Okay its mushy Tuesday from daddy

Z_I_L_L_A

I have to vent, I have a 17 year old daughter (she is my angel from god) and a son 12 years old ( he is really my best little buddy). So here goes my vent and you can comment or not but its something I have to get out.

I give the kids freedom with responsibility, they don't take advantage of my trust in them and they can keep their freedom. So far this way has worked for me. I give them their space and I think they like that. But every now and then you need a hug or daddy I love you because of the space and freedom. They don't know that you have hurt your heart a little to give them these things. Its like push the bird out of the nest to see them fly but they don't come back to hug you for doing that for them, if that makes since. Bottom line the space and freedom that they require to grow causes you pain.

I don't embarass them by hangin around them when their friends are around. Even though I want to. I try to take care of all their needs and wants even though they do not recognize that I'm the only one that does this 100%. I feel bad if there is something that they wanted and I didn't take care of it. I have no life except for them and by the time they leave the nest I will not be needed anymore.

Love Daddy

JanieJack

awww... my heart goes out to you. It is soooo tough when you pour all into your kids and they haven't yet learned to give back.

Hang in there! They'll be home soon.

Z_I_L_L_A

Thanks, I worked out for 3 hours, then did the lawn and then took a shower Saturday. I was tired and fell asleep. When I woke my daughter and son were napping with me. My daughter must be going to miss her daddy because she was asleep with her head on my chest. That was sweet and then Sunday she went with her friends to Panama City for Spring break. So me and my boy have gone to watch movies and eat popcorn. Tough being a single parent sometimes. But then there are moments like the nap that make it all worth it.

cowsstealmythong

Tough being a single parent sometimes. But then there are moments like the nap that make it all worth it.

This. Although my child is still a toddler, I don't want to imagine her growing up. Even though she is right before my eyes.

I'm 25 and still see my parents several times a week and make sure to give them loves. You've got a bit to go with your son, but they'll always love you, and I'm sure will be sure to remind you from time to time.

Z_I_L_L_A

When you have no SO you get used to the kids being there constantly. The daughter is gone for a week and the son is having fun with just me. But I do miss her and wonder is this how its going to be when she leaves for college.

JanieJack

is this how its going to be when she leaves for college.

Maybe, but she will also return to you as her rock, as if tethered to you by love.

Doreen_Murray

This was an awesome MFP conversation. Loved it. This is the first Easter I'll have with my son since he was born because his dad is just more and more absent these days and just completely bailed on Easter with no explanation. I'm so sad for my son, but I'm happy to have him for Easter! I'm at the point of really needing a break and he obviously doesn't understand that, but how awesome it will be to wake up on Sunday with his Easter basket waiting for him! I know that was a little off topic, but just wanted to share since it has been on my mind all week! :flowerforyou:

Z_I_L_L_A

JJ she is stretching her umbilical cord and I feel it tugging on me, lol. As much as younger parents hate the 2am feedings, diaper changes, being sick, etc. By the time your kids get to be older teens you will wish that they were still in diapers. I'd trade anything to go back and relive the 2am feedings or the burping cuz their wittle tummy hurts and they fall a sleep on my chest like a little rabbit. Those days are gone, oh well maybe I can borrow someone else's kid when they wanna go out for dinner. Okay I'm post for jobs. Zilla(big teddy bear baby sitter) looking for work. Ha ha ha That would be funny as hell if I showed up at the front door and the parents saw me and said "Yes, may I help you" and I say "I'm the baby sitter". They would be like holy crap its The Pacifier.

JanieJack

. Zilla(big teddy bear baby sitter) looking for work. Ha ha ha That would be funny as hell if I showed up at the front door and the parents saw me and said "Yes, may I help you" and I say "I'm the baby sitter". They would be like holy crap its The Pacifier.

The Pacifier!

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Hey, until mine grows up, anytime you wanna relive the younger days, you're welcome to him ;-)