend and I would probably spend 50% of my time with J, flirting.
It'd be awkward though!! Thank goodness it isn't going to happen.
Hmm good question.0 -
No I wouldn't break a date with FL (I'm going to start abbreviating friend lover) because he's my friend and I don't break plans with my friends for guys/ dates.
I would definately make it obvious I was there with FL as a friend and I would probably spend 50% of my time with J, flirting.
It'd be awkward though!! Thank goodness it isn't going to happen.
Hmm good question.
Are you certain that FL wouldn't break a date with you to hang out with someone else? Honestly, if FL was that great of a friend and you told him that you wanted to do something else with a guy that you have real prospects with, I would think he would understand.0 -
You are the sweetest woman ever! Try not to read too far into the event. The event being you had a discussion with him. Consider smiles were exchanged, possible light flirting, and attempts at furthering said conversations. Never know what tomorrow may hold for you! :flowerforyou:0
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No, I actually don't think he'd do that to me.
I've told ya'll this before but I have no idea if he's dated anybody else since he's been here. I haven't asked. I do know that when he first moved here he mentioned how the only girls on POF that seemed worthy to talk to were me and some other chick in another nearby city. He's gone there for work so it's possible he's gone out with her but we're friends on FB and sometimes I stalk *hehe* and there's nobody new on there. There's pictures of him and I plastered all over his wall, etc. So if he did meet her, it was obviously nothing.
He's never broken any plans with me or treated me as 2nd best. He has told me several times in regular conversation how I'm the only one he really hangs out with and definately the only one that's been to his place so I assume he hasn't dated anybody serious besides me.
I think he'd understand but it'd probably catch him off guard because we simply never bring up our dating lives with one another. Plus we spend so much time with each other he'd probably wonder how I found the time to meet other guys. I do casually bring up guys buying me drinks or I'll tell him how I was dancing with a guy but that's as far as that goes.0 -
No, I actually don't think he'd do that to me.
I've told ya'll this before but I have no idea if he's dated anybody else since he's been here. I haven't asked. I do know that when he first moved here he mentioned how the only girls on POF that seemed worthy to talk to were me and some other chick in another nearby city. He's gone there for work so it's possible he's gone out with her but we're friends on FB and sometimes I stalk *hehe* and there's nobody new on there. There's pictures of him and I plastered all over his wall, etc. So if he did meet her, it was obviously nothing.
He's never broken any plans with me or treated me as 2nd best. He has told me several times in regular conversation how I'm the only one he really hangs out with and definately the only one that's been to his place so I assume he hasn't dated anybody serious besides me.
I think he'd understand but it'd probably catch him off guard because we simply never bring up our dating lives with one another. Plus we spend so much time with each other he'd probably wonder how I found the time to meet other guys. I do casually bring up guys buying me drinks or I'll tell him how I was dancing with a guy but that's as far as that goes.
I just think that if Jason is familiar with FL, then maybe he believes you are unavailable. Or maybe you have made yourself appear unavailable. I don't doubt he picked up on your body language when he asked who you were going to the concert with.0 -
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Cute socks
Well done on the talk - he's interested
Your pissy cos your head is being sensible re FL and your heart isn't getting it's own way
He will have seen the defensive reaction when he asked who you were going with - FL is in the way, again. If it was someone else you could have invited him too, or inviting him may have led to him asking you out.
Not to say you should do anything about it, just don't want you to kid yourself about what is going on.0 -
Lorro, you're right. The thought flashed in my mind to invite him but then FL came to mind and that sort of killed it. NOT because I won't go out with anybody else but just because it'd be awkward. Or maybe because I like being with FL? :sad:
I'm hopeless.
I would totally go out with J if he asks. And if I were going with a friend- Angela or something I would have asked J to come. BUT J did say he didn't go to concerts like that because it can get a little crazy.
I'm pissy because yes what you said but also because I've been seriously twirly/ horny/ whatever (TMI I KNOW) for a week now. :mad: I get like this and then it just dies on its own lol.0 -
And I know you think he is wonderful, but I'm still on the fence. I think FL is still taking advantage of your feelings for him.0
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I'm pissy because yes what you said but also because I've been seriously twirly/ horny/ whatever (TMI I KNOW) for a week now. :mad: I get like this and then it just dies on its own lol.
You wouldn't be this twirly if you'd seen FL last night and had a repeat of your last date. The heart is a stealth fighter, it's pulling out all the stops to set the scene for your next date which you will pretend is not a date with FL.
Enjoy! :happy: 0 -
I see FL tonight. We're going to the show then dancing.
I think the whole pool thing/ cuddling made me super twirly (without me realizing) and physically crave more. :mad:0 -
YAYYYYYYYY! So we have his name and some conversation. I love that you are already calling him J. lol.
First things first .. you looked ADORABLE!
Guys are slower than slow. I can't believe he didn't ask you to marry him! smh .. men. lol.
I am proud of you! This is a great step in the right direction! If anything it is giving you more experience to take to your next man! lol. Damn old man .. can't he tell when a chick is trying to get her groove on??? I truly think if he were married he wouldn't give you the time of day. Why would he .. and he has to be catching some sort of vibe from you .. if he was married I would think he would wear his ring. No?0 -
Well he lifts weights.. don't guys have to take off their ring?0
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I see FL tonight. We're going to the show then dancing.
I think the whole pool thing/ cuddling made me super twirly (without me realizing) and physically crave more. :mad:
I hate being twirly and having no where to go with it...lol. If FL was REALLY your friend he would take care of that for you .. just sayinnnnnnn., lol0 -
I would think even if just once to show you that he was married ... I am dying to know! lol0
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I just went to chit chat forum and asked lol.0
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I see FL tonight. We're going to the show then dancing.
I think the whole pool thing/ cuddling made me super twirly (without me realizing) and physically crave more. :mad:
I hate being twirly and having no where to go with it...lol. If FL was REALLY your friend he would take care of that for you .. just sayinnnnnnn., lol
I'm already crazy w/o it.. can you imagine how insane I'd be if we were doing that?? I'd be a hot mess. No way could I do that with him and keep my cool.0 -
hey you did good to talk with him and I gotta say your rocking those rainbow socks ... If you guys run into each other a lot at the gym then you'll get another chance so take it slow and then pounce when the time feels right 0
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First, you look super cute! And second, if this is someone you see regularly, why the rush? Making initial contact so you are now on a first name basis was probably the hardest part. Now you have topics to talk about every time you see him at the gym. Just be patient, even though it's hard.0
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Mmm pounce. That's a good word.
Meeeeeeeeow.0 -
First, you look super cute! And second, if this is someone you see regularly, why the rush? Making initial contact so you are now on a first name basis was probably the hardest part. Now you have topics to talk about every time you see him at the gym. Just be patient, even though it's hard.
I'm rushing because um, because if you've read my previous posts I need to be exclusive before _____________.
:flowerforyou: :blushing:
I'm kidding. Sort of.0 -
First, you look super cute! And second, if this is someone you see regularly, why the rush? Making initial contact so you are now on a first name basis was probably the hardest part. Now you have topics to talk about every time you see him at the gym. Just be patient, even though it's hard.
I'm rushing because um, because if you've read my previous posts I need to be exclusive before _____________. :flowerforyou: :blushing:
I'm kidding. Sort of.
Yes, I remember, LOL. Still, proud of you for taking the first step!0 -
I see FL tonight. We're going to the show then dancing.
I think the whole pool thing/ cuddling made me super twirly (without me realizing) and physically crave more. :mad:
Yep, you had your fix and now you want more. Anticipatory Twirl: the worst kind.0 -
when we go dancing tonight, i'll just rub my butt on him from behind.. :devil: innocent!
i'm hyper today. :drinker:0 -
Gah! What is FL problem?! You're hot and sound super fun! If Gym Guy asks you out, totally drop FL like a sack of potatoes! :P0
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Gah! What is FL problem?! You're hot and sound super fun! If Gym Guy asks you out, totally drop FL like a sack of potatoes! :P
aww :blushing: thank you.
I've come to the conclusion that he's an idiot. Plain and simple. Good, cool friend but an idiot. I'm the best damn thing that could have happened to him.0 -
You look awesome! Love the socks, definitely.
My advice: Have fun with FL tonight. Let things go with the flow. When you see J at the gym tomorrow, just be blunt.
"Look, I don't wanna beat around the bush here. Are you single?"
And take it from there. Normally the blunt ice breaker is the hardest thing to say, but then after it's over the rest of the conversation isn't so nerve-wracking.
If he says he is single, say, "Awesome, me too.." and then maybe play a little coy. Maybe ask him what his plans are this weekend.
If he says he's married, say "Aw, well that's cool. Your wife is a lucky lady," then carry on with your workout. 0
