Absent Kids

lorro

Do any of you with kids find it hard when they go away on holiday with your ex? Mine have only been gone 36 hrs and already I miss them soooooo much! It's always the same - I do really appreciate the time to do things and have stacks of fun planned with my friends. I'll enjoy it but I know that by Thursday I'll be missing them so much I can't look at anyone else's children without a sharp stabbing pain in the heart :sad: Does anyone else find it this difficult? Interestingly, if I go away I'm usually much better - it's something to do with being at home where they usually are. I should have gone on holiday myself :grumble:

AllanMisner

I used to crash emotionally ever time I dropped my daughter off with her mother. I'd like to say it gets easier with time, but that isn't true. When they get older can can email/facebook/tweet/whatever the heck is next, that helps some.

*hugs*

lorro

You're right, it doesn't get easier with time - they've been going away at least three times a year for the last 7 years. They are 11 and 13 so stay in touch when they are at his house, but on holidays they go camping in Wales to a place with no mobile signal :frown: . Thanks Allan.

Katefab26

Awww *hugs*

JanieJack

awww, my heart goes out to you!! I remember the first time my little man went to visit his father- I was miserable the whole 2 weeks (Christmas time). And the second time, I was still miserable. For the last 8 months I've had a job that requires me to take about 2 short trips a month and you would think I'm having a blast, but I always stress about my baby being with my friends... but it's NOTHING like when he goes to visit his father (who only calls him maybe every 2 months and only sees him maybe 1-2 times a year). Hang in there. {{{{hugs}}}}

lorro

Thanks, you guys are great :flowerforyou: I'm feeling better this morning :bigsmile:

shamrck44

XH only takes him for a few hours at a time right now and even at that I worry the whole time. It is nice to get some peace and actually clean but I still miss him terribly.

mnwalkingqueen

My ex never takes my son...but when he goes to his grandparents house I really enjoy it. My kid is 15 though so it is a refresher to have him gone once in awhile.

pa_jorg

No kids here, so I can't exactly relate, but sending hugs your way!

jenbit

I'm sorry your having a hard time of it.:flowerforyou:

My ex and I have jiont custody which means the kids are at his house for a week and then at mine for a week. We've been doing it this way for almost 6 years now. It works really well cause by thursday when I'm super missing my kids I know they will be back on friday. :bigsmile: Plus he only lives 15 minutes from my house. I know I would go crazy if they were gone for 2 weeks or something though. All I can say is try to keep busy

Meghan0116

My son is with his father 1-2 days a week and never longer. I miss him like crazy when he is gone and I call a lot. lol

lorro

Thanks everyone :flowerforyou: